A few days ago, Ran Yingying shared her inspirational experience of going ashore to Peking University during pregnancy on social platforms.
It was supposed to be a thing to congratulate, and most of the spectators focused on admiration.
However, there were some discordant voices in the comment area.
Some netizens commented: "It's just an MBA, what can I take the exam in three months? I can buy it with any money", questioning her academic qualifications.
What's more, using the topic to criticize her appearance is to refuse to admit her excellence.
"Changed your head, exaggerated bust, exaggerated makeup, everything."
Sour, quite sour.
You must know that although Ran Yingying is well-known as the "wife of champion boxing champion Zou Shiming", she herself has always been super good.
Zunyi City won the high school entrance examination, was admitted to the University of International Business and Economics in the college entrance examination, and became the host of CCTV Securities Information Channel after graduation......
Any experience is enough to make people praise "amazing".
So for the matter of going ashore to Peking University during pregnancy, I think it belongs to my sister's normal ability, in addition to admiration and appreciation.
But unexpectedly, because she was too good, 40-year-old Ran Yingying was scolded again miserably.
As the saying goes, "Behind a successful man there must be a great woman".
This sentence is used to describe Ran Yingying, which is very appropriate.
As a boxing champion, Zou Shiming is busy with training and competitions all year round, and Ran Yingying takes care of the family's affairs.
From weddings to moving, cooking, and coaxing children......
Zou Shiming did not participate in the whole process, Ran Yingying was both a mother and a father, supporting a family by herself without complaints.
To tell the truth, very few girls can do Ran Yingying's job for their families.
Zou Shiming has a lot of pressure in training, his body is not good and his sleep is shallow, in order to let him rest well at home, Ran Yingying revealed that the two couples have been sleeping in separate beds for three years.
Zou Shiming's boxing, physical injuries are commonplace, and he is prone to Parkinson's disease in the future.
Knowing that umbilical cord blood could cure Parkinson's, Ran Yingying resolutely gave birth to three children and kept the umbilical cord blood despite the danger of removing the uterus.
Sister really, she loves it so much! (We don't advocate this kind of risky behavior)
One person with three children is not an ordinary tiredness.
But she did it with a superhuman will, often holding one on her back, and having to do housework single-handedly.
And Ran Yingying not only takes good care of the children, but also can't find fault in education.
The deepest impression is that her son Xuanxuan wasted food, and she reprimanded the children seriously, with three super positive views:
"Why are you wasting food, it's all your dad punching and punching. ”
On the tiger pounce, countless men worshipped Liu Yifei, Gao Yuanyuan, and Jia Jingwen as goddesses.
When talking about what kind of woman she would choose to marry, Ran Yingying became the answer to the high vote.
But if you regard her as a traditional housewife who is willing to sacrifice for her husband and children, or a wife behind a successful man, it is really underestimating Ran Yingying.
She said that Peking University was her dream when she was a student, and she just had nothing to do when she was pregnant, so she tried to take the Peking University exam.
"This is the first time in my life that I have been a mother, and I should do something meaningful with my baby. ”
As a result, he was not only admitted to the MBA of Guanghua School of Economics and Management of Peking University, but also won the scholarship with the first place.
After she got married, she quit her job as a CCTV host, and it seemed that she had given up her career for her family.
But people used their brains to expand their husband's dreams into their new career territory.
On the field, she became Zou Shiming's full-time agent, serving as a driver, translator, massage, and nutrition ...... A number of jobs, accompany him to the professional boxing championship.
Zou Shiming suffered an eye injury and was almost blind, facing the dilemma of difficult retirement and transformation.
She did everything possible to ask for the phone number of Director Xie Dikui.
Mao Sui recommended herself to let her husband take her son Xuanxuan to the reality show "Where Are You Going, Dad", which made the family popular out of the circle.
Zou Shiming wanted to open a boxing gym, she pulled investment, chose a venue, implemented every job, and helped him complete his dream.
I said something not so good, even if the two get married one day, it will not be Ran Yingying who should cry, but Zou Shiming.
Because, my sister's ability is really good.
Holding the equity of 13 companies, with a net worth of more than 100 million, she is also the world's first female (regional) president under the age of 40 of the World Boxing Council WBC.
Zou Shiming can't do without her at all.
Not only can you keep the family in order, but also control the career direction and economic power of the whole family, and you can also do a good job of realizing your self-worth......
has the ability and courage to live like Ran Yingying, I don't know how many modern women yearn for life.
But even so, people's criticism of her has never stopped.
Everyone can always find fault with Ran Yingying from all kinds of things, trying to prove that this woman is not perfect enough.
The clothing is not good enough, and it is complained that it is a "nouveau riche aesthetic";
Dress sexily to show a good figure, that is, "scheming girl";
is keen on beautifying P pictures, and was ridiculed for "except for the gender is true, everything else is fake"......
So much so that this time Ran Yingying shared her experience of going ashore to Peking University during pregnancy, and countless people pointed fingers at her appearance and started a group crusade.
Some people complained that she didn't look like a capable Kochi woman at all with this plastic surgery face.
Some people also bluntly said that no matter how good she is, she just doesn't like her heavy makeup.
Excuse me ??Who dictates what Kochi women should look like?What does it have to do with you about how you like to dress up?
People live so strongly, where do they care about your liking!!
To say that Ran Yingying has caused so many bad comments, is she really doing something wrong?
Not really.
There are too many people who habitually regard the first impression as the whole of a person, and they habitually put the shackles of "perfect woman" on everyone.
Did it all feel all too familiar to her?
Our good friend Gu Ailing, an Olympic champion, is a young and beautiful girl, with excellent ability.
But the public's stigmatization of her has never been less.
She posted her Stanford all-A transcript, and there would be so-called insiders who ridiculed her for taking "water courses" and bragging about her grades;
recorded her daily efforts, and some people complained that she was setting up a "volume king" persona;
The relationship with her foreign amateur boyfriend was exposed, and some people were annoyed and angry, deliberately belittling her:
Gu Ailing has no one in our village.
Zhu Wenqi, a 28-year-old female doctor from Oxford, is beautiful, exquisite, young, rich and talented.
When she announced that she had graduated from the Department of Mathematical Modelling with the first grade in Oxford.
She was greeted not by applause and praise, but by a flood of doubts:
Such dazzling results must be pretended.
Someone gave her a set of undergraduate-level math problems and asked her to prove her innocence.
Zhu Wenqi's question was made, but what she got was still not affirmation, but more malice-
"She looked perfect, but I didn't like it when she drank and wore fur. ”
"She's not serious in a bathing suit, she doesn't look like a doctor. ”
It's ridiculous, but it's also true.
Because almost all women grow up in such a disciplined environment.
A girl with excellent grades should be plain and plainly dressed.
On the contrary, women who are outstanding-looking and love to dress up will be considered as vases with insufficient ability on campus and in the workplace.
People's evaluation of women has always been permeated with various traditional stereotypes.
is like what my mother said in the movie "Barbie":
"We have to be impeccable at all times, you have to be thin and not too thin, you have to be rich, but you can't open your mouth to ask for money, you have to climb up, but you can't rely on your wrists, you have to lead, but you can't suppress other people's ideas......"
Another example is that Ran Yingying told Zou Shiming about her wish to be admitted to Peking University.
His first reaction was not encouragement, but blow: You don't need to toss so much when you are pregnant, right?
It can be good, but it doesn't have to be too good.
Since you want to be a great wife and mother, you must be virtuous and virtuous, conservative and calm, not wear heavy makeup, and have too much self-......
The outside world has too many expectations for Ran Yingying.
But those are not the lives that Ran Yingying wants to live.
Fortunately, she was not hit by the people around her, nor did she live in the expectations of netizens.
She came out of the mountains of Guizhou to get to where she is today, and it is by no means relying on a few words of ridicule and complaining from others.
It's the strength of the heart, the hard work of oneself, and the incomparably sober mind.
Everyone is accustomed to being picky about women, but they can't understand the hardships behind them and recognize their own strength.
But in 2024, women no longer need a perfect standard to measure and embarrass themselves.
From the bottom of my heart, my appreciation and recognition of myself is far more valuable than the perfect standard given by the outside world.
Because no matter what kind of posture life blooms, it has its unique meaning.
I hope that if someone questions your life choices and denies your beautiful bloom, they can also reply as firmly and forcefully as Ran Yingying:
Even if you reach the age of 80, you still have to wear high heels, wear the most beautiful clothes, and grow old happily.