After a breakup, there is a big difference between a man's psychology and a woman's psychology. Understanding a man's psychological activity after a breakup is important for us to save our relationship or improve the way we manage our relationships.
Only by knowing what he is thinking will we know what adjustments we need to make in the future.
For example, when many girls just broke up, they felt that this man was as painful as themselves, so they wanted to get back together, but in the end they were rejected by others. Why?
First, the degree of suffering is different.
Since the man proposed to break up with you, he has been prepared for a long time, that is, we are talking about premeditated. And for you, it was sudden, right? You were shot in the back.
You are planning how you will live in the future, what car you will buy, what house you will live in, and what kind of wedding you will have in the future. And what about him, he's planning to break up with you, wedding, don't do it, suddenly.
So the level of your pain is not the same, he is prepared, there is no pain, or not much. And you are sudden, so you are in pain. Don't feel as miserable as you are.
Second, the order of suffering is not the same.
When the woman first started, she was very uncomfortable and painful when she first received the breakup message, and she felt that her dreams were shattered. But after a period of time, after time healing, my heart may not be so uncomfortable.
Men are different, when men break up, because he did it intentionally, he is very relaxed, very proud, and feels that he has finally achieved his goal.
But after a period of time, when the woman is not so painful, the man may enter a period of nostalgia at this time, and he will think of the woman's goodness. I think: Is this breakup a bit hasty?
So everyone should remember that if you just broke up, you can't let go and are in pain, give yourself a period of time, and you will find that it's not a big deal, and time will really heal you everything.
You live well on yourself, and you will find that this man will definitely regret it.
Third, men know how to hide their emotions better.
Why do you say this? I want to tell you that what a man says after a breakup, you should treat it as a fart, and don't care why it is, because men have been taught since childhood that "men don't flick when they have tears".
As for women, her pain will be expressed, for example, in Dream of Red Mansions, how many clips are about Lin Daiyu's crying scene.
So you will find that after a breakup, men will like to say some cruel things that seem ruthless. But is he really like that? No, he's actually in pain, and he's just using these words to hide his emotions.
So what are we going to do at this time?
First of all, don't listen to what He says, what He says, don't believe it, but through this motive of Him to become aware of His true intentions. What do you mean?
For example, if he doesn't want you to come to him, what is his purpose? There are so many possibilities.
There is a possibility that he is afraid that he will be soft-hearted when he sees you;
Or, he may also be struggling, and he also thought a lot last night about whether to break up or not;
Or, he's already seamlessly connected and has a new love and doesn't want you to disturb his life;
Or, when he sees you, he will think of some unhappy things in the past, and he will have a lot of negative emotions.
Possibly. Either way, we need to understand his motives to act, not the kind of why don't you see me, why are you so cruel, I'm so good-looking, why are you so ruthless? It's useless.
This is the mental activity of men. As I said before, if you want to save a relationship, what do you have to do?
What are the three understandings? You must understand yourself, you must understand each other, and what you must understand? Understand what position your relationship is in now.
What is action? To act, to have the right action.
Hopefully, you will know more about the male and thus be able to eat and contain him. If you want to learn more about male psychology, you can buy my course "Interpreting Men's Hearts", study first, and send me a message if you don't understand.