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My name is Zhang Dawei, I am 35 years old and I am a middle school Chinese teacher. My wife Liu Xiaofang and I have been married for 10 years, and we have an 8-year-old daughter named Xiaoyue.
"Dad, where are we going today?" Satsuki asked me.
"Baby, Mom and Dad are going to go through some formalities today. I replied evasively.
Satsuki is a smart and clever child, and she can see that I am a little preoccupied, "Procedures, what procedures?"
"Divorce, divorce?" Satsuki's eyes widened, obviously frightened by my words, "Why?
Satsuki lowered her head, and I saw that her eyes were already red. I knew she must be sad, but I couldn't lie to her.
At this moment, Xiao Fang came downstairs. "Let's go, it's time to go. She said, her eyes a little evasive.
I nodded, and our family of three silently set out on the road. Satsuki didn't speak all the way, and the atmosphere was a little depressing.
When we got to the Civil Affairs Bureau, the staff asked us to fill out some forms. I picked up the pen and was about to fill it out, when Xiaofang suddenly said, "Oops, I forgot to bring a pen." "
"It's okay, use mine. I handed over a pen.
Xiao Fang shook her head, "No, I'll go upstairs and get a new one." With that, he stood up.
I watched her back fade away, and suddenly I felt a sense of loss. Once upon a time, how loving we were, and now we have come to this point. My heart is filled with sadness and regret that neither of us managed this marriage properly.
Just then, I heard a loud bang from upstairs, like a gunshot! I quickly rushed upstairs and saw Xiaofang lying in a pool of blood with a bloody hole in her chest! I was stupid and shouted for help.
"Xiao Fang! Xiao Fang! What's wrong with you? Who did it? Call an ambulance!" I cried out, tears welling up in my eyes.
Soon, police and ambulances arrived at the scene. It's a pity that Xiao Fang is no longer breathing. The police began to investigate the scene, and I witnessed everything, but there was nothing I could do to change it. My mind went blank, and everything in front of me was like a nightmare. My closest people left me like this, and the last time we saw each other was in the cold Civil Affairs Bureau.
Through a series of memories, I gradually recalled the bits and pieces of me and Xiaofang. In the beginning, we were the most loving couple on campus, and everyone envied us. I remember back then, I always gave flowers to Xiaofang after work, and then we went for a walk in the park hand in hand. Xiao Fang is always careful to prepare a nutritious dinner for me.
"Honey, are you working overtime again today? Come and try the braised pork I made. Xiao Fang would say so gently.
However, as time went on, the pressures of work and life led us to endless quarrels. Satsuki's education problem has also become a new source of conflict for us.
"You're a workaholic and never care about your family!" Xiao Fang often accuses me of this.
"What about you, you put all your attention on Satsuki, isn't our relationship any longer important?" I'll contradict her.
We've tried to start all over again countless times, but we've always failed. Once, I bought a large bouquet of roses with the intention of re-pursuing Xiaofang's heart on her birthday. However, I worked too long that night, and I didn't rush home until midnight, and I saw Xiaofang sitting on the sofa with tears on her face, and the roses had withered.
Police quickly zeroed in on several suspects and began interrogations. In the end, the truth was revealed: it turned out that it was a voyeur who took a fancy to Xiaofang's beauty and had been secretly following her. He found out that Xiaofang was going to divorce and suspected that she would soon remarry, so he decided to kill her on the day of her divorce. The murderer was a young man with a twisted personality and cunning modus operandi.
When I learned the truth, I was filled with anger and sadness. I can't wait to kill that perverted murderer with my own hands! How could my wife, who is such a gentle and virtuous woman, suffer such misfortune? I began to doubt life and question the fairness and justice of this world.
"You brute, how can you do this to my wife, is she doing anything wrong to you?" In court, I rebuked the murderer harshly.
"She's so beautiful, I'm in love with her. But she wants to leave you, and I'm afraid she'll marry someone else, so I have to do it. The murderer said expressionlessly.
"You're crazy! That's why you took her life? Do you have a heart?" I was trembling with anger.
Satsuki was hit hard. She loved her mother so much, and she was the most important person in the world to her. She couldn't accept the sudden death of her mother, and her innocent little heart was traumatized beyond the wrist. She cried all day and refused to eat, and I couldn't comfort her in any words.
"Baby, Mommy is gone, but she'll always love you. I said to her with red eyes, "Mom wants you to survive bravely." "
Satsuki just shook her head vigorously, her eyes were dull, as if she had lost the courage to survive. Seeing her like this, my heart felt as if it had been cut by countless sharp knives, and my heart ached.
As the investigation deepened, the police gradually discovered that the murderer was not a simple perverted murderer, and there was a tragic family encounter hidden behind him. His parents were a divorced couple, and his mother was married to a violent stepfather. Growing up, he witnessed too much domestic violence and misfortune, which caused his extremely distorted attitude towards marriage and family.
"I grew up watching my mom get beaten up by that brute stepdad and she couldn't do anything about it. During the interrogation, the murderer said with tears in his eyes, "I swore that I would not let the woman I fell in love with suffer like this, so I killed her." "
The policeman shook his head helplessly, "However, you don't know anything about her and her husband. Why did you decide to kill her?"
The murderer lowered his head and said in a firm tone: "As long as she divorces, sooner or later she will marry another man and then suffer from domestic violence again." I'm saving her!"
When I heard the news, I was devastated. I began to reflect on whether my attitude towards marriage was also skewed? Did I expect marriage too ideally, but neglected the run-in and tolerance in marriage? I began to realize that if I had been more considerate of Xiaofang, maybe she would not have been killed. I began to hate myself for being selfish and complacent, and I understood that marriage needs to be managed by both parties, and that mutual tolerance and understanding are required.
"I'm sorry, Xiaofang. It's that I'm too stubborn, and I should have worked harder to manage our relationship. I stood alone in front of Xiaofang's grave and burst into tears, "If I can, I hope to start over and cherish you well." "
I began to reflect on my own shortcomings as a husband. Xiaofang has repeatedly asked the two of us to spend more intimate time, but I always put work first and ignored her requests. Once, she suggested that we could go on a trip to relax, but I dismissed it by saying, "How can you have so much free time now? "
Looking back on these past events, how stupid and selfish I was. We could have had a better married life, if only I could empathize with Xiaofang's feelings at that time.
Through this tragedy, we can think deeply about the meaning of marriage. Marriage is not just a union of two people, but also a responsibility and commitment. We need to learn to respect, be considerate and tolerant of each other, rather than rest on our laurels. Only by managing a marriage with love and patience can it be long and happy.
I'm starting to realize that divorce isn't the best way to solve the problem, it just brings more hurt and pain. I was going to break up with Xiaofang, if we really divorced at that time, wouldn't she have been killed?
"Dad, are you okay?" Satsuki asked me worriedly. Her eyes had been dark for months, but at least she was slowly starting to emerge from the gloom.
"Dad is fine, just reflecting on life. I hugged Xiaoyue, tears welling up in my eyes again, "Baby, whether you get married in the future or not, Dad hopes that you can know how to cherish the people in front of you and treat the people you love with tolerance and understanding." "
Satsuki nodded, she seemed to have begun to understand this truth. As a father, I want to teach her from my own experience that she will not repeat the mistakes I made back then.
I began to wonder if there was a chance to do something for Xiaofang, even if it was a small thing, as long as it could express my inner apologies. Perhaps, I could go to her grave every year and offer her favorite kind of flowers. Or fund some related public welfare organizations, so that more people can value the preciousness of family and marriage.
In any case, I will spend the rest of my life making up for my mistakes and passing on the right values. I have lost the person closest to me, and the pain will undoubtedly stay with me for the rest of my life, but I still have to face life with a positive attitude, which is what Xiaofang once wanted.
One sunny day a few years later, I came to Xiaofang's grave again alone. I took a deep breath and tried to keep myself calm.
"My dear, I'm coming to see you again. I whispered, placing a bouquet of brightly colored roses in front of the tombstone, "Your favorite flower, I'll prepare it for you every time." "
"You see, our daughter has grown so big, I can't believe it. I proudly said, "She is so kind and upright, I believe she will be a very good social worker." "
"You see, our story inspires a lot of people. I pointed to a passage in the book and said to Xiaofang, "Marriage is not a matter of two people, it is about the whole family and the whole society. We should cherish marriage with love and tolerance, and take care of our families with actions. "
I have also set up a small non-profit organization dedicated to providing shelter and counselling to women and children who are victims of domestic violence. Every time I see those poor victims, my heart is torn apart. I am determined to give them hope and not let them repeat the mistakes of me and Xiaofang.
"You see, I'm trying to live up to what we wanted back then. I caressed Xiaofang's tombstone with a firm look in my eyes, "I will continue like this until the last moment of my life." "
Until now, every time I think of Xiaofang's murder that day, my heart still hurts. That scene seemed to recur right in front of her eyes: Xiao Fang collapsed to the ground, the blood hole in her chest made her life pass so quickly. I will never forget the helplessness and sadness of that time, the despair of losing a loved one almost crushed me.
However, I did not give up. It was Xiaofang's death that made me understand the meaning and value of life. I want to use my actions to defend justice, so that more people can live happily and happily without the harm of domestic violence and marital violence.
"Xiaofang, Xiaofang, don't worry, I will try to live. I stared at her picture on the tombstone, tears welling up in the corners of my eyes, "With your blessings, I will definitely be able to go further." "
I stood up, took a deep breath, and pulled myself back together. The sun shines warmly on me, as if it is giving me strength and blessings. I took one last look at Xiao Fang's tombstone, turned around and left the cemetery, and embarked on a new journey.
Although Xiaofang's death brought me great trauma, it also allowed me to start a new journey in life. I learned the value of marriage and family, and the importance of tolerance and tolerance. It was through that tragedy that I made up my mind to bring love and hope to more people.
Marriage should not only be a matter of two people, it is about the whole family and the whole society. A happy marriage can not only bring happiness to both parties, but also set a good example for children and promote social harmony and stability. On the contrary, a violent and cold marriage will not only hurt both parties, but also bring a lifelong shadow to the children.
We need to take care of our marriage with love and patience, and treat each other with tolerance and understanding. Any conflict can be communicated and resolved, and divorce is not the best way to solve the problem. I have experienced first-hand the trauma of divorce in the family, and I have seen the pain of too many women and children who are victims of domestic violence. Therefore, I have strengthened my determination to promote marriage and family education.
Through books, lectures, and charity activities, I spread my stories and experiences to more people. I hope that everyone can learn from this lesson and learn to value the people in front of them and treat their families with love and understanding. Only in this way can our society be truly healthy and harmonious.
Every time I see a loving couple or a happy family, my heart is full of joy. I told myself that this is what I have been striving for, and this is what marriage and family should look like. As long as there are more such families in society, Xiaofang's death will not be sacrificed in vain.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, Satsuki has also started a family, and she has followed my teachings to love and understand each other with her husband. Looking at Xiaoyue's happy family, my heart is mixed. I am glad that she can understand the value of marriage, and I am grateful that Xiaofang's spirit has been guiding us.
"Mom, you must be proud of me in the Spirit of Heaven, right?" Satsuki said to the sky, "I will run this family with love and tolerance just like you." "
I nodded slightly, tears welling up in the corners of my eyes. Yes, Xiaofang's spirit is immortal, and her death has not been wasted. Her last wish will eventually be passed down from generation to generation through me and Xiaoyue, bringing more warmth and hope to this world.