Early childhood is especially important when children grow up. Especially young boys, they are prone to making mistakes at this stage because they are young. So, what should parents do when a little boy makes a mistake?
For example, there is a young boy who is playing football in the neighborhood and accidentally kicks the ball into the window of someone's house, and the glass breaks. When his parents found out, they immediately apologized and replaced it with a new piece of glass, but scolded him when they got home.
But if it's in the United States, it's a different way for parents. A little American boy also kicked and broke the glass, but his parents didn't show up, but the little boy himself sent the new glass and apologized: "I'm sorry, uncle, I broke the glass yesterday, and today I bought a new one for you." Please forgive me, it won't be like this again. ”
Mr. and Mrs. Takahashi accepted the apology, invited him to breakfast, and gave him candy. But the American couple later returned the candy because they felt that the child did not deserve a reward when he made a mistake. The little boy almost spent all his pocket money in order to pay for the glass, and his parents would not help him. If the money is not enough, his parents may lend it to him, but he has to find a way to pay it back, such as helping his neighbors and saving his pocket money.
In China, many parents will apologize for their children, feeling that they love their children. But it's not good, the child won't learn the lesson, and he won't feel responsible. That's why some children always make mistakes repeatedly.
So, wise parents don't take the consequences for their children, but let them take care of themselves. How do you teach children to take responsibility for their mistakes? It is to let them know that if they do something wrong, they have to bear the consequences, so that they can really learn.
I have some tips for young parents
Method 1: Parents can sometimes "wait" when their children make mistakes
Chubby likes to sleep lazily on weekends, and once he slowed down his alarm by an hour, only to forget to turn it back on Monday morning. It's almost class time, and my mother finds that Chubby is still sleeping, and she understands when she looks at the alarm clock. But his mother didn't wake him up right away. When Chubby arrived at school, he found that he had missed a class and was criticized badly by the teacher.
When he got home, Chubby blamed his mother for not calling him. But my mother said, "Chubby, you should check the alarm clock every day before going to bed, and you can't always rely on others to wake you up." You have to learn to take responsibility for yourself, and you have to reflect on what you have done wrong. "Actually, children always want to be reminded of them, but no one can remind them all the time. Therefore, let children learn to remind themselves and reflect on themselves when they make mistakes, so that they can grow better.
Method 2: Parents should be good role models for boys
There was a dad who was playing with his children on the roof of the building and accidentally broke the neighbor's water heater, and no one knew about it at the time. The father wanted to run away, but when he saw the child standing there and was overwhelmed, he decided to call the neighbor, admit the mistake, and say that it would be fixed.
Afterwards, he told the child that he had to face the wrong things bravely and not run away from them. This dad sets a good example for his children. If parents choose to escape, children may feel that mistakes can be concealed or avoided, which is not good for their development. There are many such things in life, and as parents, we must be brave enough to take responsibility and set a good example for our children.
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