In the relationship between the sexes, girls are afraid of being scumbag, because if it hurts a lot, they may meet a scumbag for life.
But we found that a very scummy man often always has a girl by his side who never abandons him, accompanying him, unless he is tired of playing and actively abandons him, otherwise girls can't leave.
Because a very scummy man, although he is scum, he will make women addicted, and it is difficult to leave, not because of how good he is, but because he holds the heart of a woman, so that she wants to leave but can't leave.
Therefore, it is best for women to learn to identify scumbags at the beginning, and when they have no feelings, they should cut off feelings that are destined to not have good results, and don't waste time on unworthy people, so that they can let themselves meet people who are truly worthy.
If a man is a scumbag, no matter how well he pretends and how much he hides himself, there is no way to hide some of his features.
1. Unwilling to pay for women
Why is a man reluctant to pay for a woman? In fact, this has already shown a problem, he just doesn't like this girl, he just needs her, needs her care, needs her liking, needs some value in her, and so on.
If a man really likes a woman, he must be willing to pay for her. He will feel that he is not giving enough and will do his best to show his love.
A man who is not willing to pay for a woman, he has already calculated from the beginning that he will not pay too much for her, so as not to be reluctant to leave her in the future.
They may find all kinds of reasons and excuses, "spent a lot of money on their ex, but in the end she was not with them", "they are afraid that the relationship will not work out", "they will naturally pay after they get married", all of them are excuses.
He just doesn't want to spend money for you, he thinks you're not worth it, such a man, if you are with him, he won't be grateful to you for being sensible, and he won't have any psychological burden when he hurts you in the future, because he didn't pay for you, he didn't suffer at all.
2. Likes to lie
A man who always likes to lie will only have endless lies in the future.
Some men just like to lie, and many times it's some inconsequential little things, obviously he tells the truth and it's nothing, it won't be good, but he chooses to lie.
For example, he came home late, and he lied that he was working overtime, even though he was drinking with his brother.
For example, he went fishing on the weekend and then lied and said that he was going to accompany his brother.
For example, he didn't go home immediately after work, played games in the company, and lied that the leader wouldn't let him go.
If you know that he is lying, he will also glorify his lies, saying that he is afraid that you will be unhappy.
It's all nonsense when he says this, he is afraid that you won't agree to him, afraid that you will hold him and control him, so he will lie to you.
If they all lie to you now, then there will definitely be more lies waiting for you in the future, and maybe there will be big "surprises".
3. There is no sense of boundary between you and the opposite sex
He will have a lot of friends of the opposite sex, and you will find that he takes the initiative to expand the number of friends of the opposite sex, those who have eaten once, or met once, he is very familiar with others, and the ones who fight hotly are 100% scum.
He enjoys the ambiguity with the opposite sex, and does not maintain the sense of boundary with the opposite sex.
For example, they have too close contacts with the opposite sex, and they always play together alone, so that people in the circle misunderstand that they have a good relationship.
For example, there is ambiguous physical contact with the opposite sex, hugging the waist, hooking shoulders, and so on.
For example, making inappropriate jokes with the opposite sex.
A man who has no sense of boundaries with the opposite sex, has a low level of loyalty to his feelings, and he is completely unaware that these actions of his will make his partner insecure. Maybe he knew, but he would do it anyway because he didn't want to hang himself from a tree, so he wouldn't give up the whole forest.
This kind of man has a very high probability of cheating in the future, because it is easy for him to have feelings with the opposite sex.
The above three characteristics, it can be said that as long as there is one, that is, a 100% scumbag, he has no intention of being responsible for you at all, and he does not intend to have a long-term relationship with you.
Really good men won't be like this, they won't have so many little Jiujiu, as long as they acquiesce to a woman, they will concentrate on being good to her, they won't still want to leave, they won't be reluctant to pay, they won't cheat, and they won't raise a spare tire.
Only scumbags would do this, because they didn't intend to be serious in the first place, and when you find these signs in him, you have to be ready to retreat.
Don't give the other person a chance to hurt you, don't let him get close to you to hurt you, so you don't get scum.
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Illustration of the article|Stills from "The End of the Game".