In the hustle and bustle of the city, the stadium is always full of people, full of energy and passion. However, in this dynamic place, Zhang Xiaofan realized the subtleties of interacting with people from a dinner. She understands that there are four sentences that should not be said during meals, and once these four sentences are spoken, they often inadvertently hurt others and destroy the original harmonious atmosphere.
Conclusion first, Zhang Xiaofan knows that at the dinner table, it is not appropriate to talk about the shortcomings of others, show off his achievements, complain about the unfairness of life, and criticize the taste of food. These four sentences are like four invisible walls, once built, they will block the communication and understanding between people.
The story takes place on an ordinary weekend, Zhang Xiaofan and a few friends meet to play basketball in the gymnasium. After a fierce competition, everyone was tired and sweaty, but they also felt happy. After that, the group decided to go to a nearby restaurant for dinner to celebrate this rare moment.
The restaurant has an elegant setting and the dishes are delicious. However, just when everyone was staggering and laughing, one of Zhang Xiaofan's friends, Li Hua, suddenly mentioned the troubles of another friend, Wang Gang, which caused everyone to laugh. Wang Gang's face was suddenly embarrassed, and he was dissatisfied in his heart, but he could only barely cope with it.
Zhang Xiaofan saw it in his eyes, and his heart couldn't help but feel a little ripple. She remembered the bits and pieces of her daily life with her friends, and realized that she had also inadvertently said some hurtful things at the dinner table. She began to reflect on her words and deeds, and decided that she should pay more attention to her words at the dinner table in the future to avoid hurting others.
Soon after, at another dinner, Zhang Xiaofan's other friend, Zhang Qiang, began to show off his recent achievements, his words full of pride and pride. However, his words caused dissatisfaction and disgust among others. Zhang Xiaofan noticed that although Zhang Qiang's words made him proud, they made others feel depressed and lost. She thought to herself that such a show-off would not only not bring each other closer, but would instead alienate the relationship.
The atmosphere at the dinner table gradually became heavy, and Zhang Xiaofan realized that she needed to stand up and break the deadlock. She took a deep breath and said in a gentle tone: "Zhang Qiang, your achievements are indeed remarkable, and we are all happy for you. However, each of us has our own life trajectory and achievements, and there is no need to compare and show off excessively. Let's cherish this opportunity to have dinner and talk more about each other's lives and feelings. ”
Zhang Qiang listened to Zhang Xiaofan's words, and a trace of guilt appeared on his face. Realizing that his words were indeed excessive, he began to change the subject and share his daily life and interesting stories with everyone. As the topic changed, the atmosphere at the dinner table gradually became more relaxed.
However, the good times were short-lived. While everyone was chatting, a friend suddenly began to complain about the injustices in life. His words resonated with others, and for a while, the dinner table was filled with negative emotions. Zhang Xiaofan realized once again that such complaints would only make the atmosphere heavier and could not bring any positive effects.
So, she spoke again and explained: "There will indeed be many unsatisfactory things in life, but complaining will not solve the problem. We should be positive about the challenges and difficulties in life and look for ways to solve them. Let's work together to make life better. ”
Her words made everyone fall into deep thought. Everyone began to reflect on their words, deeds and attitudes, and gradually turned the topic in a more positive and optimistic direction.
Finally, when the meal was served, another friend started to find fault with the bad taste of the meal. Zhang Xiaofan sighed in her heart, she knew that such criticism would only make the waiter feel unhappy, and it would not change the taste of the meal. So, she smiled and said to the friend, "Actually, each flavor has its own uniqueness, maybe we can try to appreciate and accept different flavors." Moreover, the waiters also prepare these meals for us with their hearts, and we should respect the fruits of their labor. ”
The friend listened to Zhang Xiaofan's words and had an apologetic smile on his face. He realized that he was indeed too picky, and began to try to appreciate and taste the food on the table.
After this dinner, Zhang Xiaofan felt extremely relaxed and happy. She realized that by paying attention to her words and attitudes, she had succeeded in defusing the awkwardness and conflict at the dinner table, making the atmosphere of the dinner party more harmonious and pleasant.
Since then, Zhang Xiaofan has paid more attention to his words and deeds at the dinner table. She no longer talks about the shortcomings of others or flaunts her achievements. Instead, she learned to listen to and respect the opinions and feelings of others, and to face life's challenges and difficulties with a positive and optimistic attitude.
Her changes have also affected her friends. Everyone began to pay more attention to the way of communication at the dinner table, and strive to create a harmonious and pleasant atmosphere. They found that when everyone was able to respect and understand each other, having a meal together was not only a process of enjoying food, but also an opportunity to deepen friendship and understanding.
In this way, Zhang Xiaofan realized the subtleties of interpersonal communication through a simple dinner experience. She understands that speaking at the dinner table requires caution and attention to avoid saying words that could hurt others. At the same time, she has also learned to face the challenges and difficulties in life with a positive and optimistic attitude. These experiences have not only made her more mature and confident in her interpersonal interactions, but also made her life better and more fulfilling.