Today's mood is a little complicated, I have a new vision for my future, but I am afraid that such thoughts will be misunderstood. When I was walking with my boyfriend in the afternoon, I suddenly jokingly said the somewhat rebellious thought in my heart: "If I get married in the future, I want to be the kind of 'concubine who can't get on the stage', that is, the kind of person who only eats and drinks and has fun, doesn't have to worry about housework, and doesn't entertain any friends and relatives." ”
As soon as the words came out, I was stunned for a moment. Isn't that a stereotype of the role of women in ancient societies? It's unthinkable in modern times. However, that's what I thought, and even though I knew it might just be an escapist dream, it felt really comfortable and free.
When my boyfriend heard me say this, he was stunned at first, and then laughed, saying that I was dreaming. He said half-seriously and half-jokingly, "Then what can we do with our family? Is it possible to hire a housekeeper to take care of these chores?" I glared at him, but I thought that this kind of life was also quite interesting.
In fact, I know that in reality, I can't be that kind of "concubine". Not to mention that the values of modern society do not allow it, and my own principles alone cannot pass this hurdle. I consider myself a responsible person, and if I do get married, I will not let my family affairs go unchecked, nor will I be willful enough to care about my own pleasures. However, imagining that life once in a while undoubtedly adds a little excitement and fun to an ordinary day.
Sometimes I think about it over and over again. Perhaps, this kind of imagination of mine is not really trying to evade responsibility, but a catharsis of psychological pressure. Nowadays, society has high requirements for women, and they want to have a successful career and a happy family, and this double pressure can sometimes be really overwhelming. My seemingly escapist thoughts may just be looking for a balance.
However, I also know that such thoughts can only be thought about in the heart, and saying it may cause misunderstandings and even hurt the people who love me. After all, true happiness is something that needs to be worked together and maintained by both parties, not unilaterally claimed or avoided.
Tomorrow is another day, and I will continue to work hard and continue to plan for our future as usual. With such an imagination, it can be assumed that dreams still have to be had, in case hell it happens.