Contributor: Ms. Qi (Disclaimer: This article is not my own experience, it is based on the narrator's words)
Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and this one in our family has not been able to solve it so far. That day, I suddenly received a call from my cousin.
"My mom is gone, are you here for the funeral?"
After hearing the news, I was silent for a long time, and then replied: "If you don't go, what you can't solve alive will be dead if you leave." ”
01
My cousin and I grew up together and had a very deep relationship, but it was the family affair that made us never get along.
My grandmother has two children, one is my dad and the other is my sister-in-law.
It stands to reason that no matter how big the contradiction between the two children is, it is impossible to reach the point of breaking off relations, after all, they are all family members.
But my sister-in-law's actions have made my mother and my father completely unforgivable.
My sister-in-law is a selfish person, and her temper is very eccentric, and she loses her temper before the family says anything, and my father, who is an older brother, generally doesn't want to care about these things, and many contradictions always accumulate more and more.
My grandfather and grandmother are both dual-income workers, and when my father got married, he didn't have much money in his hands, so he thought about holding a simple wedding and inviting relatives and friends.
At that time, there was no fleet or anything to get married, my dad rented a Volkswagen to pick up relatives, and there happened to be a tricycle at home, and I needed to pull furniture or something that day, and my parents discussed using it.
As a result, my sister-in-law suddenly jumped out and said, "This is my tricycle, I still have to sell popsicles today, it is useful." ”
My dad persuaded a few words, but my sister-in-law became even more arrogant, no matter what the family said, she just stubbornly refused to use it, and said: "If you dare to take away the tricycle and affect my business, I will smash the house." ”
What is this called, on such an important day as the eldest brother's marriage, in order to sell popsicles and prevent marriage, do you have such a sister?
In the end, the tricycle was not used, but the father went to pick up the small car, so that the wedding was not delayed.
But on the other hand, when my sister-in-law got married, my father contributed both money and effort.
To be honest, my grandparents didn't like my uncle at all, firstly, because our family is in the city, and my uncle's home is in the countryside, and after my sister-in-law and my uncle get married, it is impossible to go back to the countryside, they both have stable jobs, so the house becomes a problem.
Second, because of my sister-in-law's temper, my uncle's personality is too weak to control my sister-in-law at all.
But my sister-in-law reluctantly wanted to marry my uncle, but my grandmother and grandfather had no choice but to agree.
In order to buy a house for my sister-in-law, my father took out one-third of the money, grandpa and grandma took half, and asked my father to borrow money.
However, after my sister-in-law got married, she was still a lazy girl who didn't want to cook every day, and came to my house every day to eat.
At that time, our family was living with my grandmother, just two minutes away from my sister-in-law's house.
02
My cousin and I were born just a few months apart, and my mother was very wronged by this.
My sister-in-law is very domineering, and when she is pregnant, she hopes that the whole family will revolve around her.
At that time, my family ran a small shop that sold stationery and snacks in the school, and the business was very good.
My mother has suffered since she was a child, watching the business boom, she doesn't want to delay her business because of pregnancy, she still follows her father to the store every day, the busiest at noon, and the summer is very hot, every time she will miss the point of eating, my mother is often hungry and full.
Of course, this is inseparable from my sister-in-law, who didn't know how to cook, and she ate a lot when she was pregnant.
But my sister-in-law didn't like her mother-in-law to take care of her, so she let me serve her every day.
As a result, every day after my sister-in-law has finished eating, my grandmother can come to deliver food to my parents.
Although my mother didn't say it on the surface, it was a little bit unpleasant.
When it was time to give birth, my dad stayed outside the delivery room early, and my sister-in-law thought that she was also pregnant and went to the hospital to have bacteria.
This is understandable, the sister-in-law even wanted her grandmother not to go to the hospital, so she quarreled about it.
My sister-in-law's cynicism about my mother has not stopped since I was a girl.
In my era, although the patriarchal mentality is not so serious, my grandfather still hopes to be a boy for my father's son.
Although my grandmother and grandfather are not partial, but in the end, my aunt nagged me every day, and I have a little opinion of our family, and my mother can only bear the grievances.
When my cousin was born, my sister-in-law was proud, as if it was a great honor to give birth to a boy.
My grandfather adhered to the principle of a bowl of water and treated my cousin and me equally, but my sister-in-law wanted to be preferred.
No matter how soft the persimmon is, it can't be pinched like this, especially my mother is very fond of me, saying that she can, but can't say me, so the two often quarrel.
In the end, grandma and grandpa couldn't stand it anymore and decided to live separately from my house to alleviate the conflict.
Grandma bought a flat, but as soon as they separated, my sister-in-law divorced.
Regarding the divorce of my sister-in-law, everyone thinks she is very willful.
The reason for her divorce is that she is not compatible with her uncle's personality, this child has it, and her uncle is a person who is obedient to him, so what is there to be dissatisfied with.
If it was really incompatible, why did she get married in the first place? She and her uncle were not in love for a long time, they were classmates in elementary school, junior high school, and high school, and they knew each other well enough.
For this reason, my grandmother was very angry, and my uncle was unwilling to divorce, but he couldn't resist my sister-in-law, so he had to give up.
After the divorce, the uncle waited for the sister-in-law for another five years, but still did not get back together.
My uncle left the house and the children to my aunt, and left the house by himself.
But my sister-in-law has no ability to take care of herself at all, she can't cook, and she is very lazy, so no one can worry about being alone with her children.
The sister-in-law grasped the family's concern for him, and saw that there was still an empty room in the newly bought house of the grandmother, so she took her cousin directly to move in.
And this stay is ten years.
In the past ten years, my sister-in-law rented out her house and received rent every month, while she gnawed at the old herself.
My mother didn't want to worry about it so much, she always felt that it was not easy for my sister-in-law, but my sister-in-law didn't take it at all, but felt that she deserved all this.
03
At the instigation of my sister-in-law, my grandmother and grandfather especially hoped that my mother could have a second child and pass on the family lineage, but my mother was very resistant, firstly, because the family conditions were not good, and secondly, the cost of raising children was too high.
couldn't bear the persuasion of the family, and the grandparents also promised that if they gave birth to a boy, they would raise it and contribute money and efforts.
My mother loosened her attitude and asked for the baby.
But after the birth of the child, the house became a problem.
The old house that my grandfather gave to my family has been old for a long time, and the water pipes, tiles, and furniture at home are aging, and the house is only 60 square meters, which is not enough for the family to live in.
After the old man on the first floor died, his daughter opened a mahjong stall, and there were a lot of people coming and going every day, drinking and smoking, which was particularly frightening.
My mother proposed to change to a house in a high-end community, at least more than 100 square meters, and when her son got married, it could be regarded as a house to take.
As soon as my mother's idea was said, my grandparents were very supportive, they could make a down payment in their hands, and they were willing to help pay off half of the loan every month.
My mother thinks that buying a house is a big deal, and she has to tell her sister-in-law, but she didn't expect that this statement was blocked by her sister-in-law, she said when, buy a house, do you have to buy it now?
My mother was very angry when she heard it, this house is still not expensive at a price that we are optimistic about, and we can't afford to buy houses in other neighborhoods.
My mom insisted on buying it, and my grandmother didn't object.
But the next day, I don't know what my sister-in-law told my grandparents, and the two old people were unwilling to take the money to buy a house.
My mother was super angry, and after telling my aunt about it, my aunt immediately took out the down payment, and our family successfully bought the house.
Seeing that the matter was a foregone conclusion, the grandparents took out the down payment again, after all, it was too embarrassing to use the money of the daughter-in-law's family.
And later, this incident happened that led to the complete severance of diplomatic relations between the two families!
04
My mother bathed my grandmother and suddenly noticed that something was wrong with her armpits, and rushed to the hospital for examination, and it turned out to be advanced breast cancer.
This incident hit my grandmother very hard, and when she was first diagnosed, she didn't eat any food, and she lost her temper at every turn, and her mentality was particularly bad.
My mother has always been by my grandmother's side, but my sister-in-law always says that she is busy with work and has no time to accompany her.
My mother didn't want to make my grandmother angry, so she said that my sister-in-law was disobedient, so I endured it.
The early stage was fine, but the chemotherapy was particularly torturous, and my grandmother's health became worse and worse, and even when she ate, she would vomit.
My mother saw my grandmother's appearance and took care of her every day, just when she needed her daughter's company, she chose to work in other places on the grounds that she wanted to earn money for her son to get married.
They are all adults, no one can control anyone, after my sister-in-law left, my grandmother relied on my mother to take care of her, and my father only came to the hospital after closing the store every day.
In the later stage, it is particularly tormenting, not only for the family, but also for the patient.
Because of the spread of cancer cells, my grandmother's whole body was swollen, and she was unable to defecate and urinate, and her movement was blocked.
My mother is usually soft and weak, but she can move a 130-pound old man to carry my grandmother off the hospital bed every day and move.
Approaching the last month, my sister-in-law suddenly came back and said that she wanted to do her filial piety, and of course my mother would not stop her, and my grandmother's affairs were handed over to my sister-in-law.
In the end, grandma still couldn't resist the disease and passed away.
Our family went to buy a cemetery and asked my sister-in-law to pay for it, and she began to cry poor, saying how difficult it was for her to be a woman with children.
And the most hateful thing is that after the funeral, my sister-in-law suddenly said that her grandmother's house was transferred to her, and now it is her house.
He also said that he asked my grandfather to move out and live in our house, and she would sell this house.
My dad was very shocked when he heard this, this house, even if it is not given to his son, it should be grandpa's, why did she drive grandpa away.
But my sister-in-law did a very good job, and she lost her temper at my grandfather, cursing my grandfather to hang himself, and she didn't feel distressed at all.
When we heard this, we were very angry and took our grandfather away, and since then, the two families have really broken off their relations.
05
That day, I was at work when I suddenly received a call from my cousin telling me that my aunt had passed away and was coming to the funeral.
When I heard this, I really felt a sigh in my heart, since the severance of diplomatic relations, I haven't seen each other again, including my grandfather's death, my aunt attended a funeral, and she hasn't appeared.
Now that she is gone, this mistake will not be solved, no one in our family has gone, since we have chosen to break off diplomatic relations, then don't say more.