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The mainland has always attached great importance to the inheritance of etiquette, and the culture of longevity also has a long history.
It is normal etiquette to celebrate the birthday of parents and friends and for yourself, but it should be noted that there are some situations that need to be avoided, otherwise you will only incur disaster for yourself.
The old people often say: there are three longevity, and the descendants are blessed.
Middle-aged people don't live these three kinds of life, this is for your own good.
01: Don't celebrate your birthday when you are promoted and rich, so as not to gossip behind your back
If a person has just been promoted and made a fortune, he will hold a birthday banquet, which will give others the feeling of being corrupt and bending the law. Especially for people in high positions or in the system, frequent life will inevitably cause doubts, once someone reports, the job is not guaranteed, and there is no way back in the future.
The more successful you are, the more you should keep a low profile, because you don't know how many pairs of eyes are staring at you behind you, and any bold move can be a recipe for disaster later.
Middle-aged people are not in a hurry to celebrate their birthdays, because we still have a long time to live, and celebrating birthdays with the whole family behind closed doors can achieve the same effect.
A real birthday banquet does not have to be a guest, the important thing is to be accompanied by the family and feel the warmth of the family. When you learn to keep a low profile and cherish the people around you, your birthday banquet will be more enjoyable.
02: Don't celebrate your birthday when your parents die, it's unlucky
There is a tradition in ancient China that within three years of the death of parents, children must observe the period of filial piety, during which they cannot marry or live a long life.
This is not feudal etiquette, but our filial piety to our parents.
Parents pass away, as a child must be extremely sad, can not recover in a short time, how can it be possible to talk and laugh with others at the birthday banquet?
Even if you can laugh it off, others don't know how to say it, whether to congratulate you or persuade you to mourn?
In this case, don't put yourself and your relatives and friends in a dilemma, and wait until you survive the three-year filial piety period, and then it's not too late to celebrate your life.
03: Don't live your life when you have nothing, so as not to be disappointed
Birthday banquets, to put it bluntly, are also a vanity fair, among which there are naturally people who sincerely associate with you, but most of them are friends with wine and meat.
When you are in the limelight, countless people come in a steady stream and are willing to say a few words of blessing, but if you have nothing, most people will not bother to attend, and you will hold a birthday banquet in a hurry, only to find that there are very few people who come, and then you will only be disappointed.
When people fall into a low trough, the first thing to do is not to put on a feast, but to improve themselves.
From beginning to end, ability is the knock on the door of social relationships, when you are excellent, whether you have a birthday or not, there will be a lot of talents around you, on the contrary, when you have nothing to do, you have held many birthday banquets, and others do not bother to associate with you.
If you want the birthday banquet in the future to be lively, you must work hard from now on, your ability, status and wealth are the capital that others look up to you.
Don't feel snobbish, life is what it is, you can't fit into life and you're doomed to be abandoned by it.
When people reach middle age, they have a lot of feelings about life, and they want to use their longevity to keep a good time, but you have to remember that the above three kinds of longevity cannot be lived, otherwise you will lose your blessings and disappoint yourself.
Birthday should also pay attention to the right time, the right place, the right situation, and when you have achievements, your parents are still there, and the family is complete, then the birthday will be the icing on the cake for your life.
On the contrary, when your life is not going well, the more you live, the more helpless you will be, because you will find that not only do you fail in life, but also manage your relationships badly, and you can't bear such a blow at all.
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