When 76-year-old He Qingkui went to Gao Xiumin's cemetery during this year's Qingming Festival, many people felt that this was a huge harm to his original wife Zhang Yanru.
Because He Qingkui was not divorced back then, he directly lived a cohabitation life with Gao Xiumin.
After Zhang Yanru learned about this incident, although she was very sad in her heart, she still did not end the marriage that existed in name only.
It wasn't until later that Gao Xiumin died unexpectedly that He Qingkui was willing to return to the family, which also made many people feel that he completely used his original wife as a spare tire.
If Gao Xiumin hadn't died at that time, maybe He Qingkui wouldn't have remembered his original wife at all.
On this year's Qingming Festival, He Qingkui directly appeared on the hot search, just because he went to sweep Gao Xiumin's tomb, why did he want to sweep the tomb of his former lover?
The relationship between the three is complicated, and the original wife and lover both died
In 2005, an incident happened that made He Qingkui extremely uncomfortable, that is, his beloved woman Gao Xiumin passed away.
At this time, he was only 46 years old, and for He Qingkui, this was a bolt from the blue. Because before this, he hadn't given Gao Xiumin a name.
Gao Xiumin also bore the infamy of being a junior for more than ten years for He Qingkui.
For all this, many people don't understand, including Zhao Benshan, he was very optimistic about Gao Xiumin before, but he didn't expect that in terms of feelings, people who are so optimistic about him would embark on a confused road.
For these ugly voices from the outside world, Gao Xiumin could only choose to take the initiative to block them, because she really loved the man in front of her.
He Qingkui actually paid a huge price for this relationship, that is, to leave his original wife!
Zhang Yanru was also extremely sad after learning about this incident, she didn't understand why she had paid so much for her husband, why did she end so miserably?
After Gao Xiumin's death, He Qingkui's whole person also collapsed, and he couldn't even see the hope of living, and at this time a person appeared in his life, and this person was Zhang Yanru.
Everyone didn't expect that as the original wife, she would be so generous.
You must know that at that time, in order to be able to walk with Gao Xiumin, He Qingkui not only ignored his wife's feelings, but even completely ignored the feelings of his own children, and spent more time with Gao Xiumin's children than with his own children.
It stands to reason that the three of them have already made trouble at this point, and when He Qingkui was deeply sad, Zhang Yanru should not have paid attention to it, after all, all this was his own choice back then.
But what everyone didn't expect was that Zhang Yanru at that time actually proposed to let He Qingkui return to the family. At this time, Gao Xiumin had also passed away, and He Qingkui was not refusing the request of his original wife.
It was precisely because of her appearance that He Qingkui finally came out of his sadness at that time.
When He Qingkui returned to the family, he thought that a happy life would appear again, but not long after, Zhang Yanru went to the hospital for an examination, but found that there was a big problem with her body, and finally passed away first.
Her death is actually what makes He Qingkui feel the most guilty.
He knew how much Zhang Yanru had paid for himself, and he also knew that when he didn't accompany his children, it was all this woman who accompanied him.
The most rare thing is that when He Qingkui abandoned his children and wife to accompany Gao Xiumin, Zhang Yanru did not say anything about him in front of his children.
The original wife made a great sacrifice and was humbled to the dust
In January of this year, a photo of He Qingkui was exposed.
It can be seen from the photo that there is another woman next to He Qingkui, and the relationship between the two in this photo is extremely intimate, and no one will believe it if it is an ordinary friend.
thought that after the death of his original wife, He Qingkui would not have any news related to his feelings, after all, He Qingkui was also in his 70s at this time, but what everyone didn't expect was that a few years after the death of his wife, the news about He Qingkui's private life was broken out again.
When Zhang Yanru just passed away, He Qingkui also collapsed in front of the media, saying that he owed too much to his original wife.
It's just that if you look at it now, maybe that guilt is long gone.
And during this year's Qingming Festival, He Qingkui also did something that no one expected, that is, he went to the grave of his former lover to sweep his grave.
This also made everyone curious, why did He Qingkui not go to his original wife, but went to his former lover?
Could it be that after so many years, in fact, He Qingkui's heart is still on Gao Xiumin?
It can be seen from the video exposed by netizens that when He Qingkui saw He Xiumin's statue at that time, his eyes were already red.
Although there have been many problems in his private life over the years, it is enough to see from this detail that Gao Xiumin's position in his heart is still very important, although he has been away for so many years.
When many netizens saw this scene, they also felt sorry for He Qingkui's deceased original wife. After He Qingkui betrayed the family, Zhang Yanru not only did not choose to divorce, but was still waiting bitterly.
Later, although He Qingkui returned to his family, a discerning person could see at a glance that his return was actually a helpless move, because Gao Xiumin had already left, and if he didn't return, he would be alone.
And what many people didn't expect was that Zhang Yanru's attitude towards Gao Xiumin at that time also changed dramatically.
At the beginning, she also had a lot of hostility towards this woman after learning that Gao Xiumin had the idea of breaking up her family.
There was even an idea to go directly to this woman's work unit, so that Gao Xiumin's leader knew that she had broken up her family.
It wasn't until after Gao Xiumin's death that Zhang Yanru's attitude towards her was diametrically opposite, and she even allowed her children to go to Gao Xiumin's mourning hall.
And Zhang Yanru also knew very well that her husband had always had Gao Xiumin's position in his heart, so she also made a huge regression at that time, that is, to allow Gao Xiumin's ranking to appear in her family's mourning hall.
For Zhang Yanru's approach, many people are very incomprehensible.
Because from his wife's point of view, Zhang Yanru lives too humble, and it is impossible for any woman to accept such a thing.
It is necessary to tolerate the cheating of one's own husband, and to tolerate that one's husband is better than his own children.
In fact, it is also related to some of Gao Xiumin's behaviors and several of her own children, she just sacrificed herself to save her children.
Because of work, he failed two women
In the entertainment industry, the junior and the original wife tear each other apart every day, for example, Li Jiaxin, who was called the most beautiful Hong Kong sister back then, in order to succeed in the position, she directly quarreled with Liu Luanxiong's original wife.
But Gao Xiumin and Zhang Yanru at that time didn't do this, because they both loved this man miserably.
When Zhang Yanru and He Qingkui walked together, it happened to be the lowest point in He Qingkui's life. Everyone in the village looked down on He Qingkui, thinking that He Qingkui's body was very thin and he couldn't even do farm work, let alone other jobs.
But at that time, Zhang Yanru was extremely optimistic about He Qingkui, and walked with this man despite the dissuasion of everyone in the outside world.
After the two walked together, all the things in the family were contracted by Zhang Yanru alone. At that time, He Qingkui was writing desperately at home, hoping that the works he wrote would one day be discovered by nobles.
It's just that no matter how hard he tried at that time, all his works were lost in the sea, which also brought him a huge blow.
During that time, Zhang Yanru was also very hard as a woman, not only to support herself and her husband, but also to support several children.
But despite this, she never let her husband come out and sell things in front of her, until He Qingkui realized that it was too unfair to his wife to go on like this, so he walked out of the house.
This time when he walked out of the house, he met Gao Xiumin.
Gao Xiumin and He Qingkui were already friends before this, and when they met again after many years, seeing He Qingkui become like this, Gao Xiumin also decided to help his friend.
At first, these people in the crew didn't approve of He Qingkui's performance, and even thought that He Qingkui came in through the back door, hearing these ugly sounds, Gao Xiumin slapped the table directly, and no one was allowed to say that He Qingkui was not.
This incident also made him remember it for a long time, and later the two spent a lot of time together, which caused both of them to empathize and say goodbye. You must know that the two of them were married at that time, and Gao Xiumin ended his marriage directly for this man.
Because she knew that if she continued like this, it would be very unfair to her husband.
After seeing Gao Xiumin divorce for himself, He Qingkui also took the initiative to find his original wife and said that sentence.
But Zhang Yanru was reluctant to divorce, and after seeing that her husband's heart was not in her, she regarded the children as her shield, hoping that he could see a few children and return to the family.
But at this time, He Qingkui had already made up his mind, and in the end, the relationship between the three of them was maintained unclearly until Gao Xiumin passed away.
Do you think He Qingkui is fair to these two women by doing this?
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