For a long time, I didn't know that blind dates and making friends were two different things, and the main reason for this was probably because I hadn't been on a blind date myself, until I accompanied my cousin to a blind date five years ago, and that scene really opened my eyes. You must know that the blind date was not organized by a marriage agency, and it was the woman's elders who took the lead, but it was still so secular, you can imagine what the blind date organized by those marriage and love agencies would be like.
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But looking back, if it was sure that it was a blind date, it seemed that it should have been like this. I think the biggest difference between blind date and making friends is that it is very clear direction: marriage! This process is equivalent to omitting all the process of mutual understanding or love in the middle, and quickly reaching the result of marriage. But making friends is different, no one knows what it will turn out of, and no one cares. For example, a blind date will inevitably involve a question, that is, whether both parties can have children, and it will be determined when they meet for the first time, but if it is a friendship, you will ask the other party when you meet for the first time: Can you have children?
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Therefore, the conditions for blind date talks are too normal. Moreover, Sun Tzu, a great military strategist, once summed up the importance of goal setting in this way: Those who take the top will get the middle, and those who take the lower will get the bottom, and there will be nothing to be done! According to this theory, the goal set must not be too low, otherwise you will "take nothing." For example, if you set a monthly income of 10,000 yuan, the last person who comes to you is often a person with a monthly salary of 8,000; you ask for a simple and unpretentious appearance, and the last person who comes to you can be simple to the point of being incomprehensible; I found that the most likely thing to exceed the requirements of all conditions is academic qualifications, is it because of the depreciation of academic qualifications?
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And once the conditions are negotiated, love must stand aside. Although I know that many Chinese think that love is a pure IQ tax, but there is true love in the world, and I blindly guess that most people still crave love, and prefer marriage to be based on feelings rather than material, because such marriages will last long. But just like the national football team, there is not much time left for these people, and their choice can only be to choose a mate quickly! Of course, there are still a few people in this world who insist on themselves, so the unmarriage doctrine has become popular, and it does have its own reason!
blind date
Speaking of which, there is nothing to be embarrassed about, I will talk about the following heart-wrenching facts, as a reminder to young people as a past, let's think about it yourself:
1. Whether it is junior high school, high school, or college, the most handsome boy in the class will never get married too early, and the marriage of the most beautiful girl in the class is very average! Most of the boys with the best grades in the class live happily, and the girls with the best grades in the class often marry much older men.
2. In Shanghai, before graduating from university, Shanghai boys basically have girlfriends, but about half of Shanghai girls have boyfriends.
3. "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" is actually a bit vaguely positioned, between blind date and dating, which is indeed a bit problematic. But this is a common problem in Chinese society: some people fantasize about love when they go on blind dates, and some people think about material things when they are in love.
4. Blind dates hurt your self-esteem, so you should give yourself psychological expectations before you go.
5. It is an indisputable fact that women depreciate when they are older, because men do like to be young, and the reason is simple: young girls will make men feel energetic, but mature women will make men feel naïve. You say, if you are a man, what will you choose?
Uh-huh...... I'm going to ...... both.
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