Preamble:

A private message about the funding dispute between star Sun Li and Xiang Haiqing was exposed on the Internet, but just a few hundred words aroused heated discussions and deep thinking among the public. Originally, it was because Sun Li funded Xiang Haiqing's kindness that was well received by netizens, however, when Xiang Haiqing expressed her resentment and dissatisfaction with Sun Li and her mother in a private message, the nature of the whole thing also changed. In a private message, Xiang Haiqing bluntly expressed her resentment towards Sun Li and her mother, and also said that Sun Li and her mother's actions made her feel disgusted. As soon as this incident was exposed, it quickly fermented on the Internet, and Sun Li also fell into the whirlpool of public opinion in a short period of time, and was accused and questioned by a large number of netizens.

Perhaps in the eyes of many people, Xiang Haiqing is indeed ungrateful and unrighteous in doing this, but in fact, behind this matter, we can see more things. A seemingly simple funding event, but there are a lot of complex emotions and human nature involved behind it, and it also makes us think more deeply about good deeds and helping others. Today, let's take a look at the whole picture of this matter and the profound enlightenment it brings to us.

Xiang Haiqing, who was funded for four years, but bit Sun Li back, finally paid the price he deserved

1. The good deeds were questioned, and he sent a private message to Haiqing to anger Sun Li.

The reason for this incident is actually because <a href="http://news.youth.cn/jsxw/202203/t20220310_13692493.htm" > Sun Li took the initiative to mention Xiang Haiqing's name in a show, saying that she knew something about Xiang Haiqing, and was asked about funding because of this. </a>Originally, Sun Li did this to help Xiang Haiqing find a job with her influence, but her actions caused Xiang Haiqing's dissatisfaction.

Xiang Haiqing felt that Sun Li was taking advantage of herself by doing this, so she bluntly said in a private message that she did not need Sun Li's "help", and also said that Sun Li and her mother's actions made her feel "very disgusted", thinking that they were "showing off their good deeds" by doing so.

In addition, in the private message, Xiang Haiqing also said that he didn't know what the "mother" was, and hoped that Sun Li could "stop using herself and her background to show off", such words were undoubtedly openly angry at Sun Li, making her feel very hurt and aggrieved.

After Xiang Haiqing's private message was exposed, Sun Li's fans also said that Xiang Haiqing was doing this because she was "ignorant of lifting", and she should think about how she came to be in her current situation, while other netizens believed that Xiang Haiqing was "ungrateful", and she had no right to make any accusations and questions about Sun Li's good deeds, let alone publicly anger Sun Li in her private messages.

As a result, Xiang Haiqing's actions also sparked widespread public discussion Many people began to question her character and personality, thinking that she was a person who "does not know how to be grateful", and some people even began to wonder if she deliberately "defended her rights" or had other purposes.

In fact, whether it is Sun Li or Xiang Haiqing, as public figures, their every move will be concerned and judged by the outside world, and Xiang Haiqing's public anger at Sun Li is indeed ungrateful and unrighteous, and it has also smeared herself with the "label" of not knowing gratitude and ingratitude, which will definitely have a certain impact on her future development.

However, as ordinary people, when looking at such things, we should not blindly stand on the side of the "big star", but should look at it rationally and objectively, and make a judgment after understanding the whole picture.

2. What do we see behind Sun Li's funding of Xiang Haiqing?

In this matter, the reason why Xiang Haiqing has resentment and disgust for Sun Li and her mother is that in addition to her own character and personality, in fact, Sun Li and her mother also have certain responsibilities in the process of funding Xiang Haiqing.

In the private message, Xiang Haiqing bluntly said that she didn't understand what her "mother" was, and she also felt that Sun Li and her mother "took care" of herself too much, so that she would develop the "habit" of dependence and consumption, and finally lost her gratitude.

In fact, this also reflects a common problem in the current society, many times, when we help others, maybe we are not really helping each other, but "hurting" each other, so that they develop the "habit" of dependence and consumption, which is not a good thing for them.

And Sun Li's original intention of sponsoring Xiang Haiqing may not be just out of kindness, she also has some "needs" of her own in her heart.

After the funding incident was exposed, many netizens began to speculate that the reason why Sun Li took the initiative to fund Xiang Haiqing may be because she herself experienced a lot of "setbacks" and "difficulties" in her childhood, and she deeply experienced the feeling of "being helped".”。

In fact, such things are not uncommon in our lives, many times, when we go to help others, maybe we don't realize that in fact, behind such behaviors, there are some hidden "needs" of our own, and we are also "satisfying" some of our inner "desires" by helping others, so that our good deeds may also have a "negative" impact on the other party, or even hurt them.

3. The influence of family education on individual growth.

In addition, in the content of Xiang Haiqing's private message, she also bluntly stated that her resentment and disgust for Sun Li and her mother may have a lot to do with her lack of independence and autonomy when she was growing up.

She felt that she was not "respected" in this matter, but was "controlled", which made her feel very "uncomfortable", and as a result, she would have feelings of resentment and disgust towards Sun Li and her mother.

In fact, this also makes us start to think about what caused Xiang Haiqing's lack of independence and autonomy in the process of growing up

In fact, what is hidden behind this is a "way of education" and a "family environment".

Perhaps, in the process of growing up, she did not receive enough "respect" and "support", but was subjected to too much "control" and "interference", so that she could not "develop" and "grow" in all aspects, so that she would naturally have negative emotions and resentment towards such an "education method" and "family environment".

In fact, family education has a very important impact on a person's growth, a good family education can make children "develop" and "grow" in all aspects, and have a good "psychological quality", and too strict and doting education methods, may make children have "rebellious psychology", and even give birth to a variety of "psychological problems".

So, in the face of such a thing, maybe we can think about it, what kind of way should family education be the best?

In the process of children's growth, we should give them enough autonomy and respect, and give them the opportunity to "explore" and "learn", rather than "interfering" and "controlling" too much, so that they can truly grow up healthily and have the ability to think independently and make independent choices.

Epilogue:

Through such a seemingly simple funding dispute, we can actually see a lot of things, whether it is in the process of doing good deeds and helping others, or in the choice of family education methods, there are very profound enlightenments.

Perhaps, when we make some decisions, we can have more "understanding" and "care", and we can also think about what kind of "needs" and "intentions" are hidden behind such decisions, so that we can make choices that are beneficial to others and ourselves.

Xiang Haiqing, who was funded for four years, but bit Sun Li back, finally paid the price he deserved

Preamble:

1. The good deeds were questioned, and he sent a private message to Haiqing to anger Sun Li.

2. What do we see behind Sun Li's funding of Xiang Haiqing?

3. The influence of family education on individual growth.

Epilogue:

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