Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In love, there is a normal connection to maintain the long-term relationship. However, sometimes you will encounter situations where the man no longer initiates contact you, and it is continuous.
When a man is able to resist not contacting you, it's not just a matter of being busy or forgetful, but more of a point to a key issue – your place in his heart.
First of all, let's be clear: there are differences in the expression of emotions between men and women.
Men tend to express their emotions more in action than in words than women. But this does not mean that they are not good at expressing themselves, but they are more willing to use practical actions to let you see his heart.
So, when a guy resists contacting you, it's actually a message he's sending in this way.
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So, why do men resist not contacting you?
There is actually only one core reason behind this - his feelings for you have changed.
This change may be because he has lost interest in you, or it may be because he has discovered that there is an incompatibility between you, or he has found a new purpose.
But in either case, it shows a problem: your status in his heart is not as good as before.
Of course, this is not to say that all cases of not contacting you are due to a change in feelings.
Sometimes, men may temporarily reduce their contact with you due to busy work, stressful life, etc. But the situation is usually temporary, and he will reconnect with you once his life returns to normal.
But if you don't get in touch for a long time and there is no reasonable explanation, then it is likely to be an emotional problem.
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What should you do when faced with a situation where a man does not contact you?
First of all, don't be too flustered and anxious.
Relationships need to be maintained by both parties, and if you find that he is no longer actively contacting you, you can try to communicate with him first to understand his thoughts and feelings.
Maybe he's just having some temporary problems and needs some time to deal with.
If the problem still can't be resolved after communication, then you need to seriously think about the future of the relationship. After all, a man who doesn't care about how you feel can hardly bring you real happiness and security.
As the French writer Maupassant said: "Love needs to be cherished and maintained by both parties, and once one of the parties loses their passion and care, then the relationship is already in name only." ”
Secondly, in addition to communication and understanding, you also need to learn to love yourself.
Don't deny your worth because of your coldness. Everyone has their own brilliance and charm, don't lose confidence in yourself just because a person is gone.
As Marilyn Monroe said, "A woman's best dress is her self-confidence and self-love." ”
When you love yourself enough, you will find that there are better people and things waiting for you.
When a man chooses not to contact you, in fact, it is also a good time for you to re-examine yourself.
You can use this time to improve yourself, whether it's learning new skills, expanding your hobbies, or spending quality time with friends.
Don't be afraid to try new things, maybe you'll find new fun and a sense of accomplishment in it.
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Relationships are complex and changeable, and a man's ability to resist not contacting you may explain a lot of things, but the most fundamental thing is that his feelings for you have changed.
Whatever the outcome, learn to accept and face it. If the man eventually chooses to come back to you, that's the best outcome, and if he chooses to leave, don't be too sad and depressed.
Because, everyone has their own way to go, and we can't force others to walk with us. Try to understand his thoughts and feelings and give yourself some time to get used to it.
Love is never the whole of life, we still have family affection, friendship, and more things worth cherishing. As long as you maintain a positive attitude, you will definitely find your own beauty.