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My name is Song Yun, I am 58 years old this year, and I have a son and a daughter. My wife is very good to me, and she has been married for more than 30 years and has never quarreled with me.
With both children and daughters, I should have lived a happy old age. However, now all of this has been ruined by myself.
Although his wife is good, she is filial and obedient, and she is obedient to his parents.
Therefore, when I was pregnant, my in-laws did everything possible to inquire about the gender of my child. If you say it's a boy, keep it, and beat it down. At that time, I was very angry, but my husband said that his parents were also for our good.
02
I gave birth to a daughter in my first child, and as soon as my parents-in-law saw that it was a daughter, they turned around and left, and they didn't even take care of the confinement child. After that, the confinement and the care of my daughter all relied on my mother.
I have suffered a lot of white eyes and coldness in my mother-in-law's house, and my feelings for my daughter are very complicated.
On the one hand, I know that children are innocent and should not bear the wrath of adults who prefer sons over daughters. On the one hand, I couldn't convince myself to love my daughter.
This complicated relationship was not slowly relieved until I gave birth to my second son. So, I put all my maternal love on my son.
03
Maybe it's because I've been wronged, my daughter has been very sensible and obedient since she was a child, and she shared the pressure for us early and took care of her younger brother to do housework. When he grew up, he was diligent and motivated in his studies, and was admitted to a key university in one fell swoop.
On the contrary, our son, who has been held in the palm of our hand since he was a child, is lazy and lazy, and he is unwilling to suffer the hardships of studying, and skips school under the pretext of illness for three days. When he grows up, his son can't be admitted to high school, let alone college, so he can only go to society early.
Therefore, I have quietly discussed with my wife that in the future, we will have to count on our daughter for the elderly and the son's marriage room. My wife also thought so deeply and did not refute it.
After her daughter graduated, she immediately started working. In the first month of getting the salary, my daughter transferred 2,000 yuan to us. Seeing my daughter so sensible and filial, I am relieved and helpless, how can someone who is capable and filial not be a son?
04
As my daughter became thriving in the workplace, the amount of her monthly filial piety to us gradually rose from 2,000 to 5,000 yuan. Many relatives and friends envy me for raising a filial and capable daughter.
But my wife and I will shake our heads and sigh in the middle of the night, no matter how capable our daughter is, she will always marry someone else and become an outsider. But his son is not angry and unmotivated, and only thinks about playing games and playing mobile phones at home.
A few years later, my daughter got a boyfriend in the city where she worked. The two talked for more than a year, and then they began to talk about marriage.
But as soon as we heard about the man's family background, we persuaded our daughter to break up. Without the slightest help, the daughter will not only not be able to subsidize her mother's family when she marries, but may also have to support the poor in-law's family.
My daughter refused to break up and had a long cold war with us, but finally had to succumb to our nurturing grace. After the breakup, it took more than a year for the daughter to fall in love.
05
After learning that the man's family is good, he is an only child, and his parents have a retirement salary, we persuaded our daughter to get married as soon as possible, so as not to miss this village, and never find this shop again.
My daughter thought about it for a long time, but finally listened to us. We are also for her good, after all, our daughter is not young, and if we continue to drag it out, not to mention that she can't marry herself, and even her son's marriage house is not settled.
When my daughter got married, I thought about it for a long time, and then I asked for a bride price of 300,000 yuan, which was a lot of money. The man bargained for a long time, but I still didn't back down. For the sake of their daughter, the son-in-law's family gritted their teeth and scraped together a 300,000 dowry and successfully married their daughter.
At that time, my daughter also pleaded with us, saying that her future in-laws would buy a wedding house in the center according to our requirements, and give a bride price of 200,000 yuan, which was really powerless.
06
In the face of my daughter's plea, I think she doesn't know what to do, we are for her good, a woman gets married, and the more the in-law's bride price is given, the more important it is to the daughter-in-law.
What's more, we have also comprehensively assessed the son-in-law's family background, and with his parents having a pension and a lot of savings, it should be okay to buy a house and give a bride price.
Hearing this, her daughter didn't say a word, didn't make any noise, and seemed to acquiesce. 300,000 dowry, we stayed, ready to buy a wedding house for our son, after all, my son is not too young.
Women don't have a marriage house to buy from their in-laws, but men don't have a marriage room, so they can only be singles for a lifetime. As parents, how can we be willing to let our son be a bachelor for the rest of his life?
07
With the blessing of our daughter's 300,000 bride price, we hollowed out the family foundation, so that our son successfully married his daughter-in-law and became a family. We were also greatly relieved.
It's only been more than 2 years, because of taking care of my grandson and serving my son's family, my body has gradually begun to decline, and the underlying diseases are frequent, and I need to see a doctor and take medicine frequently, which costs a lot.
I didn't dare to talk to my daughter-in-law about these expenses, so I could only tell my daughter. My daughter didn't complain, I want to give as much as I want. Until I got sick and was hospitalized, I needed 50,000 yuan for surgery.
The son and daughter-in-law said in unison that they had no money, and the daughter hung up the phone silently after hearing about it. After that, I was hospitalized for 7 days, but I never waited for my daughter to show up and pay the bill. My wife called my daughter, but she didn't even answer the phone.
I finally got through the phone, and in the face of my anxiety, my daughter said lightly, don't you have a son? The original 300,000 yuan and filial piety fee are considered a one-time pension, and I don't owe you anything.
The daughter hung up the phone and never answered again. Looking at the patients who were taking care of the children around me, and then seeing that only my wife was guarding, I couldn't help but cry like rain.
What can I do so that my daughter can forgive us for our partiality and robbing the rich and helping the poor?