The 40-year-old "Bai Baihe 2.0" did not get married, and was scolded by her mother on the hot search: does she deserve it?

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2024-04-08 16:05Posted in Guangdong entertainment creators

Suffocating, suffocating.

A few days ago, the mother-daughter relationship was broadcast to the variety show "It's a Daughter and a Mother".

Wang Luodan, who hadn't shown up for a long time, took her mother to participate, and then without accident, the first issue of the quarrel broke out.

In just two acts of farce, the whole network has seen the mother and daughter in the entertainment industry, and there is nothing new.

In the show, Wang Luodan was preparing for her 40th birthday, and her mother got up early in the morning to prepare a birthday dinner for her.

In the face of the dinner and cake carefully prepared by her mother, she was so happy that she wanted to cry, and after making a wish, she told the camera on the spot that she wanted to share one of the three wishes with her mother.

As a result, my mother made a wish in public: bring me back an aunt this year.

???? Wang Luodan's pupils shook instantly.

Who knows, the beautiful wish-making moment has become a nationwide marriage urging scene, and how many children are embarrassed with Wang Luodan.

At this time, Wang Luodan really couldn't bear it, and directly scolded his mother: "I wish your wish to come true." ”

And he didn't give his mother a good face at all, refuting that his mother blocked her on her birthday, and he couldn't wait to find a crack in the ground to get into.

And on the spot to take back the wish.

As for her mother, she felt that she had been holding back for too long, and her little abacus was most likely to put pressure on Wang Luodan in front of the national audience and make her compromise.

So he chose to sweep his daughter's joy at the happiest time.

Therefore, even Wang Luodan, who has become a star, has the ability to achieve financial freedom and has his own hobbies, Wang Luodan still can't escape the public whipping.

And we only saw a mother who didn't respect her daughter at all and didn't put herself in the shoes of her children, showing the Chinese-style marriage urging to the fullest.

Taking a step back, the focus of the mother's marriage urging is only to "find me an uncle", not "hope that my daughter will meet someone who is really hand in hand." ”

Things have come to this point, and the vast majority of the audience can empathize with Wang Luodan at this moment, she forced to drink water to cover up the embarrassment, and try to stay calm, which is a skill that many children have long been familiar with.

But that's not all, her conversation with her mother is very typical:

Mom's reason for urging marriage is justified: you have celebrated your 40th birthday!

Wang Luodan did not budge, insisting that age is just a number, and he doesn't care how old he is.

The mother looked at her angry daughter, most likely surprised, so although she compromised on the surface, there was stubbornness in her tone: (marriage) is a Chinese tradition.

Wang Luodan finally responded: Times will change, this is not tradition.

It's just an episode in the show, but I think this scene is too suffocating.

It is a battle between the ideas of a mother and daughter, and it is also a reality in most Chinese families.

Whether it is in the show or in private, Wang Luodan has not expressed that he is doing well.

In the past, Wang Luodan was Bai Baihe 2.0 in the mouth of netizens, but now, she gradually blocks the voices of the outside world, usually lives alone, likes to make flowers and grass, and turns her home into a natural small world, she enjoys her single life very much: I like to be alone at home.

But in the eyes of the mother, as long as she doesn't get married, her daughter's happiness is false happiness.

In this day and age, whether to marry or not is still a moral burden.

For parents who urge marriage, marriage urging is to move their lips, add a little family kidnapping and moral condemnation.

Every festive season, the New Year's homecoming, and now the birthday has also evolved into a marriage scene.

Parents are good at summing up everything with "crisis": "You're 20/30/40, aren't you in a hurry!"

"What you should do at any age, your task of getting married and your parents will be completed. ”

Who gave you the assignment and what is the right time?

Who is creating the crisis, and who is plunging young people into the so-called "crisis" that comes out of nowhere?

Of course, this is not the first time that parent-child programs have shown this kind of pathological marriage urging.

is also a program of Mango Channel, "My Girl" was too popular and had a wave when it was broadcast two years ago.

It's just that the role of urging marriage has been changed to fathers, and it is a large-scale daddy + marriage scene.

At the age of 20, he became a well-known supporter in the country, and Wu Xin, who was 30+ popular in "Sister Lang", in the eyes of his father:

"Finding a man to start a family as soon as possible is much more important than a successful career. ”

Jiao Junyan, who has acted in a bunch of hit dramas and attaches equal importance to beauty and career, was just over 30 and was educated by his father on TV:

"Life without marriage and children is not perfect, and you must regret it. ”

Fu Yuanhui, the 22-year-old champion at the time, was even more asked by his father to not need to find a partner:

"As soon as I retire, I get married. ”

I don't even ask if my child wants to

Dads, just raise marriage to the national level, anyway, marriage = filial piety: marriage is to fulfill "national responsibility." ”

Within this red line, "older leftover women" and "young men of appropriate age" are disgraceful, they take it as their responsibility to marry together all over the world, and regard the marriage of their children as the proudest thing in their lives.

It's ridiculous.

"Freedom of love and marriage" has been shouted for decades, but in the face of the parents' "marriage theory", it is still so vulnerable:

It is as if marriage and childbearing are both obligations for children.

remembered that Li Ruotong had said before that he would receive countless comments and private messages every day.

Every sentence is forcing her to ask: You are 50 years old, why are you not married!

She responded more than once: Please respect other people's decisions, because this is my life!

And as far as I know, Li Ruotong is not unmarried, for love, she just bluntly said that fate has not arrived, and she is not willing to get married for a while.

And the majority of netizens can't wait to plan her life, why is it not another form of motherhood?

When encountering this kind of Internet aunt, Xu Jinglei will say: Take care of yourself.

And the really sad thing is that the above stars are already successful women, with a rich material and spiritual world, trying their best to pursue self-worth, but they are still strongly bound to "unmarried", so how can ordinary women deal with themselves?

Amplifying it to say that the focus of this topic is not just on women.

Many fathers package marriage as sugar-coated cannonballs, and do not hesitate to use various words to "discipline" young people:

"Life is incomplete without marriage, and starting a family is the most important thing. ”

"xxx even has a second child, aren't you in a hurry. ”

"If you don't get married, your parents will be old. ”

"Hurry up and get married, 25 years old is the best golden period for childbearing. ”

There are also parents who take their children's marriage as their life's mission, what is the happiness of their children, what happiness is not happy, you can just get married.

It's as if marriage is the panacea that saves everything.

If the child seriously expresses his feelings and resists the urging of marriage, it is a certain degree of "disobedience".

Wang Luodan, whenever she expressed a little of her own resistance, her mother laughed on the side, and said that she was a doll without care.

"You're too young to understand. ”

It is true that there are divisions and collisions of ideas in each generation.

But the times are changing, the concepts of the fathers, the speeches of netizens, should it also keep pace with the times.

Everyone is an individual.

Children have the freedom to get married, decide when to get married, and take responsibility for their own future.

Of course, there is also the freedom not to marry and to be yourself as much as you can.

And the real failure is not that the children do not marry, and it is not that they have to start a family.

Instead, under urging and pressure, he chose a wrong path, and when he woke up later, he found that the years had passed.

Parents who urge marriage always feel that marriage can support each other, and survival is the problem.

But the new generation of young people just want to be healthy, happy, happy and mentally stable.

Please, it's 4202 years, and urging marriage can still be on TV, who is lagging behind.

There are so many ways to be happy, please respect your choices, love and freedom.

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