#春日生活打卡季#
Author: Brother Dong (Rich Book Author)
"Caigentan" wrote: "There is a real slaughter in the operation, and there is a circular machine in the application." ”
We need to follow the rules when doing things, but also maintain a certain degree of flexibility and be round and square.
If you do things squarely but not round, and do not understand human feelings, you will run into walls everywhere; if you do things round but not square, and if you are too sophisticated, you will not be able to stand on your own.
The circle is the method of dealing with the world, and the square is the foundation of the world.
The outer circle and the inner square are the most transparent ways for adults to behave in the world.
Outer circle: mellow and easy
The ancients said: "The round one is also through." ”
The circle is not sleek and sophisticated, but an ability to properly handle problems and resolve contradictions.
In interacting with people, it is necessary to consider various factors from multiple aspects and comprehensively, so as to adapt to changes.
In this way, we can solve problems in a harmonious way and win the respect and support of others.
清朝时期，张之洞任山西巡抚。
At that time, there was a natural disaster, and a ticket number boss wanted to give him 10,000 taels of silver, but he decisively refused, and Zhang Zhidong persuaded the boss to donate the silver for disaster relief.
The owner of the ticket number thought for a moment and said, "I am willing to donate the silver, but I have two small requests. First, please write a plaque for my ticket number that reads 'The World's No. 1 Honest Ticket Number', and second, I hope to donate an official position for me to fill the platform. ”
Donate money to buy officials, the laws of the imperial court at that time were allowed, and Zhang Zhidong agreed.
But when it came to writing the plaque, Zhang Zhidong hesitated. He knew very little about the boss's ticket number and couldn't rashly inscribe it.
After thinking for a while, Zhang Zhidong wrote a plaque to the boss that was "the first integrity in the world".
It means that the virtue of being the first in the world is the word "integrity", but it is not said that the boss's ticket number is the first honest ticket number in the world.
The boss of the ticket number expressed his satisfaction after reading it, and in this way, Zhang Zhidong solved the problem of writing a plaque and raised two silver taels for disaster relief.
If you are stubborn and rigid, you are prone to run into walls everywhere.
If you can be flexible and flexible, you can solve problems, gain the appreciation of others, and achieve success.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, Zhao Kuangyin served as a general, and the official who was responsible for managing tea and wine was called Cao Bin.
One day, Zhao Kuangyin came to the wine shop to inspect, and because he was thirsty at the intersection, he asked Cao Bin to make a pot of wine to drink.
At that time, the imperial court stipulated that without approval, sending wine privately would be questioned.
Cao Bin thought for a while and said, "General, you can't give away official wine privately, and I can't call you to drink." ”
After that, Cao Bin took out a piece of broken silver from his pocket and handed it to his subordinates: "Go and buy a pot of wine." ”
The subordinate immediately understood what Cao Bin meant, and quickly called a pot of wine.
Cao Bin poured the wine and said, "General, this is the wine I bought, please drink it." ”
Zhao Kuangyin secretly admired in his heart, although this person's official position is small, he is very ethical, and he can be of great use.
Subsequently, Cao Bin was continuously promoted and reused, and Cao Bin also lived up to expectations and made many military exploits for the Northern Song Dynasty.
Gandhi once said, "Be principled in everything, but don't be too stubborn." ”
Circle is a kind of great wisdom in life.
Be flexible and solve problems in a proper way.
In this way, we can be comfortable in social interactions and win lives.
Inside: Stick to the principles and not lose yourself
There is a classic sentence in the Analects: "I have three times a day and three self-examinations: I seek for others but not be faithful, make friends but not believe, and pass on the word but not get used to it."
While living in a mellow world, we must not forget the perseverance of our hearts.
"Fang" has its own principles and values, and will not be easily swayed by the outside world. When interacting with people, be able to stick to your own bottom line.
In 1997, Zang Jianhe came to Hong Kong's Wan Chai Pier to set up a stall and sell dumplings that northerners love to eat.
Under her painstaking management, the cheap and delicious dumplings have been loved by Hong Kong citizens, and business is booming day by day.
The owner of a Japanese-funded department store next to her, seeing her dumpling business, put forward a cooperation intention and promised to build a factory for her to produce dumplings.
But at the same time, there were also conditions: to establish a brand and packaging for the dumplings, and sell them as a department store product.
Zang Jianhe rejected the other party's kindness, she knew that her dumplings would be uncontrollable. A few days later, the Japanese boss called again and said that the brand and packaging of the dumplings could be retained, but the packaging could not print Zang Jianhe's phone number and address.
Zang Jianhe once again decisively rejected the Japanese boss and insisted on his own principle of cooperation.
Eventually, the Japanese boss agreed to her request.
With the help of the supermarket sales channel of the Japanese owner, the dumplings were a great success in the Hong Kong market, which is the history of the fame of the dumplings at the Wan Chai Pier.
In social interactions, we must have enough courage to stick to our principles and values.
Do not forget profit and righteousness, and maintain the bottom line of being a correct person, so as to win success on the road of life.
I saw a story on the Internet:
Someone goes to a company to apply for a job, and after passing the preliminary examination, they enter the written test.
The previous written test questions were all successfully completed, but when he saw the last question, he frowned.
The final question is: Please write down the secrets of your previous company, the more the better.
He looked up and saw that everyone else was struggling to write.
He thought about it for a while and walked to the examiner and said, "I'm sorry, I can't answer the last question." Even if I have left my previous company, I am obliged to keep the company's secrets. ”
After saying that, he left the company where he was interviewed.
What he didn't expect was that the HR of the interview company called the next day and informed him that he had been hired.
HR said: "You have excellent professional ethics, know how to defend the interests of the former company, and stick to your own principles, which is exactly what our company needs." ”
Writer Feng Jicai said: "Only by keeping one's bottom line can a person achieve a successful life." ”
In the world, only by sticking to one's own principles can one open up one's own path of opportunity.
There is a ruler in life, and there is a degree in life.
In this way, we can take firm steps on the road of life and walk steadily and long-term.
Outer circle and inner square: Achieve great wisdom in life
There is a good saying: "Life is like acting in a play, and whether you live well or not depends on your acting skills." ”
When interacting with people, you should be able to respond flexibly to various roles and plots like an actor, and maintain your own character and style.
This requires us to not only stay mellow, but also stick to our principles and bottom line.
I once swiped such a video:
At one company, an employee wanted to take time off work to pick up his mother at the train station.
The company is an open office environment where all people work together.
When the boss passed by, the employee stood up and said to the boss, "Boss, my mother came to see me today and wants to take half a day off to pick up people at the train station in the morning." ”
Unexpectedly, the boss didn't think about it, and said in front of everyone: "You can find someone else to help you pick it up, there are so many people in the company, how can you carry out the work when they are all on leave?"
The employee sat down silently, scratching his head and feeling very uncomfortable.
As soon as the camera turned, the boss came over with a gift box, and there was a piece of paper on the gift box.
Putting the gift box on the employee's desk, the boss said, "You hurry up and send this gift to the customer in the morning, and there is an address on the paper." ”
The employee slowly got up, opened the paper and saw the contents, first surprised, and then grateful.
The paper read: "Go and pick up your mother, the gift is for her old man." ”
The employee looked at the boss's back and didn't know what to say.
The heart is round but principled, and the armor is gentle and moderate.
Under the cold system, there is a warm human touch and knows how to care for employees, which is the best way to do things.
I have seen a hot search on the Internet that an employee of Fat Donglai Supermarket in Xuchang, Henan Province was fired for cooking an interview and eating.
While cooking noodles, an employee of the supermarket quietly crouched down to taste the noodles and continued to stir the noodles without washing the chopsticks he used.
The video was taken by netizens and posted on the Internet, which attracted widespread attention.
The next day, Fat Donglai announced the result: the employee did not follow the company's tasting regulations, which was a violation of food safety, and decided to terminate the employee's labor contract, and the stall was closed on the same day.
As soon as the news was announced, it caused heated discussions among the majority of netizens, and most people thought that the punishment was too heavy and "unreasonable".
In order to deal with it fairly, Fat Donglai re-sorted out the incident through the form of the company's employee collegial panel.
The final deliberation and decision: the employee was changed from dismissal to transfer, and the stall remained closed.
Most netizens expressed their support for the adjusted treatment results, and some lawyers said: "The punishment results express the company's determination to attach importance to food safety, and it does not lose its care for employees, which is worthy of praise and reference." ”
Zeng Guofan once said: "To be a man, you need to use both rigidity and softness." If you are only soft and not rigid, you will be easy to wilt, and if you are only rigid and not soft, you will be easy to fail. ”
Being a man not only knows how to adhere to principles, but also knows how to understand each other and resolve contradictions.
Circle is to understand human feelings and warmth and coldness, and square is to adhere to the rules and bottom line.
Only in this way can we achieve the best version of ourselves on the stage of life.
Huang Yanpei, a famous educator in modern times, said: "The square is determined by determination, and the circle is determined by the way." ”
When dealing with people, it is necessary to have both mellow wisdom and firm principles.
Life is like chess, the direction is unpredictable, there is a way to deal with the world, and things are calmly dealt with.
Only in this way can we gain a firm foothold and succeed in this society with complex relationships.
I hope you and I can meet the source left and right on the road of life, and walk more and more steadily.
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