In today's life, divorce is a common thing, but the impact of divorce on women and men is still different.
Generally speaking, after a divorce, a woman who wants to get out of the shadow of divorce may need more time than a man to heal the wounds in her heart.
So, when marriage comes to an end, how can we find happiness and joy again at a new starting point in life? What I want to tell my sisters is that once a person is divorced, it is best to "quit" these three things as soon as possible, so that the rest of his life will be smooth.
01
Quitting the pain of the past
For women, the pain caused by divorce is undoubtedly deep, and it may be like an invisible knife that pierces our hearts all the time.
However, the pain of the past will only make us wallow in grief and prevent us from moving forward. So, in order to make the rest of our lives smoother, we must first learn to quit the pain of the past.
Specifically, we can alleviate pain by:
The first is to actively seek the help of a psychological counselor and get out of the shadows through professional guidance, the second is to cultivate one's own interests and hobbies to regulate one's mood, and the third is to communicate more with relatives and friends to share their inner feelings and obtain emotional support.
In this process, we also need to understand a truth: pain is only temporary, it will not accompany us for a lifetime. Only by bravely facing the reality and actively adjusting our mentality can we truly get out of the pain and welcome a better future.
02
Quit resentment towards your ex-husband
After the divorce, many people will resent their ex-husband, believing that he caused the failure of the marriage. However, resentment will only plunge us into endless pain and hatred that we cannot truly let go.
Therefore, for the happiness of the rest of our lives, we must learn to quit resentment towards our ex-husbands.
To quit resentment, we first need to recognize that resentment does not solve the problem and only leads us deeper into trouble.
Second, we need to learn to empathize and understand the other person's position and difficulties, so as to alleviate the resentment in our hearts.
Finally, we can resolve our grievances in a positive way, such as communicating and negotiating with our ex-husband, resolving legacy issues, or defending our rights and interests through legal means.
Of course, quitting resentment doesn't mean that we forget about past hurts, but rather learn to let go of the baggage in our hearts and allow ourselves to regain ease and freedom. In this way, we can better face the future and embrace a new life.
03
Quit dependency
In married life, many women will develop a dependency mentality, over-relying on each other to maintain their life and emotional needs.
However, after a divorce, this dependency can leave us in a difficult situation and unable to face life's challenges on our own. Therefore, in order to make the rest of our lives smoother, we need to quit dependence as soon as possible.
To quit dependence, we must first recognize our own abilities and values, and believe that we can face the challenges of life independently.
Secondly, we need to learn to plan our lives, set goals, and actively pursue our dreams. At the same time, we need to learn to build healthy interpersonal relationships with others, expand our social circles, and enrich our own lives.
In this process, we may encounter difficulties and setbacks, but as long as we strengthen our confidence and move forward bravely, we will definitely be able to overcome difficulties and achieve self-growth and transformation.
04
Tu Lei once said: "In fact, there are many corners in life, and every time you choose a corner, the next scenery will be completely different."
As a strong woman, we must not use tears to redeem a failed marriage, but learn to be kind to ourselves so that we can be kind to ourselves for the rest of our lives.
Of course, the pain caused by a failed marriage to a woman cannot be described in words, but even if it hurts, life still has to go on.
Therefore, we can't lose confidence in life because of pain and injury, and when facing a failed marriage, we must learn to be strong and live our lives well, so that life will not disappoint you who live seriously.
Finally, I want to say: sisters, divorce is not the end of life, but the beginning of a new life.
I hope you can keep this sentence in mind: rely on yourself and never lose!