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This is the 3,621st real story we have told
My name is Zhang Ni, the mother of the second child born in the 90s, born in Xianning, Hubei Province in 1991.
My life is almost perfect, I was born in a very harmonious family of origin, and now I am married to my Swedish husband, who loves me very much, not only in words, but also in all aspects of life. We have been in love for 8 years and have never quarreled.
For the sake of my children, I gave up my career with a monthly income of more than 100,000 yuan. But when I gave birth to my second child, I almost died of heavy bleeding, but my husband was "indifferent", but I don't regret marrying him.
(Happy family of four)
I was born in an ordinary working family in Xianning and have always lived happily.
In 2014, I graduated from a three-school school in Wuhan and came to Shanghai. As a fledgling, I'm hopeful for everything here.
I joined a foreign-related real estate agency, which is an agency specializing in real estate leasing for foreigners in China, which matches my English major very well.
It's a big company that's well-known in the industry, and I'm nervous and looking forward to it. At the beginning, the intensity of the work assigned to me was not very high, but I did my best to complete it, and the leaders recognized me wholeheartedly.
Later, I was sent by the company to other partner companies to do docking. That is, I sit at a desk at another company and work for my own company.
This made me feel very aggrieved, I always had a feeling of being under the fence, and I couldn't see the upside of my career.
But when I just graduated, I dared to have any opinions, so I had to keep everything in my heart and accept it silently. The 4-hour commute every day made me even more depressed.
(Me with a gentle personality)
The house leak happened to rain overnight, not only did my work kill my passion, but my mobile phone was also stolen, and the long-distance relationship that I had been talking about for two years came to an end.
At this time, my roommate who shared the room left Shanghai, and I had no choice but to find an older sister to live with.
But it didn't take long for us to be pushed out by the other roommates. Obviously, I was also the one who was kicked out, but my sister blamed me for everything.
She counted and blamed me, I was already in a low mood, and the fire came up as soon as I rubbed it, I haven't been angry in 25 years, and that time, all my emotions were vented.
My work is not going well, my feelings are not going well, my life is not going well, and I like to keep my heart in my heart, so I decided to be brave enough to change. So I applied to the company and went back to the headquarters to do sales.
It was a decision that changed my life. Because here, I met my husband, the man who has been with me all my life.
I'm smart and hardworking, and I billed in the first month of sales. At that time, I didn't have a car, and the company's car was often not available, and I often had to take the subway and bus for several hours to get to the community I wanted to see, and I often saw Pudong from Puxi.
(My husband's daily life with a baby)
Reversing like this every day, it's really tiring, I often just get my butt next to the seat, my eyes don't close unconsciously, I'm so sleepy, I'm really sleepy!
But I didn't feel bitter at all, and I didn't feel hopeless before. On the contrary, I feel that life is very energetic and full of infinite possibilities. Working in sales not only brings me a high income, but also gives me a lot of confidence.
Hard work pays off, and in just one and a half years, I became an excellent salesperson in the group. During that time, not only did I work smoothly, but love also came quietly.
One day in July 2016, the master stuffed me with a client, but I didn't expect it to bring me a wonderful fate.
He was Swede, blonde and blue-eyed, tall and handsome. But he looks like an off-the-beaten, with a red sweatshirt and coffee-colored pants, and a thick and shiny iron necklace on his body, which looks strange.
But who would have thought that I would end up with such a weirdo and give birth to two mixed-race babies.
The weather was bad that day, and it was raining lightly halfway through, so we braved the rain and rushed into a café, and while waiting for the rain, we chatted with each other, which was quite romantic in retrospect.
(Me and my Swedish husband)
He is very nice, and the house is settled after a day of viewing, unlike some foreigners who like to pick and choose.
The house was set, and it seemed like it was over. It wasn't until the day of the Mid-Autumn Festival that I received a message from him: "Do you want to eat together?" and the story began.
We talked for a long time during that meal, and although he and I were of different nationalities and cultures, it did not affect our consistent topic and outlook on life at all.
Since then, we've been in touch more and more often, and we've gotten closer and closer, and eventually we've become lovers.
The first Christmas we loved, I prepared a gift for him: an orange and a neck cover. Just in time for him to return to China, it is a bit of a pity that he can't celebrate the holiday together.
Unexpectedly, when he went to the hotel to video with me, he put the oranges and neck sleeves neatly on the chair, and said that they should also rest and rest, and I was with him. It's so cute with him.
When he returned, he brought me a pair of super warm snow boots, which became a token of our commitment.
(Brother with sister)
After we got together, I moved from a rental house of 500 yuan to his high-end apartment of 25,000 yuan.
From the first day I moved in, I enjoyed his pampering, waking me up every morning with my favorite Chinese meal and a "morning kiss".
It feels so good to be in love! Such a day has become the norm of life in the future, and he still maintains this habit after many years of marriage.
Whether it's Valentine's Day or birthday, even if I open an order at work, he will pay attention to it, and then buy a bouquet of flowers for me to congratulate.
For two people who are emotionally stable, no matter what contradictions arise, we have never been hysterical, at most there will be a short cold war.
As for why I never lose my temper, it's because my family of origin is very warm and has never allowed me to see a scene of family quarrels. That's what makes me feel very lucky.
My parents spoiled me since I was a child, but when they knew that my boyfriend was Swede, they firmly disagreed.
"It's too far, it's really too far. Mom couldn't help but repeat it over and over again. I know that they are afraid that I will marry far away, and I will be wronged outside and have no one to support me.
With my dearest parents on one side and my spoiled boyfriend on the other, I really can't choose.
(We toast in the sunset)
Once when I went back to my hometown, everyone came to persuade me, and I couldn't stand the pressure and burst into tears. When my parents saw me like this, they stopped talking, but I could still see the opposition in their attitudes.
At this time, the aunt who had been living in Shanghai made meritorious contributions.
She took the lead and launched an "attack" on my future husband and invited us to her house for dinner. The boyfriend is tall and thin, white and clean, gentle and polite, who doesn't love such a junior?
After the aunt got along with him, she slapped her thigh: "I think it's okay!"
With my aunt's words, I felt reassured. As long as there is a change in the direction of the wind, a large family will soon collectively "mutiny".
Later, his aunt kept praising him in front of his mother, saying that the child was good-looking, in good condition, and in good character, and it would be a pity not to catch him.
The aunt's "good" can be regarded as reversing her mother's change of opinion of her boyfriend.
In the summer of 2017, I brought my boyfriend back to my hometown. After getting along slowly, his mother saw his good qualities and recognized this foreign son-in-law.
(Big dad hugging little daughter)
Now my mother often says to me: "Look at you like this, how can you have such a good husband, it is so good for you and children......"
Her parents, like most Western parents, had no objection to our love, and with the support of both parents, we began to talk about marriage.
One day in 2018, I came back to my room and saw a diamond ring on my pillow while he was doing nothing.
"Are you proposing?" I asked, smiling.
He smiled, "yes." ”
With just two sentences, we decided to get married. My boyfriend respected our customs very much, gave a dowry of 100,000 yuan, bought a diamond ring, and had everything he should have.
In the second year of marriage, I left my old company and started my own business.
I have accumulated a lot of customer resources on hand, almost alone, and in the most fierce month, I negotiated more than 100,000 orders.
(Our wedding photo, the scenery at that time was so good)
In the midst of my career, I found out that I was pregnant, and I couldn't run around regardless of it. For the sake of the baby in my belly, I gave up my fledgling career and passed on my customers to others.
It's just that I have never regretted it, because the man behind me is really reliable. Pay when it's time to pay, and pay when it's time to contribute.
From pregnancy to giving birth to Dabao, the whole process was very smooth, I didn't even feel pain, and the baby was born.
After the child was born, her husband became a super daddy, breastfeeding, changing diapers, burping, and sleeping well. Even the storage has not been left behind, the clothes in the closet are neatly organized, and the quilt is folded like tofu blocks.
As for me, I just need to take care of my body, and I feel happy every minute.
When Dabao was 1 year old, my husband's job was transferred, and we came to Nanjing, and the resources in my hands were completely useless. But I don't feel anxious at all, because my husband gives me enough security.
(Dabao's photo, smiling happily)
But soon, we were put to the test.
When Erbao was 5 weeks pregnant, I had bleeding symptoms, and I went to the hospital for examination, only to find out that the fertilized egg had grown on the scar of the caesarean section. The doctor said that the child could not be kept, and that if it grew up and caused the scar to crack, my life would be in danger.
I chuckled in my heart, this child was conceived after we had been trying to conceive for half a year! Unwillingly, I went to several hospitals, but all the doctors told me to remove the baby immediately.
The bleeding has not stopped, I am very scared, afraid that my body will not be able to bear it, and even more afraid that the child will go away with the blood.
I didn't do what the doctor said, I wanted to gamble, bet that my condition wasn't that bad, that the kid was strong. Although my husband was very worried, he silently supported my decision and took care of all the work.
(Husband and Dabao, husband looks spoiled when he looks at the child)
Every time I went to the prenatal checkup, I was afraid that the child would not have a fetal heartbeat, and unexpectedly, the child was very tenacious.
After two months of horror, I heard that there was an expert in Wuhan who was very good at this, and he had dealt with many similar problems in the "Shengmen" documentary. So, I immediately bought a ticket and ran to Wuhan to find him.
The doctor told me that I was lucky that the placenta had fallen on the posterior wall and was no longer in the scar. I almost jumped in excitement, and my baby was finally saved.
But throughout the pregnancy, morning sickness and insomnia have been with me, I can't eat and sleep well, because the placenta position is low, I am uncomfortable, all kinds of discomfort. At this time, my husband's thoughtfulness could not make up for my physical and mental exhaustion.
At 30 weeks, the accident happened again, and I started bleeding again, and I panicked. It happened that my husband was on the way back from a business trip, and when he came back, he drove at a speed of 120 kilometers per hour and sent me to the hospital, and I cried and bled all the way.
(My daily photo with my husband)
After going to the hospital for examination, I learned that the placental abruption was made, and I had to prepare for cesarean section immediately. During the operation, I was given anesthetic and my consciousness was very blurred, which may also be the cause of excessive blood loss, and I had already lost 1000 ml of blood at that time.
The operation lasted more than 4 hours, and the child was only three pounds and six taels, and he was sent to the neonatal department after he came out, and I was so confused that I didn't know what was going on.
When I got back to the ward, someone came over to press my stomach, and I wasn't conscious, but it hurt so much that I couldn't help screaming. I felt like the paramedics were constantly running around me, shouting, "She's bleeding too much!"
Later, a doctor came in and said, "You are bleeding too much, you need to have an interventional operation right away, and if you can't stop it, you will have to cut off your uterus." ”
I'm still too young to have my uterus removed, so the doctor quickly arranged the operation.
This interventional procedure involves making a small hole in the base of the thigh and inserting a device into the hole to find the bleeding point of the uterine artery, thereby helping to stop the bleeding of the uterine artery.
(When I was hospitalized after giving birth, I had just experienced life and death)
During the operation, I was replaced with more than 3,800 milliliters of blood, and almost all of my blood was replaced. The doctor kept saying in my ear: don't fall asleep, don't fall asleep......
When I came out, I saw my husband standing there stupidly as if he had been hollowed out, at a loss.
Later, I found out that because of the language barrier, he asked the doctor, and the doctor told him that he didn't understand. At that time, he was still bombarded with phone messages from my mother and my sister, and he was being questioned for several hours during the operation, and the whole person was not good.
He didn't know what was going on, and even asked him to sign the serious illness notice, all of which were in a state of confusion.
I vaguely remember that when he saw me, he pounced, held my hand tightly, and said tremblingly, "It's too sudden, everything is too sudden...... It's safe now, it's safe at last......"
He came, and so did my sense of security. In the end, the operation was successful, the mother and daughter were safe, and we both picked up a life.
(The picture on the left is the appearance of Erbao when he was born, and he looks better when he grows up)
During the hospitalization, he was always by my side, and generally the mother would be a little depressed and anxious, but I had almost no because I was well cared for.
After this catastrophe, I recuperated for a long time, and my husband began to live a life of delay.
Today, he gets up at half past five every day to make breakfast, then calls Dabao up to wash up, takes him to school, and then goes to work. And I, Erbao and I slept until we woke up naturally, and then began to take her around to play.
As long as he was at home, the two children were handed over to him. He said: It doesn't matter if you want to work, you want to be at home, as long as you're happy.
Now my life is simple, happy and beautiful.
I read such a sentence: "When I was a child, happiness was a simple thing. Growing up, simplicity is a happy thing. ”
(Baby's birthday party, we are really happy)
I think I realized it. I am grateful to have met him in this life, for giving me happiness and everything.
If a woman can manage her marriage well and take care of her children, it is not a success. The future is still long, and we will do it and cherish it.
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[Dictator: Zhang Ni]
[Editor: Yihuier]
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