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My name is Li Xuefang, I am 30 years old and I am an accountant. I am married, my husband's name is Li Ming, and we also have an 8-year-old daughter, Xiaoyu.
Every Chinese New Year, our family will become a big family. Friends and relatives will come to my house to celebrate the New Year together. Over the years, the burden of preparing the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner has almost entirely weighed on me alone, leaving me physically and mentally exhausted every time. This year, I decided I wanted to change that.
A few days ago, I discussed this matter with my husband Li Ming: "My dear, the new year is coming, and the preparation of our family's Chinese New Year's Eve dinner is busy by me every time, and I am really tired." This year I want to try to change it so that everyone brings their own home-cooked food to eat together, what do you think?"
Li Ming patiently listened to what I said, and nodded: "I understand your thoughts, you have indeed taken on too much housework over the years, and it is very hard every time you celebrate the New Year." If you don't want to cook a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, I fully support your decision, and it's a good idea for everyone to share it together. "
I looked at Li Ming with gratitude, he has always been a considerate and good husband. I knew he would understand what I was thinking. "That's it, I'll send you a message later. "
Friends and relatives who received my message had different reactions. Some people understood my thoughts very well and said that they would try their best to cooperate; Others are unhappy. My cousin Wang Li called and said in a not very friendly tone: "Xuefang, how can you do this? Every year we celebrate the New Year at your house, can't you hold on a little longer? Everyone is used to having Chinese New Year's Eve dinner at your house, and this sudden change of heart is inevitably a little unsympathetic." "
I patiently explained, "Sister Li, I know that everyone is used to spending the New Year at my house, but I have been taking on most of the preparation work over the years, which makes me feel very tired. This year, I want to change a little bit and share the burden together, and I believe everyone can understand. "
Wang Li was silent for a while, and then said, "But can't you hold on any longer?" We are all looking forward to having Chinese New Year's Eve dinner at your house every year." "
I sighed: "Sister Li, I really appreciate everyone's trust and dependence on me, but I also need to have my own time. I hope that everyone will understand my position and share this matter together. "
I know that Wang Li's reaction is not surprising, after all, everyone is used to celebrating the New Year in my house, and my rejection of this tradition will inevitably cause some controversy. But I stick to my own ideas and hope that everyone will understand.
Over the course of a few days, more and more friends and relatives called or messaged me to express their opinions. Some people understood my position and said that they would try to cooperate; But there are also quite a few people who oppose it, thinking that I am too selfish to do so. My mother-in-law even came directly to my house and said emotionally, "Xuefang, how can you do this? We celebrate the New Year at your house every year, everyone is used to it, why do you suddenly change? Don't you want the whole family to have a happy New Year?"
I explained sincerely, "Mom, I know this is a big change for everyone, but I have been burdened too much by myself over the years, and I am physically and mentally exhausted every time I celebrate the New Year. I'm just trying to get everyone to share the preparations, and I'm sure everyone can understand what I'm thinking. "
The mother-in-law frowned, and her tone still didn't quite agree: "However, it is our tradition to celebrate the New Year in your house every year, and your sudden change now will inevitably make everyone unaccustomed to it." Besides, you're not alone, our family can help. "
I soothed my mother-in-law's hand: "Mom, I know your concerns, but I really need some time for myself. I believe that as long as we all work together, we will be able to find a way that everyone is satisfied with. "
My mother-in-law sighed, but finally said that she would try her best to cooperate with my decision. I looked at her gratefully, hoping that everyone would understand my thoughts.
In the past few days of controversy, I have gradually developed some hesitation in my heart. I was afraid that my decision would affect my family's feelings, and I even regretted my decision. But anyway, I decided to stick to my idea.
Finally, it was the day of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner. I started preparing this meal early in the morning. Although I still have some anxiety inside, I also feel like I have made the right choice.
Relatives and friends came one after another, some took the initiative to help, but others were very unhappy. I tried my best to maintain a harmonious atmosphere, but the anxiety in my heart was always there.
When it was time for dinner, our family finally sat down at the table. Everyone began to express their opinions, and some people blamed me for being too selfish; There were also people who supported my decision, believing that it was best to share the burden this way. The two sides faced each other, and the atmosphere was very tense.
I felt so guilty that tears rolled in my eyes. I was afraid that my decision would ruin everyone's feelings, and I even began to regret my decision.
At this moment, Li Ming stood up and unexpectedly defended me: "Listen to me, Xuefang is not doing this because of selfishness, but because she has taken on too much housework alone over the years. We should all understand her thoughts, and we should also take the initiative to help, so that everyone can relax and have a good year. "
Li Ming's words instantly quieted the entire dining table. Everyone seems to have realized their mistakes and began to reflect on their attitudes.
Finally, my aunt was the first to speak, "Xuefang, we really should be considerate of your thoughts. In the future, we will all share the work of preparing the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, so that you can also enjoy this festival. "
Others agreed, offering to help. I was moved to accept their help, and tears rolled down my cheeks.
Seeing everyone take the initiative to lend a hand, I felt both touched and relieved. Over the years, I have taken on too many housework by myself, and I am physically and mentally exhausted every time I celebrate the New Year. But I never complained, just did all the work in silence.
Now, I finally mustered up the courage to present my idea to my family, and I have the support of my husband, Li Ming. I didn't expect that, after some debate, everyone would finally be able to understand and accept my decision.
I've been worried about how my decision will affect my family's feelings, but now it seems that it has brought us closer together. We shared the work together, and we also got to know each other better. I feel very relieved that the pressure I have been bearing is not something that I have to bear alone.
With everyone's help, the preparation of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner went smoothly. The kitchen is crowded with people, everyone you and I say a word, and cooperate tacitly. I was delighted to see the familiar figure busy, and my heart warmed.
In this way, we came together to share this warm moment. Although the meals were not as rich as in previous years, we all had a good time. I think this is the real Chinese New Year.
This experience made me realize that the balance between family and personal needs is very important. In the past, I have always put the needs of my family first and neglected my own. But now I understand that I can only better meet the needs of my family if I also get the rest and relaxation I deserve.
I am determined that in the coming Chinese New Year, we must discuss the division of labor in advance, so that everyone can truly enjoy this important festival. I will discuss with Li Ming and his family to see what they think about this issue. Only when everyone discusses and solves it together can we make this traditional festival a moment that we all look forward to.
Just as I was basking in such joy, my phone rang suddenly. It turned out to be my best friend, who is also a member of our big family.
"Hey, Xuefang, are you okay?" I just heard that your family's Chinese New Year's Eve dinner has changed a little this year, and I'm worried about you. "
I smiled softly: "Ah Fang, I'm fine, thank you very much for your concern." Did you know that this change has actually made our home more harmonious? Everyone took the initiative to help, and I also got the rest I deserved, and this festival was very fulfilling. "
Ah Fang listened to my words and breathed a sigh of relief: "That's great! I knew you would be able to find a solution." Xuefang, you have always been a very strong person, and I am really happy for you. "
"Yes, this experience has taught me that I need to take care of my family's needs as well as my own. In the future, our family will definitely discuss it well and make everyone feel comfortable. "
"You're quite right, the balance between family and personal needs is really important. You have made the right choice, and I believe that the preparation of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner in the future will be smoother. Ah Fang's tone was full of appreciation.
I smiled and said, "I also believe that in the future, our family will definitely find a way to satisfy everyone." I'm glad I made this decision, which gave me the rest I deserved and strengthened my connection with my family. "
"I'm so happy for you, Xuefang. You are so strong and kind, I believe that you will be able to run your family and business well. Happy New Year!" Ah Fang said sincerely.
"Happy New Year, Ah Fang, we must celebrate this festival and get together together!"
When I hung up, I was filled with satisfaction. I learned a lot from this experience, not only to get the rest I deserved, but also to strengthen the connection between me and my family. I believe that the preparation of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner will be smoother in the future, and our family will definitely find a way to satisfy everyone and gather together in this warm festival.
A month after the New Year, Li Ming and I discussed the matter of this Chinese New Year's Eve dinner. We decided that we would come to my house for a gathering during the Chinese New Year in the future, but we would discuss with our families in advance to see what ideas and suggestions everyone had.
"My dear, this Chinese New Year event has given us all a new understanding. Although I was very busy and tired by myself, everyone took the initiative to help in the end, which made me feel very warm. I held Li Ming's hand and said sincerely.
Li Ming nodded knowingly: "Yes, I'm also very happy." In the past, our family was used to gathering at your house for the Chinese New Year, but I never thought you would take on so much pressure. This experience taught us all that it is important to have a balance between family and personal needs. "
"Yes, that's what I thought, too. Later, we will discuss with our families to see what everyone thinks, and then divide the work together. I believe that as long as everyone participates, the preparation of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner will be much easier. I said seriously.
A few days later, we invited our family to discuss the matter. Everyone was very cooperative and put forward a lot of suggestions and ideas. It has been said that people can take turns meeting in everyone's house; Someone suggested that we could prepare some of the dishes together instead of having to cook them all at my house.
After discussion, we finally decided that in the future, everyone would take turns to gather at different people's homes during the Chinese New Year, and everyone would take part of the preparations. For example, some people are in charge of the main course, some people are in charge of the dessert, and some people are in charge of the decoration. We have also set up a family WeChat group where people can communicate with each other and discuss the division of labor.
"That way, everyone can do their part and no one else will have to work too hard. And by taking turns to get together, our feelings will also be more intimate. "I say to everyone.
Everyone agreed, and some added: "Yes, yes, yes, not only is it easy, but we can also take care of each other and have a good year together." "
Seeing the lively discussion, I smiled with satisfaction. Over the years, I have been busy preparing Chinese New Year's Eve dinner and rarely have time to enjoy the festival. But now, through everyone's consultation and cooperation, I believe that the preparation of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner will be smoother in the future.
"Then it's decided, let's do it this way. Happy New Year, everyone!" I say it from the bottom of my heart.
"Happy New Year!" Everyone said in unison.
When I got home, I hugged Li Ming, "Husband, I really appreciate you for always supporting me." If I hadn't had you by my side, I wouldn't have had the courage to present my ideas with my family. "
Li Ming hugged me gently: "My dear, I feel very relieved to let you have the rest you deserve." In the future, our family will definitely live a happier and more happy life. "
"Yes, I also believe that our family will live more harmoniously in the future. This experience taught me to balance the needs of my family and my individual, and it also brought us closer together. I say from the bottom of my heart.
"You're quite right. The balance between family and personal needs is very important, and we must adhere to this principle, and I believe that the preparation of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner in the future will be much smoother. Li Ming nodded seriously.
"Well, let's work together. I believe that as long as we work hand in hand, our family will be able to live a happier life. I looked at Li Ming affectionately.
Since then, the way we celebrate the New Year as a family has changed, but our relationship has become more intimate. Whenever the end of the year is approaching, I will discuss the division of labor with my family, and everyone will gather together in this warm festival.
I know it's just a microcosm of our family life. Each family has its own needs and characteristics, and it is necessary to find a suitable way according to the actual situation. But I believe that as long as we can communicate sincerely and understand each other, we will find a way to satisfy everyone and enjoy the warm moments of the festival together.