How guarded is the husband and wife? The one who collects 50,000 yuan in interest from her husband is too business-minded
Defensiveness between husband and wife
"I accepted the interest of 50,000 yuan. Thank you husband for your trust. I sat on the couch, facing my somewhat stunned husband, and gently placed a note with the amount of interest on the coffee table.
He looked a little incredulous, and his brows tightened: "You...... How can you do that? We are husband and wife, how can you charge me interest?"
I smiled slightly, but there was a hint of bitterness in my heart. The 50,000 yuan was originally lent to a friend by him without me, but after I found out, he wanted to settle things in this way. I didn't really want it, I just wanted to see what choices he would make when it came to money and marriage.
"Don't husbands and wives need a little guarded?" I asked, my voice not high, but full of firmness.
He froze, as if he didn't expect me to say that. We have been married for many years and have always respected each other, but this incident is like a mirror, reflecting each other's bottom guards.
"Defensive?" he muttered, as if pondering the meaning of the word.
"Yes, defensive. I nodded, and continued, "Do you think you are respecting me by lending money to a friend without telling me? And I, just in this way, let you understand that I also have my bottom line and principles. ”
He was silent, and I knew my words touched his heart. Husbands and wives are supposed to be the most intimate, but the reality is often not the case. Money, family, friends...... These seemingly simple things can become a barrier between us.
"I ...... I was wrong. He finally spoke, his voice a little hoarse, "I shouldn't hide it from you, and I shouldn't handle things this way. ”
I sighed, and slowly let go of my defenses. I know that although there is a rift between us this incident, as long as we are willing to communicate and understand, this rift can be repaired.
"Shouldn't we be more honest in the future?" I asked tentatively.
He nodded, a hint of determination flashing in his eyes: "Yes, we have to be honest with each other and no longer have any defenses. ”
From that day on, we started a new way of getting along. We learned to communicate openly and honestly, and we learned to respect each other's opinions and choices. Although there will be some small frictions from time to time, we all know that it is because we care about each other that we care so much about each other's feelings.
And I slowly let go of my defense. I began to believe that as long as we manage this marriage with our hearts and tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings with love, our marriage will definitely get better and better.
Time flies like water, and in the blink of an eye, we have gone through this turmoil. In retrospect, that argument and defense may have been a test in our marriage. And it is this test that makes us cherish each other more and walk together more firmly.
Nowadays, whenever someone mentions that incident, I smile and say, "The defensiveness between husband and wife is actually a sign of love." It's just that we need to learn to handle it correctly and make it a scenery in our marriage, not a hurdle. ”
And he always nodded in agreement, his eyes full of happiness and satisfaction. We know that no matter what difficulties and challenges we will encounter in the future, as long as we work hand in hand and manage this marriage with heart, we will definitely be able to go further and be more stable.
Over time, we have come to understand that defensiveness in husband and wife is not entirely bad. Moderate precautions, like a line of defense, can protect us from harm and avoid the risks that come with too much trust. However, excessive precautions can become an obstacle and create a gap between each other's hearts and minds, making it difficult to truly blend.
I remember one time an old friend of his, who came out of the blue, wanted to borrow money for an emergency. He was a little hesitant at the time, after all, it was not a small amount. When he asked for my opinion, I told him, "You can decide for yourself, but I want you to know that whatever you choose, I will support you." ”
He looked at me with a flash of gratitude in his eyes. He told me that he had already made the decision and just wanted to hear what I had to say. In the end, he lent his friend the money, and the friend returned the money within the agreed time.
This experience has made us more aware that defensiveness does not mean that we become suspicious, but that we need to keep a clear head and face the challenges of life rationally. We can trust each other, but we also need to learn to protect ourselves from getting ourselves into unnecessary trouble.
In addition to this, we have also learned to maintain a certain degree of independence in marriage. Instead of relying too much on each other, we strive to develop our own interests and careers. In this way, we can enjoy the warmth and happiness that marriage brings, while maintaining personal freedom and independence.
In the process, we are constantly adjusting our mentality and role. We are no longer the children who only know how to ask, but have become mature partners who are willing to give for the family and think about each other. We have learned to tolerate and understand, to find balance in quarrels, and to support each other in the midst of difficulties.
Now, we have gone through many years of married life. Our relationship has not only not faded because of the passage of time, but has become deeper because of all kinds of trials. We know that as long as we manage this marriage with our hearts and water it with love, it will definitely bloom more beautifully.
Thinking back to the dispute over the 50,000 yuan interest, I can't help but feel emotional. At that time, we were too young to know how to deal with all kinds of problems in marriage. But now, we have learned how to maintain balance and harmony in our marriage, how to find a path to happiness between each other's defensive hearts.
There is still a long way to go, and we still have many unknown challenges to face. But I believe that as long as we go hand in hand and warm each other's hearts with love, we will be able to overcome every difficulty and usher in a better future.
In the defensive hearts of husband and wife, we find growth and transformation in each other. It makes us more mature and stronger, and it also makes us cherish this hard-won marriage even more. We will continue to walk hand in hand, forever.
As time goes by, our married life becomes more and more colorful. We are no longer just husband and wife, but also indispensable companions, friends and confidants in each other's lives.
Once, I received a strange phone call from someone who claimed to be my husband's creditor and asked my husband to pay the debt immediately. I was nervous, but I quickly calmed down. I didn't immediately believe the other party's words, but communicated with my husband first to understand the truth of the matter.
My husband told me that it was indeed an old account for him, but that he had already negotiated a plan to repay the loan in instalments. The reason he didn't tell me was because he was afraid that I would be worried. I listened to his explanation, and the defense in my heart slowly let go. I didn't blame him for hiding it from me, but chose to understand and support.
I told him, "Let's face this together." I believe in your abilities and in our ability to get through this together. ”
He looked at me with gratitude and trust in his eyes. Together, we made a repayment plan and executed it exactly. Eventually, we managed to pay off that debt and make our marriage stronger.
This experience has made us realize that the defensiveness of husband and wife is not about hiding and deceiving each other, but about learning to be honest with each other and face life's challenges together. We can have our own secrets and spaces, but when we face difficulties and challenges, we should choose to go hand in hand and face them together.
Today, we have been married for decades. Our relationship has not only not faded because of the passage of time, but has become deeper because of all kinds of trials. We have learned to find balance and harmony between each other's defensiveness, and we have learned to grow and progress together in our marriage.
We are no longer afraid of the challenges and difficulties ahead, because we know that as long as we work together and warm each other's hearts with love, we can overcome all difficulties and usher in a better future.
Looking back on the past, we are full of emotion, and looking forward to the future, we are full of confidence. We know that our married life still has a long way to go, but we are willing to go on forever.
In the days to come, we will continue to work together to create our own happy time. We will appreciate the beautiful scenery of life together and taste the ups and downs of life together. We will support and encourage each other to meet every new challenge and opportunity together.
In the defensive heart between husband and wife, we find the strength to grow and transform. It makes us more mature and stronger, and it also makes us cherish this hard-won marriage even more. We will cherish and love each other until the last moment of our lives.
In closing, I would like to say that defensiveness between husband and wife is not scary, the key is how we face and deal with it. As long as we manage our marriage with our hearts and warm each other's hearts with love, we will be able to find the path to happiness and keep going.
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