Why do people nowadays "talk about marriage and change color"? The reason why such a thing happens is that there is not a problem with marriage itself, but the way things are done in marriage.
Social concepts have changed, outlook on life has changed, and people have not understood the nature of marriage and how to maintain it. In the past, there was a system to restrain people's behavior, but now that the system has changed, the problem has arisen.
So it is necessary to understand why men and women come together in marriage, what do men and women get in marriage, and what do men and women care about?
If this continues, the best marriage is cohabitation! Men and women have no burden, and children out of wedlock also have the right to inherit in law! Cohabitation will not affect men and women, nor will it affect both parties, and if you don't love it, you will find it again, and there will be no economic disputes! This should be the most in line with the marriage values of contemporary women, right?
Most of the current divorce rates occur in women, women are financially independent, and they don't want men to rely on, so they can talk to whoever they want because they won't pay much cost in divorce, divorce today, and be able to sleep with another man tomorrow.
But men are different, if they are divorced today, they may not be able to sleep with another woman in this life, so most of the reasons for divorce are women.
There are too many desires of people, and the desire is difficult to settle, which is the root cause of the instability of the marital relationship, if people only pursue normal eating, sleeping, and loving love, every couple will feel very happy!
Now in these years, women are bullying men, not men bullying women, now women are independent by themselves, with their own reliability, who will get married?
In addition, there are a lot of homosexuals in China in recent years, exceeding almost 100 million, and this social development is indeed terrible, including society, capital, science and technology, and human human rights, including status, are crushing people.
In today's society, the institution of marriage is a system that restricts human nature, so it is not recognized by modern young people.
Male superiority and female inferiority only look like male superiority and female inferiority on the surface, but in fact, it is not the equality of men and women, but people have made the equality of men and women in the past into the appearance of male superiority and inferiority, and now the equality of men and women has become strong women and weak men.
Why is there so much divorce rate, now that the conditions for women are high, so her needs are also high. The disagreement between the two is also one thing, but the economic conditions are the most important, once the man's economic conditions do not meet the needs, the idea of divorce will arise.
Divorce once, and then get married again, is an income, so women want to open. We have been married four times and divorced four times in this place, and calculate how much income she has, and now there are too many men in China and few women, which is the advantage of women, so there is a high divorce rate.
Equality between men and women will inevitably lead to an explosion in the divorce rate, and equality between men and women can increase employment and increase productivity. Then, in the future, the marriage system can only be changed.
The divorce rate is high, and the most important reason is that only children are selfish, self-serving, greedy, extravagant, arrogant, and arrogant.
There are too many selfish people, and the idea of self-centered money worship is rampant, and it is imperceptibly caused by the bright lights of society.
Most people's marriage needs to be run in patience and bondage, endurance is not enough, no bondage is one of the important reasons for the high divorce rate, the general environment is not suitable for thinking and spirit to enter marriage without maturity.
Since the beginning of the ages, a good time for women has come, the remarriage of women in the past is too difficult, and now strange things are coming, whether it is a good family and a secret prostitute, and a hundred marriages are not worrying about home, and men are miserable Divorce once means that the family is bankrupt, not sad!
The essence of marriage is not the satisfaction of the emotional needs of two people. The essence of marriage is the maximization of the interests of two people or even two families, and the former is the essence of love.
Nowadays, people often say that marriage is insecure, why is this so, and how to get to the heart of the problem?
Recently, I saw a Daren video, and I felt that it talked about the essence of the problem: "people first", that is, love first loves people, and people should be put first, and then rational use of materials, so that people can sort out the relationship between various complex marital life and not hurt people's interests because of material interests.
Social progress, changes in economic status, changes in the worldview of the concept of family, and the goal of pursuing greater happiness and yearning for it, the phenomenon of divorce in society is proud of the phenomenon of divorce, and the phenomenon of divorce in love, death, and marriage is endless.
Marrying a Chinese woman should be carefully considered, cheating and betrayal, highly reliable, and there are few people who live a down-to-earth life, how many people can sincerely pay, understand, tolerate, treat feelings, be loyal, and refuse to love people, marrying Russian, North Korean, and Vietnamese women is much more reliable than Chinese women.
And with the development of the country, to be honest, from the 90s to the post-00s, this group of only children who grew up have become selfish and selfish because of their parents' education problems, and it is difficult to get along with others.
The divorce rate of the post-80s and post-90s generations has reached 45%, and marrying a loved one may be a naïve choice.
Divorce is a very taboo "sensitive word" in the mouths of the post-50s and post-60s, and in the eyes of the 1970s, divorce has never been a glorious thing. But after the 80s and 90s, divorce suddenly seemed more normal.
Including now, there are fewer reliable people who live a down-to-earth life, fewer people who can live a good life with you, and there are fewer people who know that they feel sorry for each other, and there are not many people who are honest with each other when they have something to discuss.
It is not easy for two people to be together, and it is not easy for two people to cherish together, and it is not easy for two people to be together, and it is too hurtful to be true to get married, so that you can go for a lifetime!
People love the new and hate the old, and the same is true for marriage. If both parties, or at least one person, can create novelty on a regular basis, the marriage is more likely to survive. Otherwise, it is easy to disperse. Seeing someone new is like seeing a new dress, and you always have the urge to want it.
Comparing with each other has led to more and more divorce laws, and the Internet and poisonous chicken soup have also created extreme marital relationships. The gap between the rich and the poor is too big, those who have money talk about pomp, those who don't have money want to keep up, and those who don't have the brains to consume in advance make it difficult to maintain their lives, and finally divorce in failure.
The speed of reform and opening up is too fast, and rich people spoil houses, schools, and hospitals, making it difficult for many young people to get married, and there is no need to talk about divorce.
I conclude that the problem of most contemporary marriages is the chaos brought about by the excessive emancipation of women. A woman's lack of talent is virtue, and there is no reason why there is too much poisonous chicken soup.
In the past, cars and horses were very slow, and there was only enough love for one person in a lifetime, but now, in this era when feelings are like fast food, it is really difficult to find a true love, so make every emotional decision and don't let yourself regret it.