I have read a sentence: The temperature of a home determines a person's happiness.
This is true, in this life, whether it is the growth of a young person or the marriage after an old age, it is inseparable from the nourishment of a person by the family.
In life, home is the support of our difficulties, the harbor when we are tired, and the softest corner of our hearts.
Who has never imagined the scene of family sitting idly and amiably lit, and who has never envied the happiness harvested in the simplest days.
And such a scenario is often inseparable from the joint management of everyone in this family.
A person's best practice often starts at home.
Huang Shiming once shared a story of his own.
He said that when he was decorating his house before, he always tried his best to buy the best furniture and make the best design.
Thinking that since you have to spend this money, you have to decorate this home to the way you want it most within the scope of your ability.
As a result, he put his heart and soul into it here, and paid money.
The mother on the side saw it, but she always sighed and complained: Alas, it's good that you pretend like this, but you spent so much money.
Every time his mother said that, the anger in his heart was aroused.
I especially want to be angry with my mother.
At that moment, he felt that he had created those good things in this world and encountered a collapsed human nervous system
But after 15 seconds of calm, he still persuaded himself to think about it.
Retract the anger you want to send, take root in the earth, and let yourself relax.
He knew in his heart that his mother had always been such a person, and the older generation had experienced a barren era, and they would indeed be extra sensitive to money spending.
If you break down at this time and say things that hurt your mother, the result is often bad for yourself and your family.
After figuring it out, he went to comfort his mother: Mom, rest assured, rest assured, you just have to enjoy it.
He was a little dissatisfied, so he said, "I'll do mine, you say yours, bye."
The main one does not interfere with each other.
As a result, after he really did everything, he invited his mother to live in.
Mom's first words were: Wow, that's great.
Past efforts were suddenly recognized.
Huang Shiming said, in fact, such scenes often appear in our lives, when I was a child, as a child, you have no choice, you can only passively receive.
But at this age, it's your responsibility to respond to her.
In small things, not arguing with your family about right and wrong will not only broaden your mood, but more importantly, maintain the warmth of the family, and also make everyone in this family live happily.
It seems to be embarrassing for myself for a while, but this is not a kind of spiritual practice.
A few days ago, there was a video on the Internet that went viral.
A mother hides behind the gate with her two daughters, wanting to surprise her father.
That day was the 10th anniversary of their marriage.
Surveillance footage shows that Dad came back not long after, and when he came back, he had flowers and cakes in his hands.
It's just that the father has already opened the door and walked to the mother and daughter, and when the mother has already shouted "surprise!", the salute in the child's hand has not been opened.
Seeing this, Dad immediately walked out.
As he walked, he said, "Don't worry, don't worry, I didn't see anything." ”
Then, re-enter the door.
This time, he really walked in as if he didn't know anything, humming a little song.
Only this time, the salute in the hands of the children still failed to open.
Seeing the helpless appearance of his daughter-in-law and children, Dad wanted to laugh a little.
began to instruct on the spot: "Make a little effort, face your head, and collapse here." ”
In fact, he could have not had to go back again, but he couldn't bear to disappoint his family, so Dad went out again with the gifts.
The third time I opened the door and came in.
This time, the salute in the child's hand was finally drawn.
Dad held his heart and cooperated: "Oops, scare me." ”
Knowingly, everyone asked, "What day is today?"
I gave my mother and the kids a big hug.
Some people say that they feel very happy to watch such a scene, even if there are some small episodes in the process, but the men and women have never complained.
On the contrary, he cooperated with the other party to complete this "surprise giveaway".
Yes, whose life can go on on a trajectory without mistakes, in this field of life, we will more or less encounter small tests in life.
Compared to those who blame their partners at every turn, they find fault with each other from time to time.
Such a family atmosphere is the envy of many people.
A good family environment is indispensable for the common maintenance of two people.
I heard a friend tell a story about the relationship between her uncle and aunt at home, and it always seemed so warm.
After in-depth understanding, I found out that the root of maintaining this warm relationship is that the two people never turn over old accounts.
If you forget to pay the electricity bill, you only talk about the one thing that you forgot to pay the electricity bill.
The meal I prepared for the trip was not cooked, so I thought about how to improve it next time.
Even if there are real problems in the relationship sometimes, it's just a matter of facts.
Instead of going around in your head over and over again, and finally coming up with a "you're always like this" answer to slander the other person.
So if you look at their relationship, it seems that no matter what time it is, it seems that it is so harmonious.
Look at the other people around you.
Too many partners in life are always good at being other people's "professional bad reviewers".
No matter what you say or do, it is difficult to get the other person's approval.
Even many times, it is clear that you have just done a small thing wrong, but the other party can always pick out all your mistakes in the past.
On the one hand, it shows that you have an amazing memory, and on the other hand, it counts you as useless.
Just imagine, how can you live a good life with such a person?
In life, it is inevitable to make mistakes, especially in a family.
It is often said that being outside is a place to show one's superiority, while home is a place to show one's vulnerability.
If you can't be yourself easily at home, on the contrary, you will incur resentment and anger.
It is undoubtedly an ordeal for everyone in this home.
In the face of effective solution to problems, it is easy not to turn over old accounts and not mention old things, which is one of the conditions for a family's stable development.
Qi Shanhong, a master of Chinese culture, once said: Family is the first dojo of life.
Why?
Because family is the starting point of life, from birth to growth, your starting point is here.
Your relationship with your relatives must be very close most of the time, and if you treat your relatives very badly, then your kindness to others must be very shallow.
On the contrary, if you can find more beauty in the other person while discovering the shortcomings of the other person in close interactions, then your family relationship is bound to be harmonious.
From family relationships to the outside world, it can also be handled more harmoniously.
This is also why, the original family is a Shura field customized for everyone.
In such a Shura field, if you can understand that home is a place of love, not a place of reason.
You can run a good family with people close to you, and you can continue to practice in the process, so that you can gain a more peaceful heart and a warmer relationship.
Every warm home needs to be run by two people.