Ouyang Nana's family is on the hot search again.
Ouyang Nana's mother, Fu Juan, was recently asked on the show about the origin of the names of the three sisters, and specially brought out the name of her youngest daughter Ouyang Didi to explain.
In the past, the word "di" was usually equated with patriarchal preference and "hope to have a boy".
And Ouyang Didi is the third daughter in the family, so there have always been rumors that the original meaning of this name is "hope is the younger brother".
But in this regard, Fu Juan's statement is-
"Everyone thinks that I took Ouyang Didi because I wanted a boy, but in fact, there really isn't, not at all. ”
During the conversation, he also began to recall the process of naming Ouyang Didi:
Because he is the third child in the family, he follows the names of his two sisters, Ouyang Nini and Ouyang Nana, and superimposes the word "female" next to it.
In the end, she chose between Ouyang Didi and Ouyang Meimei, and decided that her name was Didi.
But Fu Juan's response did not dispel the doubts of netizens.
On the one hand, netizens questioned "There are so many Chinese characters next to the female character, why do you have to choose the controversial one";
On the one hand, fans explained that "the word Di itself does not contain a derogatory meaning, what is the misinterpretation that causes misunderstanding";
Why is it so controversial just a name?
Regarding Ouyang Didi's name, although the concerns of netizens are not complete, they are not groundless.
Someone found that in a clip of "Kangxi is Coming" in the early years, when her daughter's name was mentioned, she said:
"At first, I must have hoped that he was a man, so I kept calling her Didi, so don't change it. ”
Although the original intention was not to "recruit a brother" or anything like that, Ouyang Didi had not yet been born, and when she didn't know her gender, Fu Juan really wanted a boy more.
And the name "Didi" also brought a lot of trouble to Ouyang Didi.
When I was a child, I was often mistaken for a boy because of my name, and I would whisper "I'm not a boy" on the show;
was asked directly by the host Xiao S: "So your mother gave birth to you because she wanted to give birth to a younger brother, did she give birth to you?"
Faced with such a question, she was also shy and a little confused, hugged her sister's arm and said, "I don't know either."
Although Fu Juan denied it on the spot at that time, she first said that because the person with "Di" in her name was good-looking and had a good temperament;
Later, he countered on the spot: "That's your mother's idea, not mine."
Source: "Kangxi is Coming"
However, several clarifications over the years may also prove that whether intentionally or unintentionally, the parties are not unaware of the dispute over "Di".
As Fu Juan said, Xiao S Xu Xidi, who asked Ouyang Didi questions at that time, is an example.
is different from Fu Juan's later denial, Xiao S's mother herself admitted on the show: Xiao S Xu Xidi, who is the third daughter in the family, means "I hope to have another younger brother".
There is also a name, Tingting, which is taken from the cessation of giving birth to a daughter. Source: Screenshot of the program
In fact, the meaning of "di" itself is not complicated.
In the relevant interpretation, the literal meaning of "di" refers to the younger sister or the younger brother's wife.
It's just that in daily life, the obscure usage of "di" is probably better known.
For example, Xiao S's name - what he wants is "brother", so he uses homonyms on his daughter's name.
In many books and film and television works, the word "di" is also mostly derived from this meaning when used as a name.
Source: "Mother's Road"
Whether parents love their children evenly or not, and how much they invest, may not be judged by one name.
But it is undeniable that women in the name of Di have long become a situation.
In the discussion about "Di", there is a hot question: Is it possible to call Di's family but not patriarchal?
There is a highly praised answer in the comment area:
When the parents' expectations for the child are not the child itself, but the wishes and expectations of other people, do you think the parents really love the child? ”
"Behind almost every 'Di', there is a pair of disappointed parents.
From the moment she was born, she wrote naked disappointment on her face and engraved her name. ”
Every "Di" is also destined to their own fate from then on, and they come to this world not to be themselves, but to be sisters who take care of their younger brothers.
Unlike Ouyang Didi, most girls with "Di" in their names will be combined with some verbs.
In Mo Yan's novel "Rich Breasts and Fat Buttocks", his mother, Shangguan Lu, gave birth to eight daughters, who are called:
Come to the younger brother, recruit the younger brother, lead the younger brother, miss the younger brother, look forward to the younger brother, ask for the younger brother and the jade girl (and the son "Golden Boy" is the dragon and phoenix fetus).
almost wrote the desire for "brother".
From the first to the eighth, from "come" to "beg", the desire to have a son is becoming stronger and more resolute, more straightforward and sharp, and it doesn't matter how the daughter's name accompanies her for life.
The novel more than 20 years ago was a magical reality, and more than 20 years later, there are also magical reflections into reality.
On the short video platform, a man posted nine daughters and a son, with an extremely straightforward text:
"What's wrong with me just wanting to have both children?"
And "Di" is sometimes too straightforward, and people always have unexpected cruel creativity in expressing their desire to have a boy.
Actress Zhang Ruonan, who was born in 1996, said in the variety show "Send a Hundred Girls Home" that her original name was Zhang Ruonan.
"Because my family really wants boys. ”
Jiang Nansun, one of the heroines in "The Golden Years", was unable to do so because her grandmother wanted a grandson, so she took the homonym of "male grandson".
Source: "The Golden Years"
Some netizens shared that they knew a girl named Meiwaist, and they thought it was very special and good-sounding, but they only knew after asking:
I chose this name because when I was a child, my grandmother saw that she was a girl and hoped that she would die early.
In the end, it was the mother who went on a hunger strike in exchange for a beautiful word, so as to survive in the cracks.
Girls who grow up with similar names will gradually understand from the beginning of literacy, or even earlier:
The "Jade Girl" is regarded as an additional gift to the "Golden Boy", while the "Zhaodi" is just a wrapping paper that is regarded as a "godsend".
Over time, more troubles followed:
"What do my parents expect from me?"
"What do people think when they hear a name?"
"Am I really worse than a boy?"
The desire to have a son is written into the daughter's life;
And the daughter will be accompanied by ridicule and humiliation all her life, and she will have to confront her gender.
They may be educated not to compete with boys for things, as small as chicken legs on the dinner table, electric fans in summer, and as big as a marriage house;
Or because of gender, they get less support or even lose family resources, talking about academic investment is "if you are a boy, you will definitely send you to study abroad", and when it comes to future planning, "if you have a boy, you need to prepare a house early, and it will be much easier for girls"......
Even if she is an only child, sometimes she is always competing with the "invisible brother", and she can't escape "if only you were a boy".
In the discussion board about names on social platforms, there is a category of names that are often mentioned.
They often form a strong contrast with the "Zhaodi": Ruo Man, Sheng Man, Asian Man, Sai Nan......
But if you look at the hidden meaning behind it, it seems that no matter whether the girl is good or not, she is always competing with another "boy".
"Boys are the best solution, boys are superlative. ”
Those who want to have sons give birth to their daughters by various names to pray for the next child;
The girl's name is "mold", "stop" and "annoying", and the boy is "Ying", because he finally complied with his wishes
People who can't regenerate for various reasons can only reluctantly put a template on their daughter-
"You have to look like a boy. ”
Looking back on the history of women's name changes, it is a history of women's fate who were invaded, disliked, compared, and sighed.
The girl called "Di" struggles with the fog of gender from birth.
Fight against your name, reconcile with the fact that you are not loved, and rebuild your life.
Born with a "debt"
The girl who was called superfluous struggled to squeeze out a wry smile in the names of those good wishes.
"My name doesn't contain expectations of me. ”
The third girl in the family, who was reluctant to even look at it at birth, was named "redundant" / Source: "Golden Wedding"
Girls called Wakao, Katsuo, and A-man have been born with a ghost called "Man" hanging above their heads.
It is the baseline of life, and it is either always trembling to get closer to the expectations of your parents, or it is a PUA that you can't escape and is trapped for a lifetime.
The girl who is called Di and the girl who is not called Di are all carrying a similar life together.
She may be a grandmother or grandmother without a name, a XX family in the ancestral hall with her husband's surname and her mother's name, and a "slut" and "old slave" and "slut" who are discarded at will.
“贱发娣”“贱女”“厌姝”
She may have been Fang Bijin, because she was born a girl who was almost thrown into a well and drowned.
After her mother gave birth to her son Fang Jiadong, Fang Bijin became the target of plunder, she took a mortgage for her younger brother and was bullied by her family.
Source: "An Home"
She may be Fan Shengmei, who collapsed in the face of her brother who was in debt and her poor mother who was forced to go into debt.
After being unable to cry "I am here, I must give money", I was moved to tears because of the thoughtfulness and care of my roommate:
"Growing up, no one ever cared about me so much. ”
"My home has not been my home since I was a child" / Source: "Ode to Joy"
Many of them have spent their lives in such cursed notions.
This backward concept of preference for sons over daughters often makes mothers as women suffer from unfair treatment.
This leads to a disidentification of their feminine identity and the exclusion of their daughters.
Source: "Mother's Road"
One woman after another, still swirling in the fog woven by those close to them, with nowhere to escape.
Zhang Liangying mentioned the plot of her birth in the show: "Was it the wrong to be held?"
In the discussion area about Fu Juan's response to her daughter's name, someone asked: Why is it 2024, and we are still asking questions about it repeatedly?
The answer may be: to start with a question, to wake up from these habitual titles, and to uncover the long and silent inequality in women's lives.
Previously, after the topic of "Zhaodi who changed their names" appeared on the hot search, it was suggested that the regulations should be amended to further clarify the conditions for name change, and this may only be the first step/Source: Sina News
"We don't have to be Zhaodi, we don't have to be Ruonan.
What we want to get back is our own life. ”