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Weddings and funerals are the most important events in life, and each period carries people's different understandings and thoughts about life.
For young people, they believe that marriage is the most important stage in their lives, and they are willing to spend a lot of time and money to prepare for this happy event.
Many elderly people pay more attention to their own funerals, they think that if they can hold a big event, they can maintain their dignity during their lifetime, and they can also show how filial their daughters are.
Large-scale funerals, this kind of thinking is more prevalent in the rural areas of the mainland, although ancient and modern times are already new rural areas, has broken a lot of feudal ideas, but in the matter of funerals, so far has not been completely abolished.
It is understandable that people mourn and value the death of their loved ones, but it is true that there are many regions that spend too much on funerals.
Of course, many people in the village believe that the cost of the old man's funeral has a lot to do with the filial piety of his children, which is a manifestation of the old man's new grandchildren.
Because of the existence of this incorrect thinking, many people also have to ensure that the funeral of the elderly is beautiful enough for the sake of "face" in the village.
So how much does it cost to run a funeral in the countryside? What is the money used for? Let's find out through the deacons.
1. Ritual costs
Deacons refer to the managers of funerals, responsible for hospitality and the management of the entire funeral, many areas call them deacons, supervisors, whirlwinds, etc., today let's follow the deacons to understand the cost of rural funerals.
I believe that many people have seen funerals and various ceremonies in rural areas, and the customs and habits of funerals corresponding to rural areas in each city are also different.
Some cities will park the body for three days, and a ceremony will be held during these three days, and some cities will hold a ceremony after the death of the elderly, and the difference between the two is not big, whether it is cremation or not, the ceremony is indispensable.
In rural ceremonies, it is different from in cities, and basically after cremation, the ashes will not be left at home or in a mourning hall.
After the old man is cremated, before the scene goes underground, this time is the time when people arrange various ceremonies to "go on the stage", and these ceremonies are mainly to commemorate the life of the old man.
Although the customs and customs of each region are different, various ceremonies are held at the funeral in the countryside to commemorate the elderly.
This ceremony seems to be simple and frugal, but in real life, it is a very labor-intensive, material, and financial ritual.
According to the customs of a certain place, we can simply calculate how much it will cost to hold a decent funeral, which may completely change your perception.
Today's every industry pays attention to one-stop service, then the funeral industry is no exception, today's funeral industry is also very service-oriented, as long as the host (referring to the funeral) pays enough expenses, then both the specifications and the whole process will be satisfied with the owner's family.
The first step in the funeral is to build a mourning tent, and the workers will choose a suitable open space, which needs to be spacious enough to build a shed, park the coffin, and also leave space for those who come to worship.
Once the coffin is erected, the coffin is parked and the ceremony begins, which includes the main ceremony, farewell, and finally cremation.
Each of these links has a clear fee, and there are also different stalls to charge.
According to the fees for these ceremonies mentioned above, the cost of an ordinary funeral ceremony is about 20,000 yuan.
The total duration of the ceremony takes six hours, and most of the rituals need to be carried out by kneeling, and at the same time, when the ceremony is held, it is necessary to ask a more professional "weeping person" to cry the spirit, and other relatives and friends will follow the side.
With a crying singing voice, everyone in the ceremony was pulled back to the scene before the old man's death, and everyone cried very sadly, which is the infectious power of professional "crying spirit people".
In addition to the "weeping soul", the first to arrange the weeping spirit is the deceased's son, and the son's appearance is mainly to show the parents' difficulty in raising him in this life, mainly to show his gratitude for their nurturing grace, and miss his deceased parents.
After the son, he will cry according to the relatives of the deceased, including the nieces, nieces, nephews, etc., although these people are not considered the close relatives of the elderly, but they are also an indispensable part of the ritual.
In addition to the joining of relatives, the main task of crying souls is still in the professional "crying people", their professional skills are very in place, the atmosphere of longing and mourning on the scene will be driven by them, and many neighbors who are not relatives of the deceased will also be moved.
The crying person generally has to cry about five times, and one time is usually about 150 yuan, and the host family will also have a reward of 200-500 yuan during this period.
The ritual after the crying is the "point of blessing", this process is mainly for the younger generations to hand their blessings to the deceased elderly, and pray for the old people to leave with peace of mind before entering the earth.
For the younger generations of "Dianzhu", the host will give a big red envelope of 1,500 yuan, and will send two good bottles of liquor as a thank you.
After the "point of congratulations", the "family sacrifice" is carried out, which is also the most lively part of the whole link, which usually requires the band to perform, this process is to send the deceased away happily.
To sum up, a complete funeral ceremony needs to cost about 20,000 yuan, with "weeping people" costing 1,000 yuan and "wishing" costing 2,000 yuan.
In this way, the whole process is 23,000 yuan, which does not include the cost of food and accommodation for the staff of the common itinerary.
2. Cremation costs
After the ceremony, the cremation of the deceased is undoubtedly costly.
In the area mentioned in the article, the cost of cremation is usually about 5,000 yuan, but in addition to cremation, you also need to ask a band to follow the cremation process, which costs about 500 yuan.
After cremation, you need to find a place to store the ashes, which is what we often call an urn, and a low-cost urn also costs 1,500 yuan.
As of this process, 7,000 yuan has been spent, and after the cremation, you need to follow the convoy back to the burial place of the elderly, which requires renting a hearse, and also requires a part of the private car, relatives and friends, and the bus needs to be completed together, which also costs about 1,500 yuan.
The driver of the hearse also needs to send a red envelope, which costs about 200 yuan.
When it comes to the burial process, people who need to take wreaths, carry coffins and firecrackers in the burial process need to pay the corresponding favors, which are almost 2,500 yuan.
At this point, the entire cremation process is basically over, and the cost is about 11,000 yuan, plus the cost of the above ceremony, a total of 33,000 yuan.
3. Banquet fees
After the ceremony and cremation, it is time for the final banquet.
For relatives and friends who come to attend the funeral, they need to have a meal at the main house after being busy, which is what many people call a big feast.
The meal part of the rural funeral ceremony is basically to prepare meals at home, one is to be closer to the family, and the other is to save a little money at home.
According to today's prices and cuisines, relatively good dishes cost about 500 yuan, and if they are slightly worse, they also need 350 yuan.
If the family conditions are okay, they will generally choose 500 yuan a table, and usually the death of the elderly is also a major event in the family, so relatives and friends will basically be present.
According to the preparation of 50 tables, the cost is about 25,000 yuan.
According to rural customs, cigarettes need to be distributed at each table, calculated at 10 yuan, and the cigarette money is about 6,000 yuan, and the cigarettes will be distributed within three days at the funeral, so many families will buy a lot.
In addition to cigarettes, the wine on the table is also indispensable, and a bottle is calculated at 30 yuan, which is about 2,000 yuan.
In this way, the whole banquet has 35,000 yuan of wine, plus the above cost of 33,000 yuan, a total of 68,000 yuan.
In addition to the above 60,000, you also need to set off fireworks, as well as some additional incense candles, paper money, etc., including the need to run to buy various things, which cost money, and the odds and pieces range from about 2,000 yuan.
To sum up, there is a cost of 70,000 yuan. This may not seem like a lot of money, but it is not a small expense for the average person.
According to the monthly salary of 5,000 yuan, it will take 14 months to save enough, and it may be a harvest of one or two years for rural people.
summary
Isn't it surprising to see that the complete cost of a deceased person is as high as 60,000 or 70,000 yuan, many elderly people in rural areas may not have so much savings in their lives, but they need to spend so much money on ceremonies after death.
First of all, some traditional rural people believe that if there is no "thick burial" of the elderly, it is disrespectful and unfilial to the elderly, and the more beautiful the ceremony is, the more filial piety the children have.
There are also some people who oppose it, and this part of the people believes that filial piety is reflected in the old man when he is alive, the financial support of his children before his death, and the spiritual companionship, which are all manifestations of filial piety, and filial piety is not limited to posthumous ceremonies.
Each point of view has its own merits, but we need to think about the living conditions of the elderly.
Especially the elderly in rural areas, after getting older, life becomes very poor, they are reluctant to eat and dress well, and even do not go to see when they are sick, but they pay attention to the ceremonies after death, and many people do not understand.
On the issue of funerals, I still hope that everyone will treat them rationally, whether it is for the deceased or for the living, and enough respect needs to be given.
"Thick burial" is not necessarily a manifestation of filial piety, and filial piety before death is more important than treatment after death.
Whether it is a simple funeral ceremony or a "thick burial" in people's mouths, it is best to maintain a thrifty and non-wasteful funeral atmosphere.
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