One day, I stumbled across this sentence on the Internet,
Speaking of a person, the most attractive state is:
Don't care about anything!
Anything that happens to you, you don't care about any evaluation of others, and you don't care about the eyes of others,
It's even more unnecessary to care about what kind of label others put on you...
It doesn't matter if the label is good or bad.
You just need to act with your conscience and be yourself!
You're the most important thing!
At that moment, seeing this sentence, it seemed that I had suddenly been cured of my anxiety for a long time...
I'm 40 years old, but I'm still a timid and thin-skinned person.
I always lack a sense of security, I care too much about the eyes of others in everything I do, and I care a lot about what others think of me.
Always doubt yourself, suffer from gains and losses, what others say, although they don't care on the surface,
But in my heart, I actually care a lot, and I will give up what I like because of other people's evaluations...
For example, when creating on headlines, I occasionally receive some radical remarks,
Once, I wrote a small essay about double-disc meditation, and after the article was published, it caused a heated discussion.
Among them, a netizen's comment was very sharp, and his words were a bit excessive, saying that I was not worthy of talking about sitting at all, and said that I was very unhappy.
Afterwards, I thought about it, maybe what the netizen said was right, I was poor, maybe I really didn't deserve it.
I'm afraid that I will be ridiculed by others again, and I won't be able to pass that level in my heart, so I just don't show that little essay anymore...
Originally, I was quite happy to write it at the beginning, but because I was timid and afraid of what others would say, I couldn't get over this hurdle in my heart.
I've heard a quote like this:
In life, people, in fact, the biggest competitor is yourself,
If you overcome yourself, the life ahead will be smooth;
On the contrary, if you are defeated by yourself, your life will fall into endless darkness.
I used to be young, I didn't understand this truth, I thought that if I won others, I would be powerful.
But there are people outside the people, and there are mountains outside the mountains,
I saw the world of flowers outside,
When I was middle-aged, I understood:
A person, the most powerful enemy, is actually himself!