Yesterday, I talked to two friends about getting married, one is 33 and the other is 35. When they talked about marriage, one of the high school physics teachers said that he was reluctant to settle and demanded a lot of things from his future boyfriend.
Including height of more than 1.78 meters, civil servants or personnel of public institutions, bachelor degree or above, monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, etc. She wants to find a perfect match, and she is not willing to sacrifice for quality of life.
Not getting married doesn't get in the way of other people's business, I don't know what it means to have so many people personally attacking others. A 98-year-old boy in my office, tall and handsome, and his family is fine, he said that it was wishful thinking to ask him to get married.
In fact, he has a very easy-going personality, gets along with people well, is very caring and considerate of people, just likes to be home, and it is okay to say that he has games to play.
There must be a cause and effect, since you have chosen to be single, you need to bear the consequences of being lonely and old. You don't have to chew on the root of your tongue, can judging others make you feel good?
If you really want to manage it, then you should pay all the bride price and dowry and wedding expenses throughout the country, and many people will get married.
Some people say that these two girls are refined and self-interested, and I want to know who is not good for themselves, and who is it that asks others to be altruistic?
Altruism is for one's own happiness. Marriage is not about personal happiness, it's about personal sacrifice, are you willing?
Now it's not just women who yearn for marriage so much, but men too. Isn't it that a man yearns for a marriage that does not need to give a bride price, someone in the family cooks and washes, and someone has children to take care of the children, but you ask him to pay more financially and take on family responsibilities, so he has to weigh it.
Many men on the Internet are reluctant to provide financial support when their wives give birth to children and are unable to work. Keep the money for your own spending. Since my wife is willing to give birth, she has to raise it herself. You can't blackmail him about having a child.
Who gets married if there is no benefit? Young people nowadays live more realistically.
Live your own life, find those who want to get married, don't worry about others. Live your own life, find those who want to get married, don't worry about others. Live for yourself all your life, there is nothing to blame, and no one can wronged themselves and fulfill others.
These girls are financially independent and independent in personality, all of which have been achieved through more than ten years of struggle? Why do they have to compromise and seek perfection from others? Let them make sacrifices even if they are not selfish? Even if they are not refined egoistic? Live well by themselves, they are better than anything else, and don't ask others how to live.
Although I am in favor of marriage, some people say that these girls are delicate egoism if they don't get married, and I don't agree with it. The premise of refined egoism is to maximize one's own interests at the expense of others, and the unmarried person does not harm others.
If we want to say that we have harmed anyone, it is also harming ourselves, so how can we say that we are refined egoism? People are harming one part of ourselves to fulfill the other part of ourselves, and it belongs to the internal adjustment of one's own life! That is, if we can provide for our parents in old age and send them to the end of our lives, and we don't have to eat or drink other people's, what is there to benefit ourselves?
If a girl has worked hard for more than ten or twenty years to study and work hard, just for the sake of you think that you will get married and have children, I don't know what the efforts put in in the early stage are used for?
Why panic when you get old and sick in the future, no one will take care of you? Do you have to rely on your old age when you get married? Just try to live your own life, people who think you are good may not think it is good, everyone has their own way of life.
There are many people who are not married at this age, and there are very few people around who are married before the age of 28, and most of them are in their thirties.
Of course, people in rural areas may get married earlier, after all, there are many people in rural areas who don't study, and they enter society early, and they get married early. There are a lot of children in the city who study, and when they graduate from college, they won't be small, so it's impossible to find a partner to marry without looking for a job, right?
Nowadays, men are also very selective, and they want women to be young and have good jobs, and they want good families and low bride prices. I can give you two things that are completely opposite!
A girl from a good family must go to college, and when she graduates, she will be 22 or 3, and it will take 2 or 3 years to find a job and stabilize, right? This is 25 or 6.
If you find a partner for more than a year at this time, this will be 26,7, but if the first yellow breaks up, it is impossible to find no more than 28. Therefore, don't care about the various moths of those men, life is already difficult, and don't pay attention to those who point fingers.
Each one found a daughter-in-law as if he was choosing a concubine, and he didn't look at his own conditions first, thinking that his family had a throne to inherit. No matter how bad his family's conditions are, you have to make it as if you climbed his family, don't touch this kind of family treasure man, it's all picky.
When you reach a certain age, you will find that if you have no children, there is not much money to spend, because from birth to death, there are three desires: food, sex, and fame, and these three needs do not cost much when they reach age.
When you are older, you will have no desire to wear designer clothes and gold belts, and even if you do, you won't need much, unless you have been poor, these needs will always be great.
In the past, women had no job, no income, and could only rely on men to live, and marriage became the only way for women to improve their lives.
Nowadays, women also have jobs, and they have a good income, and they do not need to rely on men to live, and marriage has become a shackle that restricts the freedom of some women.
The outlook on life, values, and marriage all have their own choices, and the decision is in your hands, and the persuasion of others is ineffective, so let go of everything and let it be.
I can understand that if they can find the person they like, they will already get married, if not, they will go with the flow, and they are not willing to make do, as far as the current society is concerned, most of them are paid and have no problem supporting themselves.
Unlike before, marrying a man and marrying a man, dressing and eating, marrying a chicken with a chicken, marrying a dog with a dog, now young people have their own opinions and abilities, and they want to live with their own thoughts, which is not wrong.
As for what to do when you get old in the future, no one knows this question, to put it bluntly. Everyone comes into the world. Just live with your eyes closed, it's useless to think too much.
Times are different, and old ideas are useless. The age of robots has arrived. Women are no longer the tools of creation. To live for oneself is to live and understand.
Why are there more and more older single women now, they are financially independent, their personalities are independent, they are not dominated by anyone, and they have a completely different view of the concept of marriage!
If you choose to be single, you must save more money, the more the better, and when you are old in the future, you can hire a nanny, do well, the house can be sent to a nanny, or sell the property, enter a better nursing home, as long as there is a lot of money, it is not a thing. If you don't have money, you will suffer wherever you go.
Not only girls think this way, but boys also think like this, the more educated they are, the more capable they are, and the more they don't want to get married casually. In the past, the conditions were not good, but the times have changed.
If you don't want to settle, then live freely alone, and don't regret it when you are old and stay alone in an empty house with no one to take care of you?
Otherwise, just find someone with a good character and know that you love to marry! You have the ability to support the whole family by yourself, why do you have to rely on the man!
If you think about it, it seems that their ideals are not wrong. There is no violation of law and discipline, no harm to others, and no plot to harm anyone.
As for these two women, they should belong to the high-income class in Kochi, it is completely okay not to get married, there is no need for others to point fingers, firstly, they do not occupy or waste social resources, and they are people who contribute to society, and they are free to choose whatever lifestyle they want.
A lady with such good conditions can live well without being dependent on others, and it is better to live alone than to get married, and there is no need to get married at all. It's hard to cook by yourself, but it's very rewarding and tasteful, and you can't experience it when you go to the restaurant...
Life is a process, there are many factors leading to marriage, it is indisputable, how to spend life is a personal choice, how to be happy and how to live, just go with the flow.