Preface
In the past two days, at the 2024 "She Potential" Women's Influence Conference, actor Li Ruotong shared his experience at the conference.
Li Ruotong is 58 years old this year, but she is still unmarried and childless, and in this influence award, she told the audience why she has always been "unmarried and infertile".
"Little Dragon Girl" - Li Ruotong
Before understanding the story, let's take a brief look at actor Li Ruotong.
She is a very famous star in the Hong Kong entertainment industry, I believe many people have seen some of her film and television works, and the most memorable one is her first TV series "The Condor Heroes".
She is well-known to the audience as the role of "T" in the play, and later starred in "Dragon Babu", in which she plays three roles by herself.
I have to say that she played the role of Xiaolongnu very exquisitely, like a chivalrous girl who traveled from ancient times.
Jin Yong, as the author of "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", saw the image of the little dragon girl in the TV series, and also said: This is exactly the same as the image of the little dragon girl in my impression.
She has also co-starred in movies with many big stars such as Stephen Chow, Sammo Hung, and Carina Lau.
are all relatively classic films, and it is estimated that only the post-70s/80s have memories.
After a brief introduction, let's continue to get down to business, why is Li Ruotong still unmarried and childless at the age of 58?
58-year-old Li Ruotong is still unmarried and childless, why?
Li Ruotong said in her narration that she had been depressed because of her 10-year love run with her boyfriend, and she was depressed because of relationship problems.
In the process of falling in love, her boyfriend never mentioned marriage to her, because of countless quarrels and cold wars in this matter, and finally separated.
At that time, she was in the shadow of lovelorn and couldn't get out, and later encountered the news of her father's serious illness and death, plus some bad messages on the Internet.
The malicious speculation of many media, coupled with the strange eyes of some strangers when they looked at her:
"You have been in love with your partner for so many years, and he has never thought of giving you a stable home, nor has he really given you the identity of a "wife". ”
At your current age, with no family and no children, what is the meaning of life? ”
"Bad words hurt people in June", Li Ruotong was deeply hurt by these voices, and she also fell into "self-doubt".
She often spends time alone at home, looking down at the balcony, staring out the window while cooking, and waking up in bed staring at the ceiling.
also used to have a "dessert feast" when a person was lost and helpless.
She often wondered: Is this kind of life really meaningless? Is it a failure?
In that 10-year relationship, since the other party didn't think about giving me a complete home and marriage, why didn't you leave this man?
Someone might suggest: leave him as soon as possible.
Li Ruotong continued: But I was immersed in love at the time, and I liked him so much that I couldn't leave immediately, and even for him, I gave up "being myself".
I gave him almost all of my time, tolerated him to an infinite extent, and sacrificed many times to reunite with my family for him.
Including some statutory holidays, I rarely appear in front of my family, but even so, my family doesn't blame me.
But this kind of tolerance and pampering of my family makes me feel even more sorry for them, and I will have "remorse", and I have been living like this for ten years.
After his father died of a serious illness, Li Ruotong felt even more guilty, and this guilt slowly turned into a "masochistic" tendency, allowing this situation to continue to recur.
Later, when the depression gradually worsened, Li Ruotong came into contact with the sport of fitness.
Fitness - Li Ruotong's road to redemption
The sport was like a light shining on her in the dark of her life, and at first, she "numbed" herself through fitness, perhaps trying to forget the painful memories of the past.
Slowly, Li Ruotong gradually came out of the shadow of depression, no longer had negative and negative emotions, she found herself and redefined herself.
Now she has been working out for 24 years, and now she is 58 years old, and she looks like a girl in her early 20s.
The body is well-proportioned, with clearly visible vest lines and muscle lines, and a radiant complexion.
Some time ago, she also posted on her social account, saying: Fitness is not only about exercising your body, but also about loving life, and in this way, you can become more confident and healthy.
Although he is now 58 years old and is not married or infertile, Li Ruotong can make his position more clear and intuitive.
She told the audience not to be afraid of the change of age, which cannot define the value of a person's life and mental state.
Even if you are 60 years old, 70 years old, you can still confidently say, 'I'm only XX years old'.
epilogue
Li Ruotong's personal sharing at the conference directly showed that women should not be bound by unconventional feelings and marriage, nor should they be shackled by the voices of the outside world.
She encouraged women to pay attention to their self-worth and improve their self-worth. What kind of self you want to live, do it bravely, and don't be afraid of any gossip.
It doesn't stop you from moving forward, it doesn't define your values, and every woman has the right to be in charge of her own life.
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Information sources:
Sina Weibo: https://weibo.com/1893711543/O7T7r4H4A?refer_flag=1001030103_
Red Star News: https://www.toutiao.com/article/7353486778776502825/
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