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(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)
I am almost 70 years old this year, and I have been a farmer all my life, supporting my son and daughter by digging in the soil, and helping them raise grandchildren and grandchildren.
Because I was not treated by my father's relatives when I was young, and my grandmother didn't like me, my grandfather watched the children grow up and had a deep affection for them.
After the birth of my son and daughter's children, my wife and I said that we were treated unfairly when we were young, and now we are grandparents and grandparents, we can't be like them, whether it is grandchildren or grandchildren, we have to treat everyone equally and fairly.
But as I get older, the more I feel that although I love and give to them equally, there is still a difference between my grandson and my grandson.
I only had my first child when I was 28 years old, it was a girl, which was too late for us to have a child, and the first child was a girl, my mother felt that it was inappropriate, and when her daughter was one and a half years old, she urged us to hurry up and have another child.
At that time, our family conditions were not very good, and supporting two children was already the limit for both of us, so I agreed with my wife that no matter whether the second child was a boy or a girl, I would not continue to have a third child.
If the second child is still a girl, we don't care what outsiders say about us, just raise the child to be a healthy adult and live our own life, if the second child is a boy, it is just as the mother holds her grandson's wish, and we also have both children and daughters, which is perfect.
I don't know if God favors us a little more, the second child is a son, the mother is happy to hold her grandson, and my wife and I also breathe a long sigh of relief.
Because we know that our mother is patriarchal, we rarely let her watch the children, and usually take them by ourselves, for fear that the children will think that we are biased.
But I can't prevent my mother but I can't prevent many relatives, as well as neighbors and villagers, under their influence, my son has been a bit self-respecting since he was a child, but he never dared to show it in front of me and my wife.
In our time, there was only one way for rural people to go out and change their fate, and that was to study, and my wife and I both hoped that our children would be able to make a living in the future, at least not like us, digging in the soil and watching the sky for a lifetime.
So we did our best to send both children to school, in elementary school, both children had similar academic performance, but by junior high school and high school, the gap became apparent.
My daughter studies steadily, and her grades have been stable in the top three in the class, but my son is different.
In the end, my daughter lived up to our expectations and was admitted to university, but my son only finished high school and did not even take the college entrance examination, and finally only went to a technical school.
The life of the daughter and the son also began to be different from this time, after the daughter graduated, stayed in school to teach, not only the work is decent, but also the salary is also very good, on the other hand, the son, although he went to a technical school, but the technology did not learn at all, after graduation, he took over my old book, went home to farm.
I couldn't bear to see my son go back to my old path, so I asked someone to find him a job as an auto repair in a foreign country, including an old classmate of mine, who could take him with him and let him learn the skills to support his family.
I don't know if I didn't learn the technology, but in the fourth month after work, I brought back a daughter-in-law, saying that I wanted to marry someone else, and asked my wife and I to prepare things for him to use for the wedding.
This made my wife and I very angry, but everyone was brought home, what else could we do, so we had to prepare a decent wedding for them as our son said.
The son got married and was about to wipe out our old bottom, and then the daughter informed us that she also had a favorite object, waiting for the New Year, to bring it home to show us, and if we agreed, the wedding would be held next year.
The young man is really good, he looks very down-to-earth and capable, mainly because he is also very good to my girl, and my wife and I immediately made a decision on this family business.
When the wedding was about to take place, we were worried, we still had a few dollars left, and after the banquet at home, there was not much left, so the dowry for our daughter could only be reduced again and again.
My daughter knew our difficulties and took the initiative to tell her son-in-law that she would not hold a banquet at home, so she would travel and get married, which saved us a lot of trouble and a lot of money, but we finally gave our daughter the money in the form of a dowry.
After busy with my daughter's marriage, my wife and I were thinking that we could take a little breath, and my daughter-in-law came with good news that she was pregnant, and asked my wife to come over and wait.
More than three months later, my daughter also told us that she was also pregnant, which was a double blessing for our family.
was happy, but it was bitter for his wife, and not long after serving his daughter-in-law, he hurried to the provincial capital to serve his daughter.
Tired is a little tired, but it is true that I am happy, who would have thought that in a year, two new identities have been unlocked, both grandsons and grandchildren.
The daughter's maternity leave is not long, and after going to work, I let my wife take my grandson back to my hometown together, and I will come back to see the child on weekends or holidays, and by the way, I will give our old couple some living expenses.
Seeing that we hugged our grandson all day long and didn't let go, my daughter-in-law had an opinion, packed up my grandson's things, and handed my grandson into our hands, and said to the two of us, anyway, you two look at one and watch, both children are about the same age, you can watch it together, just so I can go outside with Xiaogang (son's name) to work hard.
The children work hard for the family, and we, as parents, naturally fully support and take over the responsibility of taking care of our grandchildren and grandchildren.
My wife and I can see that we don't think that our grandson is a foreign surname and we don't kiss him, and we agreed to treat the two children equally.
So every time I buy food, clothes and toys, they are all double, and they are all exactly the same, and the New Year's money and red envelopes given for New Year's and birthdays are also the same.
It wasn't until the two children finished elementary school that the daughter took her grandson to take care of her, and the grandson followed her son and daughter-in-law to go to school in other provinces.
As soon as the two children left, only our old couple were left in the family, staring at each other, it was really boring, my daughter was afraid that we would not be able to slow down for a while, and would drive her grandson back to see us every weekend, but my son did not call me, and I thought that my grandson did not say that he would go.
Every time my grandson comes, he will bring me some "small gifts", which are actually worthless, they are gadgets he made himself, but this little thing makes us very happy.
In the blink of an eye, 6 years have passed, and the grandson returned to his hometown to study in high school, because of neglect of discipline, he only studied a junior college, and the grandson fought for himself and was admitted to a university.
Although the two children were admitted to a very different school, my wife and I prepared the same red envelopes for them to go on to higher education, in order to show fairness, I still counted the money in front of the two of them.
In order to celebrate the admission of our two children to university, we decided to set up a table at home, and my grandson helped my wife in the kitchen.
My son told me that Xiaodong (grandson) went home and said that he had something to do. I snorted, I want to go home and have something to do, what's the matter, all day long except to play games is to play games, and now I don't want to talk to the two of us for a while, take the money and run.
The family was busy until eleven o'clock at noon, and the meals were almost all done, when the daughter-in-law and grandson came slowly from the gate, and they were really in a hurry!
At the dinner table, my grandson and grandson sat around me, and my grandson would take care of me from time to time, while my grandson was looking at his mobile phone and eating with gusto, even when I talked to him, he didn't even pay attention to it.
After eating, I wondered if my grandson was getting too close to my grandson and got angry and wanted to talk to him, and as soon as I sat next to him, my grandson said, "Grandpa, I'm playing a game, you wait for me to finish this game and then talk to you."
I waited for about half an hour before my grandson reluctantly moved away from the screen of his phone and asked me, "Grandpa, what did you want to tell me just now?"
I asked my grandson if he saw that I had been talking to Komori (grandson) today, and he was angry, so he didn't want to stay at his grandfather's house.
Then my grandson's answer really shocked me, my grandson said, no, I see that Xiao Sen is with you, and I will leave, and besides, my mother said, Xiao Sen is so "stammering" with you, it is for the little money in your pocket, I am different, I am your own grandson, anyway, in the end, you have to leave it to me.
These words and expressions are really similar to the son's self-esteem at the beginning, no wonder there is no big deal, they were all harmed by their sons and daughters-in-law, and they have been instilled with this kind of thinking since childhood!
At about four o'clock in the afternoon, my daughter and grandson were about to leave for home, and before leaving, my grandson returned the red envelope I gave him for further education, and said to me, Grandpa, you and grandma are old, you need to keep more money around you, I have the ability now, I can support myself, you don't have to worry about us all the time.
My grandson insisted on not wanting my money, and I didn't shirk him, and when the family was gone, I thought back to what happened today, and suddenly realized that although I treated my grandson and grandson equally, there was still a difference in loyalty between them.
Grandson and son, like the son, covet our old bottom, although the grandson is far away, it is not common, but like the daughter, he thinks about us old couple everywhere, and will always come back from time to time to see us and talk to us.
After all, people in their seventies have enjoyed the blessings of their children, how dare they look forward to the blessings of their grandchildren and grandchildren, their juniors are doing well, and we are relieved that we don't care about these.