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How can anyone really not love their children?
Yes, there will be people who really don't love their children.
There is no such person in our circle, everyone is talking about their children, talking about all the details, and thinking that their children are the best children in the world.
Undoubtedly, these children are living in happiness.
But in this world, there are many unfortunate children who live in families without love, to be precise, without love for them.
A girl selling balloons at 3 a.m. in Chengdu
Recently, a girl wandering around a barbecue stall in Chengdu has attracted much attention, and the girl haunts the barbecue stall and will take the initiative to ask if she wants to buy balloons.
Someone posted information about the girl, and many local netizens said they had seen the girl.
Some insiders also revealed that the girl was from Bazhong, did not go to school, her parents did not go to school, she went to sell balloons every day, and she had to go home at four or five o'clock in the morning every time.
It's not that I don't want to go home, it's that I'll be beaten up if I go home early.
At this moment, I thought of the little match girl, cold and snowy, wearing thin clothes, barefoot and finally freezing to death on the street corner.
Although they are not in the same era, they belong to the people of the same planet.
The girl's family background
Naturally, this girl was slightly luckier than the match seller, because she was born in this era and did not starve to death on the streets.
This girl is the eldest in the family, and there is a younger sister below, and her mother is pregnant again, that is, the third child is coming.
There is only one reason why poor families keep having children: they want to have sons.
There is nothing else but this reason.
And for such people, they basically don't get oil and salt, they live in a realm of "must have a son", and they will not change this view at all.
If a well-wisher steps forward to stop it, the most it is just one sentence: My child can do whatever I want, you can't get used to it, do you pay for it?
So this girl was born into such a family, and this is her fate, either she will end up being the same, or she will grow up and run away completely.
Let's think differently for the poor
This point of view may be scolded, but I still have to say one thing: let the families with better conditions come to the second and third children, and the poor can have one, at most two.
Here's why:
- 1. Having a child can't change your fate
Why have children?
The poor will have an expectation that the more opportunities they have, the more chances they have to change their fate.
If it was in the era when all children were free-range, it was possible to have one more child, and there was still this opportunity.
Now there is no such possibility, having more children will not change fate, it will only increase the difficulty of life.
- 2. There are still opportunities to have fewer children and pay more attention to children's growth
If you have one less child, you may be able to spare a little financial resources and energy to raise your child, but you can't give your child too many resources, and you can pay attention to it mentally.
If you can't give it materially, you can't give it educational resources, and you can't give it spiritually, just relying on the fantasy that "the child will fly in the future" is a fool's dream.
- 3. Times have changed, why should your children be excellent?
Times are changing, and it is still the same sentence, when all children are free-range, children have more opportunities.
When most parents begin to pay attention to their children's physical and mental growth, pay attention to their children's learning, and have nothing but a bunch of children, how can they raise excellent children?
By genes, by strength?
Or is it just fantasy?
Be realistic, if you want to raise excellent children, you have to give the child at least something, and if you can't give educational resources, then give spiritual food, more companionship, and patient guidance, there is also a chance.
It's sad that children have become bargaining chips for adults
The girl mentioned above is unfortunate and is not able to go to school at the age of going to school and is forced to sell balloons to supplement the family.
There are also many unfortunate children who do not get a little love from their parents, but instead become their parents' bargaining chips.
I saw a case before, three children were thrown by their mothers at the door of the police station, and left in anger, because the child's father was delayed, and in order to punish the other party, more ruthless than anyone, the mother used this trick, and finally the police contacted the child's father.
If the child is born without a little love and care, but instead becomes a bargaining chip for both parties, and throws all the pain and resentment on the child, then the child really does not need to come to this world.
Children should be a kind of hope, a kind of hope to grow up in a good family education environment, the inheritance of life, and the inheritance of the family.
I hope to wake up some confused parents, more care and love, even if you can't give material, please give your child a little more spiritual companionship, the child doesn't want much, it's nothing more than dad and mom.