In life, we often feel anxious about what didn't happen, regret what happened and lose our minds.
For example: I have worked so hard, but I am not as comfortable as others;
I have paid so much for others, and I have endured my grievances, but I can't get the feedback I want;
The dedication to his wife and children for half his life is ultimately disappointed and hurtful.
All this is just the desire of my heart, I care too much and get too little.
After three years of retirement, I discovered a way to "live to die" and treat every day as if it were the last day of my life.
Find what you really care about, know what to cherish and what to discard.
When I took the initiative to let go of these 5 things, I realized how rich I was, and I was content and happy.
1. Let go of the pursuit of things.
After retirement, the most important thing to do is to reduce the burden on yourself.
No matter what you like, it's enough to have one, and there's no need to stock up on all kinds of different samples.
It seems that the more things you hoard, the more secure you feel.
In the past, I used to buy jeans, even if it was the same style, I would buy several different colors.
The family has to stock up on vegetables for a week every time, and they continue to buy them every day.
One is possessive, the second is that the object is warm to oneself, and the third is the inner desire.
There are many things in life that have a fast metabolism, and the same goes for things, but I just want to have them.
After retirement, learn to renounce, cut off the pursuit of material things, and give up the possession of material things.
Leave yourself the things you need most, and life will become simpler and more exquisite.
If you don't have the pursuit of things in your heart, make room for more interesting things, and have a more interesting life.
2. Let go of the demand for family affection.
Why do we get confused about family affection, most of it is our request for family affection.
thinks that he has paid a lot to his family, why can't his relatives give back to himself like himself.
Any kind of relationship is a two-way street, thinking that you have paid a lot, but you are just moving yourself.
In the past, I felt that my daughter was indifferent to me, my wife was not good to me, and my relatives had opinions about me.
After some reflection, I let go of my request for family affection, and only did what I thought I should do, and everything else was left to chance.
On the contrary, I was able to calm down and communicate with my daughter and open my heart to talk about my own thoughts.
I can also accept everything about my wife around me, and I no longer feel uncomfortable looking at him anywhere;
In the face of loved ones, I no longer expect to be treated the same, but I feel more comfortable in my heart.
Only when people put it down first can they have more, just like the sand in the palm of the hand, if you hold it too tightly, it will leak.
3. Let go of the burden on the relationship.
In life, many troubles come from interpersonal relationships.
When I was young, in order to live, in order to survive, I had to maintain certain relationships.
After retirement, none of this is there, and you need to return to your own focus.
Try to break off those circles that make you uncomfortable, and leave those friends who hate the poor and love the rich;
Avoid interacting with people who compare yourself to each other, and stay away from people who bring you negative energy and emotions.
You don't have to care about anyone's eyes and evaluations, concentrate on doing what you like, and enjoy yourself in doing things.
I used to be a person who didn't want to cause trouble to others, and I put up with it when I encountered some injustice.
Even if I don't like someone anymore, I can greet him with a smile and say something against my will.
After retirement, let go of those so-called relationships and let go of the burdens brought to you by relationships.
I've found that it's good to be alone, at the very least, you don't have to fight with anyone.
In the time you are alone, precipitate yourself, do what you like, and make your heart rich and full.
4. Let go of the obsession with mobile phones.
During this time, I don't know if it's the cause of postmenopausal estrogen or something else, and I feel tired all day long.
Less self-discipline and hard work in the past, relying on the fast food culture in the mobile phone, and enjoying the happiness of short videos.
Hours slipped away, remembering what they had seen, only to find that they had remembered nothing.
In the Internet era, everyone relies on mobile phones to understand the world and solve their doubts.
Invest your limited time in these fragments of information, thinking that you are learning all kinds of knowledge;
As everyone knows, a short stay and instant happiness are just a pastime, not a real learning.
Although retirement time is rich, if you don't let go of your obsession with your mobile phone, you will waste your time on your mobile phone.
In order to save time and learn to reject useless information, many people start clocking in and doing things without their phones, and without bringing their phones into the bedroom.
Finding what is really useful to you and studying it seriously is the best interpretation of time.
5. Let go of expectations of others.
Expecting something from others is often the root cause of a relationship's destruction.
Expect others to bring you a better life, and look forward to your children's filial piety to you.
These expectations are the incompleteness of the self, the inner need is too much, and the expectation of others to satisfy oneself is expected.
When others can't do what our hearts expect, there are complaints, accusations, and even rebellions.
If we always expect a relationship to satisfy us, then we are often the only ones who are hurt.
In the world, no one is obliged to meet all your expectations, only you can give yourself satisfaction.
Yang Jiang once said that life is just to find some fun for yourself.
Learn to entertain yourself and be self-satisfied, so that you can truly control your own destiny.
Three years after retirement, I realized that if you want to live a good life, you have to learn the ability to make yourself happy.
Meet your inner needs, empathize with the people around you, and control your happiness in your own hands.
Let the rest of your life be complete, your heart will be full, your spirit will be full, and the happiness of your life will need to be fought for by yourself.
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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