My sister and her mother-in-law first met after my brother-in-law left his hometown to work with us. Because she couldn't keep her son, her mother-in-law was full of disdain for my sister, the person who hooked her son away.
Before the meeting, my brother-in-law called his mom early and informed them of the time they would be home. When I got home, it was about one o'clock in the afternoon, and my sister and brother-in-law hadn't eaten. Originally, my sister wanted to buy something to eat outside, so she would make up for it first, but my brother-in-law said that her mother must have prepared food at home, so let's eat it when I get home, don't be unable to eat it at that time.
With apprehension and anticipation, my sister followed her brother-in-law to their house. Knocking on the door and no one answered, the brother-in-law took out the key to open the door, and found that there was no one in the cold pot and cold stove at home. I called his mother, and his mother said that they couldn't come back because they were out on business, so I asked my brother-in-law to go out to eat by himself.
Probably because I was not satisfied with my sister, my brother-in-law's house did not show any hospitality, the living room was messy, the dining table was full of dishes and sundries from the previous meal, and there was a half-rotten mango.
Later, my sister told me that she was sad to see her mother-in-law treat the first meeting so perfunctorily. But seeing that her brother-in-law was already uneasy because of this apology, she had to pretend not to care. In fact, at that time, she had already begun to resist marrying into her brother-in-law's family and dating her mother-in-law.
At dinner, her parents-in-law came back, but they didn't buy vegetables or fruits, only a few steamed buns. Her father-in-law pulled out a bag of frozen chicken from the refrigerator, fried a spicy chicken, and fried a kidney bean.
Four people and two dishes, just buns, my sister finished this depressing meeting meal with a heavy heart. Early the next morning, she took the car back home, and never went to her mother-in-law's house until she got married.
After getting married, until my sister gave birth, her mother-in-law never came to their house, and the first time she came was because my sister's due date was due and she needed to serve the confinement child. Since she came, her mother-in-law has always adopted a policy of non-violence and non-cooperation, and she also buys and cooks, but what she buys and makes is what my brother-in-law likes to eat, and my sister never buys or cooks what she loves to eat.
Once my sister wanted to eat a loofah, so she told her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law agreed at the time, but she didn't buy it back. My sister didn't think much about it, so she asked her mother-in-law if there was no loofah sold in the market, and her mother-in-law looked at her and said, "If there is one for sale, I just didn't buy it."
My sister said that at that time, she used all her life's upbringing, so she couldn't help but not speak ill of her mother-in-law. During the confinement period, things like this happened from time to time, which made my sister almost depressed after giving birth.
My sister had a difficult birth when she gave birth, and it took 12 hours to give birth to the child, during which she was hungry, painful and tired, and the doctor asked the family to send food to replenish her strength, and her mother-in-law made a bowl of egg soup for her, which was full of oil and flowers, without a little salt.
My sister couldn't eat a bite, so she cried in the delivery room, and the midwife got angry when she saw the food delivered, so she went out to reprimand her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law also said that only when there is a lot of oil and water can milk be born, pregnant women cannot eat salt, and children will have white lips and skin if they eat salt.
My sister said that she really hated her mother-in-law at that time, thinking that she would divorce my brother-in-law after giving birth and never deal with their family again. After giving birth, my sister and her mother-in-law served for less than half a month, so they didn't want to wait, and said that they would let my mother take care of the remaining half a month, but she was not worried that her husband was alone at home and wanted to go back to take care of him.
At that time, our family planted an orchard, and it was the time to pick the fruit, and when the fruit was picked late, it would crack when it was ripe. My mother really couldn't leave, so she discussed with my sister and mother-in-law to let her stay for another three or five days, and when the fruit was finished, my mother would come to replace her and serve my sister for the confinement.
That night, my sister and my brother-in-law quarreled because of this, and her mother-in-law said that my sister was throwing her face, carrying her bag and leaving, and she didn't answer or reply to messages. Before the confinement was out, my sister went out, and my brother-in-law and I searched outside for half the night, and finally found her mother-in-law, and apologized and persuaded her mother-in-law to go home.
After the confinement, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law never met again, but just made a polite phone call every New Year's Day. Later, when the child grew up, her mother-in-law's attitude began to soften, and the two families gradually moved around again. But my sister said that she will never forget the night when she was looking for her mother-in-law all over the world during the month, and she only respected her mother-in-law and did not treat her sincerely.
Because I was not treated by my mother-in-law, my sister and they didn't have to go back to their hometown every year for the New Year, and there was a lot less personal contact with my mother-in-law's relatives, which saved both trouble and money. But the relationship between my sister and my brother-in-law is still somewhat affected by the conflict between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and my sister has not been very happy over the years.
When I reached the age of finding a partner, my sister repeatedly warned me that I must find a mother-in-law who really likes me, and don't be like her, find a mother-in-law who doesn't want to see me. Because marriage is never a matter of two people, but a run-in of two families.