Have you ever experienced such moments:
Work conscientiously and be on call all day, and still be ready to face the company's "optimization" crisis at any time.
Because of the work arguments between colleagues, I became angry and irritable throughout the day.
A word from your partner can make you think wildly, gain and lose.
Every day is like a winding clockwork, a full bow and arrow, always in a state of readiness, for fear of a little mistake.
If you are feeling your energy drain, there is a book that has been hailed as "the book that will make you feel free and happy", which may be able to relieve your worries.
This book is "Living Soberly".
The author, Michael Singer, had an unsuccessful life, having suffered a marriage change and being forced to drop out of school at the most arrogant age of his life, becoming a "homeless" loser.
Despite the pain in his heart, Singh did not dwell on the past and fall into an emotional cage, but adjusted himself through meditation and slowly repaired his energy.
"Living Soberly" is a classic work of his years of meditation and understanding.
If you often feel troubled, stressed, and painful, you may wish to open this book, and you will find that maintaining a sense of relaxation in life is the only way to protect your spiritual energy and not be disturbed by the outside world.
Being emotionally touched by others consumes your mental energy
Feng Xi, the heroine of the hit drama "Far from the South", is a typical person who puts emotions first.
At one point, she co-founded a restaurant with a friend to accommodate several important customers.
Although the client repeatedly emphasized that there must be no mistakes in the banquet the next day, she still fell into an emotional vortex because she broke up with her boyfriend, and completely forgot the client's explanation.
As a result, the banquet was messed up the next day, offending the most important partner.
When questioned by her colleagues, she felt aggrieved, felt that she was not understood, and even took it for granted that "she was just too sad to think about other things".
Because emotions come first, not only do you mess up your job, but you also make yourself miserable.
Whether a person is working or living, he is most afraid of putting the cart before the horse, putting other people's evaluations, attitudes, and feelings first.
Emotions are one's own reserve, not the racetrack of others.
The world is complicated and chaotic, and if it is easily influenced and influenced by the outside world, it will make the mind weak and overwhelmed.
Reading blogger Du Liang once went out to take a taxi, because the door was closed too loudly, she was anxious all the way, worried that the driver would be unhappy.
Every time the driver makes a sharp turn, she can't help but wonder "is the driver giving me a face".
All day, she was so obsessed with the incident that she couldn't concentrate on her work.
Many times, we will always feel turbulent and panic in our hearts because of a little thing.
When you walk into the office and your colleague suddenly stops chatting, they instantly tense up and wonder if they are talking about me.
When encountering difficulties and challenges, assume the worst outcome before you try, and be timid before you fight.
If you do something wrong, you will magnify the problem, keep denying yourself, and feel that you can't do anything.
The fatigue in life is not how mean we are in the outside world, it's just that we think too much, constantly consume mental energy, and fall into the spiritual trap set by ourselves.
"Living Soberly" writes: "The real source of the problem is not life itself, but the confusion that the mind causes to life." ”
The interpretation of one's own situation determines the quality of a person's life and the ups and downs of emotions.
There is no sea in my heart, and the ebb and flow are in my heart. Extreme and one-sided thinking will only torment the heart for a long time and block the spiritual energy.
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When the state of life is balanced, the second half of life is smoother
John Lennon said, "Life has left us while we are struggling with it." ”
There is nothing wrong with pursuing career success, but when the balance between life and work is broken, life will be deformed under the weight of work.
The ancients often talked about the transformation of yin and yang, and the extremes of things must be reversed.
In real life, the phenomenon of involution is transmitted from person to person, work overtime for a long time, self-relaxation, and the time for friends to get together is compressed to the extreme.
This imbalance not only makes anxiety pervasive and mentally barren, but also triggers a healthy red light warning.
I have a colleague who is very capable and resolute.
In her "dictionary of life", there is only "hard work", not "leisure".
Half of the month is on a business trip, usually either in a meeting, or to promote the plan, busy until the early hours of the morning is the norm, colleagues jokingly call her "desperate Sanniang".
But people's energy is limited, and years of tension and running wild have made her physically and mentally exhausted, and her work productivity is getting lower and lower.
She was also diagnosed with moderate depression and severe gastrointestinal diseases due to high pressure and uneven diet, and had to be suspended for recuperation.
After stopping work, she realized that compressing her life and focusing on her work would only lead to the decay of her soul and the loss of energy.
If you want to maintain a more enduring passion for your work, you need to know the art of balance.
After a period of time, she began to try to balance her life, traveling regularly and visiting exhibitions on weekends, and her spare time became more and more enjoyable, and she was no longer nervous and anxious about work.
As Michael Singer said, "The more you can work with balance, the more you can navigate through life." ”
Everything has its own balance, and if you go to extremes, you will have all kinds of negative reactions in your heart, and your life and body will become chaotic and overwhelmed.
Being nervous and focusing all your energy on a certain thing or relationship will not necessarily get the desired result, and you will miss out on other colors in your life as a result.
Only by looking down on the evaluation and seeking inner balance can we remove the shackles of the soul and chase the ideal with ease.
Clarify relationships and maintain a balance between yourself and others, so that you can treat yourself well and live a good life.
Let go of gains and losses, learn to balance the obsession in your heart, and you will not be blinded by temporary success or failure.
In life, we are destined to not be able to control the changes and trends of everything.
If you consciously relax yourself and pay attention to the fluidity of life, your inner energy will continue to be fully charged and resist all changes in the outside world.
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Break down barriers and embrace a more relaxed life
Michael Singer has an interesting "metaphor of the house" in the book.
Imagine yourself living in a beautiful house. You don't want to go out because you put your heart and soul into the construction of this house.
Gradually, your obsession with house paranoia makes you afraid of the world outside the house. Even if the light bulb is broken and the house is pitch black, I still dare not open the door to find natural light.
In the end, I can only spend my life in a dark "safe house".
In real life, we always feel that we have built a "safe house" for ourselves with our inherent thoughts, emotions, and concepts.
Even if the mind is outdated, the emotion has been hit hard, and the concept has been criticized, they dare not push open the door of the outside world and tear down the wall of thinking.
It's like Simon in Mo Yan's "Life and Death Fatigue".
He was unjustly killed, and the fifth reincarnation was a domestic animal, with no one to tell his bitterness and nowhere to vent his hatred.
In the first few lifetimes of reincarnation, he was also full of thoughts of revenge, guarding the "safe house" of hatred and reluctance to step out of his emotions.
With the reincarnation after reincarnation, he realized that his grievances and unwillingness would only imprison the future and allow himself to struggle in the cage of reincarnation.
In his last life, he finally bravely pushed open the "thinking prison door", broke through the shackles of hatred, and embraced a new life.
Heaven may trap your body, but it will not limit your heart and mind.
In the past few decades of life, ups and downs are the norm, and only by jumping out of your own boundaries and stepping on a journey to the outside world can you surpass yourself and enjoy a relaxed life.
This process is destined to be difficult and painful, just as Simon was relieved after the painful ordeal of the reincarnation of the sixth generation.
But as the book points out, spiritual growth is a difficult journey of transformation.
Only by learning to change your mentality, adjust your priorities, and reshape your cognition can you live a sober life.
1. When encountering setbacks, change the interpretation of inner feelings.
Misfortunes in life often come from a pessimistic state of mind.
Think more about the good in everything, and temporarily lock the dark emotions overflowing in your heart into a small dark room.
Even if an optimistic interpretation can't change the results immediately, the spirit of upward growth can make you fearless of challenges.
2. Feel tired and change the priorities of your life.
With the changing market environment and serious involution in the workplace, we will inevitably feel out of control and anxious.
But don't forget to always ask yourself, "Which is more important, work or life?"
When we understand that work is for a better life, we can regain the right to arrange life and work and achieve a win-win situation.
3. Fall into a bottleneck and change the way of thinking and cognition.
Host Moreau once said: "We are all prisoners of our own experience. ”
Use critical thinking to think critically and think about "Is there any other way to deal with it?" and "What would you do if you were another friend?"
The universe is boundless, but there are limits to people's vision and cognition.
Listen to others' opinions, read more, and travel more in the world, so that you can continue to accumulate energy for yourself.
When we are no longer afraid of future life and practical difficulties, we can live calmly without worrying or fearing.
Write at the end
Wang Yangming said: "I am self-sufficient, and I don't ask for anything else." ”
Life is hard, and throughout our lives, we are all looking for the "battery" that maintains our inner energy, but we don't know that the backup battery is in our hearts.
Adjust your life back to your own channel, seek inward, go outward, and look forward, so that you can live calmly and see the world clearly.