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The big S who was hunted
Text/Yan Lingyang
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In the past few days, I have been on the Internet, and one of the things I feel most unhappy about is that netizens can dislike Big S, but because they don't like Big S, they support Wang Xiaofei like that, which is too sad.
There are so many people who support the men who are so rotten, and there are so many women who chase him and shout "husband", and because I disss him a few words, they chase me to scold.
What a magical world it is.
Also, I thank you for choosing to follow me in the vast crowd, but at the same time, I have only one request for you: leave me alone, and if you can't do it, block me immediately.
Before, I saw Zhang Lan say with a rhythm, why is Wang Xiaofei crazy, they think that Wang Xiyue is now 10 years old, but what about this bald head, walking around naked all day long at home, they are worried that the sheep will fall into the wolf's mouth, and they are worried that once this bald head commits anything and runs back to their country, we have no way to deal with him, and we can't sanction him.
Then, a group of female netizens said, yes, yes.
I'm really a little angry, because "walking around naked all day at home" is just what the bald head looked like many years ago when he was filming a variety show in Korea, not now.
When we live alone, we may not be so particular about walking around the house wearing only pajamas and no underwear, but if we are married and live under the same roof as our father-in-law, we may not be able to do so.
Zhang Lan thought that this attack was bald, but in fact, she let her own granddaughter bear this vicious speculation and public opinion pressure since she was a child.
Even if this does not happen, she may have to endure this kind of speculation and questioning for the rest of her life when she grows up.
All women who remarry with their daughters are likely to be subjected to such vicious accusations.
As long as you marry your daughter, you will let your daughter introduce her to the risk of being sexually assaulted by her stepfather. The original intention is just to let you stay like a jade for your ex-husband after the divorce and become his eternal "mother-in-law" (and he can have three wives and four concubines).
They don't need evidence, they just need to play their imagination and bring a rhythm to encourage the public to think in the most unbearable direction, and then the mother is portrayed as a prodigal, selfish mother who "cares about her daughter's safety for her own happiness".
But what kind of person is Big S? Look at the pictures she used to be photographed by the media by chance, interacting with her children without makeup, her eyes are full of tenderness and love. How could she be so incompetent as not to recognize such a risk?
Even if she doesn't realize it, when we openly accuse others, do we need to talk about evidence, or is it better to remind them privately?
I really think Zhang Lan and Wang Xiaofei are too much, and the Filipino maids are too much. You can dislike a woman, but there's really no need to beat people in the direction of witches.
Wang Xiaofei let the two women get pregnant and miscarried on the premise that they didn't want to get pregnant anymore, and then, there were a bunch of women crying and shouting that they wanted to marry him, thinking he was pitiful, and scolded Big S and diss his female blogger for him......
This detail is so good that people are down, not to mention anything else.
I saw a man who was about to vomit, and a bunch of people were picking up treasures.
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The following Weibo makes me really emotional.
Big S said in the chat record with Wang Xiaofei: "I will move, it's too expensive here now." ”
Taiwan media also reported that she did not move for the time being, because most of her social relationships and emotions still need to be in her original place of residence to be better maintained.
A star who used to make a lot of money is now starting to think that housing is expensive.
Moreover, Big S's physical condition should be relatively poor.
Gu Junye said before that she was weak and couldn't walk much...... But she should be an extremely strong person, and she will not beg for mercy or show weakness to Wang Xiaofei.
She hadn't shown up before, and Xiao S's father-in-law showed up at the funeral, and her hair was gray, but because she didn't dress properly, she was bullied by the Internet, and Zhang Lan cospaly sold chest stickers.
Many people say that she is a person who "can't bear losses", but to tell the truth, people who really "can't suffer losses" can't stand Wang Xiaofei for so long......
Moreover, when his health is not good and he has had a miscarriage, he is still allowed to repeatedly skip wearing a condom (why Wang Xiaofei doesn't like to wear a condom, and later let Zhang Yingying miscarry).
In the future, the public only remembers that Da S hallucinates after eating illegal drugs, not letting his mother-in-law look at the children, letting his bald head eat soft rice, and being torn apart by his ex-husband......
She once rolled herself to death in order to maintain her figure and appearance, only slept a few hours a day for filming, and the jokes and works she starred in before were slowly covered by these "new memory points".
(The above is the Weibo I wrote before her divorce, but now, because of Wang Xiaofei, she has suffered cyberbullying that is seriously inconsistent with her alleged fault)
Zhang Lan said that she made young people afraid of marriage, but is this right?
What makes a woman afraid of marriage?
If a man is afraid of marriage because of Big S, then stop looking for a wife and be brave enough to remain single.
The more I think about it, the more I feel that this kind of public opinion environment makes people's backs chill.
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In real life, when we interact with others, we always have to be subtle and not so direct to express our values.
But on the Internet, when commenting on celebrity gossip incidents, I think everyone can expose the concepts they insist on and advocate in their bones.
This makes it seem that people in different camps have a fierce conflict of values.
Actually, whether it's watching the gossip of Big S and Li Lianglei, I don't like women much.
The reason why I couldn't help but speak out was because I was shocked by this "misogynistic" on the Internet.
I am not supporting women, but I am rebelling against this public opinion environment of "wrong responsibility and unequal" (brainless blowing for men, low moral requirements: sensitive skin and high requirements for women).
Does vocalization work? I think it's still useful.
A lot of women are asking for decency from the whole patriarchal society when something like this happens. That is, it is men who destroy decency, but it is they who are responsible for maintaining decency.
One of the most common phenomena is: it is okay for men to cheat, commit domestic violence, and engage in this and that, and as soon as a woman shouts out, she will say that she "exalts her family ugliness", "can't handle things decently", "is stupid, and can't maximize her own interests".
They accuse you of exposing other people's privacy.
You just write an essay and talk about it, and they say that you have no evidence and frame.
In short, you are in a hurry, and you are not right.
For a long time, after women lose their rights, they can only swallow their anger.
Once you resist, you will be relentlessly suppressed and counterattacked.
Women's bloodiness has also been suppressed step by step by such an environment.
If I had encountered these things of Da S and Li Lianglei, my way of dealing with them might not have been like that, but I also know that under the premise of structural loss of power, seeking help from public opinion and the public may be the last way (celebrities are not comparable to ordinary people, but they can be used as a case reference).
I don't agree with them, but I understand them. Therefore, continuing to speak out is also a kind of psychological support for ordinary women.
The reason why "family ugliness is not publicized" can become a common saying is that the people who come out with "family ugliness" are often not women. If it was a woman, they would have been immersed in a pig cage in ancient times.
The entire public opinion environment is that the tolerance for the big evils is too high, and the tolerance for the small mistakes is too low. In essence, it is still "bullying the weak and fearing the hard", and people who can do "great evil" are definitely more frightening than those who only do small wrongs.
If a person kills someone, then as long as you can find evidence that the person who was killed has scolded the murderer, the battle of public opinion will be won, because there is a saying: a slap does not make a sound. Neither is a good bird.
Originally, one person's fault was 99.999%, and the other's fault was only 0.001, but in such a trouble, each person's guilt accounted for 50%.
Perfect!
Zhang Lan and Wang Xiaofei's mother and son know how to fight public opinion warfare, and the biggest supporters of this set of theories are because I think this mother and son are very excessive, so they ran out to scold me.
Frankly speaking, I don't like Big S, she is sometimes aggressive, but she doesn't have anything out of place in this matter.
A female star who once had a relatively high social status has been hunted by these people, and the situation of ordinary women in marriage can be imagined.
But I speak for you, and my price is to be hunted.
Many people still haven't figured out the point, looking at my recent speech, it is to give me a simple and crude summary: stand for the big S, whitewash the big S, and think the big S is perfect.
What I am disgusted with and resist is the trend of public opinion that "the woman in this gossip is the slightest bit wrong, so she will be molded into the line of an evil witch, and the man is so wrong that he can still be widely sympathized with and distressed".
In other words, you're taking sides, you're hunting witches, and I'm criticizing you for taking sides and participating in the hunt.
So, forget it, let's keep the world like this.
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Author: Yan Lingyang, born in the 80s, emotional columnist, author of new feminism, member of the Chinese Writers Association. He is the author of the best-selling books "Those That Make You Miserable, One Day You Will Say It with a Smile", "May You Let Go of the Past and Be Worthy of the Future", "May You Have a Journey and a Way Out", "I'm Divorced", "With Your Rivers and Lakes Are Not Lonely - An Alternative Interpretation of Jin Yong's Martial Arts Novels" and the children's picture book "Mom's House, Dad's House". With 13 years of experience in financial industry (management), he is currently the founder of a cultural information consulting company in Guangzhou and the co-founder of a cultural media company. Born in Lijiang, Yunnan Province, he now lives in Guangzhou.
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