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People who have a strong sense of inferiority
I saw a message from a boy.
His mother has been single for 22 years, and he has lived in inferiority since he was a child.
He felt that he was ordinary and worthless;
The family conditions are very ordinary, and you have to apply for financial aid to study in college, and the living expenses are only 800 per month;
His academic performance is average, and his inferiority complex has made him live in "silence" since he was a child.
He doesn't dare to talk to people, he cares a lot about other people's eyes, and he always feels that the people around him are looking at him with "strange eyes".
In the eyes of the opposite sex, it is the one that has no sense of existence;
At every class reunion, he is the one who sits in the corner, eats silently and does not speak.
4 years of college, after graduation, there are still classmates who don't know his name, and he is such a person with a very low sense of existence.
In the face of feelings, he often envies his roommates who started falling in love in college;
He is the only one who envies the sweet love of others, and at the same time desperately goes out to work part-time during the holidays, just so that he can pay off the bursary as soon as possible after graduation.
Falling in love is a luxury for him, at least until he has a certain income, he never dares to fantasize about love and marriage.
People with low self-esteem have a thorn in their hearts;
This thorn will ache faintly at some points in his life, always awakening his subconscious inferiority.
Like what:
Whenever someone of the opposite sex takes the initiative to approach him, he falls into the predicament of self-denial:
"I'm so bad, how can anyone like me?"
Ordinary and ordinary people with low self-esteem never think of discovering the advantages in themselves;
It's just self-deprecation and self-denial.
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Avoidant Dependency
Typical characteristics of this type of person:
When the opposite sex takes the initiative, he retreats;
The closer the opposite sex gets to him, the more he wants to run away.
In intimate relationships, he feels full of pressure, and the whole person is in a tense state.
Whenever someone approaches and intrudes into his life, he does not feel happy, but falls into anxiety or fear.
You especially need space to be alone and not disturbed by anyone;
When others treat him a little kinder, his knee-jerk reaction is not gratitude, but fear.
On the one hand, I am anxious about my character, and on the other hand, I can't change this predicament.
People with avoidant attachment are screwed and internally screwed up;
Unless you have a lot of perseverance and patience with this kind of person, it will take a long time to influence him with love.
Otherwise, you will only be influenced by him and hurt by him.
For example:
When it comes to business relationships, it's always you who take the initiative;
You take the initiative to send messages, take the initiative to be nice to him, take the initiative to find topics, every day;
If you take the initiative, he may not give you a response;
If you don't take the initiative, he will definitely not take the initiative to look for you.
Are you tired or not?
-03
People who are "hot in three minutes".
This type of person's view of love:
"Intermittent desire to be in love, continuous sexual enjoyment of singleness".
When I am free, I will envy the sweet love of the people around me;
Most of the time, his life is filled with work and social pressures.
I have time to rest, I just want to stay at home and lie down, and I don't want to do anything.
The state of life is very monotonous:
Work, life, go out grocery shopping, occasionally go shopping, occasionally eat and chat with friends.
If the friends around you are in love and married, then TA will become a loner again.
Most of his energy is spent on work and life;
When it comes to feelings, he is three minutes hot.
At the thought of having to deal with so many troubles in his relationship, he retreated;
The desire to fall in love that had just burned was also extinguished by his anxiety.
When you have an idea, you don't have time;
When there is desire, it is powerless;
Sometimes, I don't want to.
The state of the whole person is very contradictory.
Topic:
Why are people close to you single?
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