At a class reunion, when the students talked about the experience of raising a baby, a mother described the days with her eldest son as follows: "Every day is terrifying. "You know what? Many mothers think that little boys are born little adventurers, and they rush wherever they are high and dangerous. For example, they like a group of people to climb trees in the small garden downstairs, and they also learn to jump between trees in the "Batman" on TV, which is really too much of a headache for parents.
Truth be told, most little boys are like that. Even if they have fallen and been beaten because of climbing, they still enjoy the feeling of adventure. They also like to wreak havoc and make a mess of their home, but they don't feel at fault at all. They often fight, bully, and finally have to be dealt with by their parents, who either take him to the hospital or someone else. Faced with such a child, parents really don't know what to do.
I have a friend whose son is very adventurous. Once, he was playing with his friends in a tree several meters high and fell down and broke his lower leg. During the period of recuperation, the child still couldn't stay idle, dragging his injured leg and playing with friends. The doctors told him to rest more, but as soon as his mother went to work, he secretly ran out to play again. For his sake, the mother even quit her job, but he still found an opportunity to sneak out, which really gave her a headache.
So why is this happening? Boys and girls are children, so why are boys so difficult to manage? Actually, it has to do with the hormone testosterone in boys, which is a reflection of their masculine characteristics. From a very young age, boys have a lot more testosterone in their bodies than girls, and they need to take risks to release their energy.
Many child psychology experts also agree that boys are adventurous, competitive, like to fight, boast, etc., which have a lot to do with testosterone. So, it is true that it is not easy for boys to educate than for girls.
So, how do parents educate this kind of adventurous boy? First of all, you have to understand the difference between boys and girls. Knowing this, you will be able to understand your son better and educate him more purposefully.
The advice we recommend to parents is:
Method: Understand and embrace the adventurous nature of boys
When parents get together to chat, it is common to discuss which child is more obedient and well-behaved. For young parents, obedient, well-behaved children are often seen as good children. As a result, they often expect their children to be compliant and try to restrain their behavior.
However, we have to understand that it is not a bad thing that boys are adventurous, it actually has a lot of positive meanings. Did you know that human progress and development are often born out of curiosity and the spirit of exploration. A boy who is full of curiosity will be driven by curiosity to constantly explore, research, and even create something new. You see, many of the world's successful scientists, inventors and machine builders all have one thing in common, and that is a strong sense of curiosity.
Boys are adventurous and curious, and they need a lot of space and freedom to move around. They release energy from their bodies through exercise and climbing, and promote the development of their brains. So, don't stop your son when he's disassembling toys or trying to fix small appliances in the house. You should let him play freely while keeping him safe, believing that he has the ability to explore and learn. Risk-taking is actually a very valuable quality. As long as we are good at guiding, we can help boys create a more meaningful life.
Here's a very smart mom who treats her son's risk-taking behavior like this:
5-year-old Maomao is very interested in the floor fan at home. One day, curiously, he reached for the blades of the fan to see why it was turning. Luckily, Mom caught out about his behavior in time. However, instead of harshly stopping Maomao, she gently walked up to him and asked him what he was playing. Then, she told Mao Mao how the fan worked and asked him to experiment with it himself and feel the power of the fan. After listening to her mother's explanation, Mao Mao said that she would never touch the fan again.
This mom is doing a very good job. Instead of simply stopping Maomao's behavior, she satisfies his curiosity and allows him to experience and learn for himself. In this way, Mao Mao not only increased her knowledge, but also learned how to explore the world safely. So, parents, don't rush to stop your children when they show adventurous spirit. Try to understand their curiosity and desire to explore, and give them some free space and opportunities to learn through exploration and grow through adventure.
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