@盐城心理医生张怀礼
Anxiety, depression, confusion is a common problem in adolescent children, but also a common problem encountered in psychological clinics, if a child is confused about the "meaning of life", "the meaning of life" and other issues, the motivation for development, the direction of life efforts will be problematic, the probability of anxiety and depression will increase significantly, need to attract the attention of parents.
When children ask their parents questions such as "the meaning of life", some parents don't know how to answer, either talking about it left and right, or according to their own experience, they output a lot of life philosophy, which not only fails to relieve the child's confusion, but may make the child more confused, and the feeling of loss and disappointment arises spontaneously.
Everyone's "meaning of life" is different, and with the development process of life and the change of the growth environment, the answer to this question is also dynamic, in different stages of development of life, everyone has their same or different mission, so how to deal with the question raised by children?
"What is the meaning of living" is an empty and abstract question, and directly cutting into this question often leads to abstract conclusions, which have limited positive impact on patients. He has been engaged in mental and psychological disorders, psychological counseling and treatment for more than 30 years, and has encountered this problem many times.
A child feels that there is no meaning in living, it is the child's current feelings and cognition, and behind the formation of this problem, it is more about the process of growing up, the experience of life, and the feelings of experience. These things experienced make the child slowly form a cognitive deviation, fail to obtain positive value and meaning from these experiences, and accumulate over time to form the idea that life has no meaning, and after forming this negative thought, it will continue to gather and filter the arguments corresponding to the negative cognition in later life events.
Later, when I encountered similar problems again, I changed my counseling strategy, no longer discussing this issue directly with my child, but turned to my child's growth experience and experience events, and in the process of sharing events and experiences with my children, I guided my children to discover, to amplify the sense of value, existence, gain, and satisfaction in the experience of events, and then led the children to jump out of the event itself, re-examine the blows and setbacks experienced from a higher level, understand, Empathize with the child's pain and sorrow, and then transform the negative event to help the child extract positive meaning from it.
On the basis of the child's identification with the parents or psychological counselors, it is possible to accept the life values output by others, and the child feels the meaning and value of the growth events in the life process, and is willing to invest more enthusiasm and energy for them. All in all, people live in a specific situation, starting from the background, putting themselves in their shoes, replacing their identity, empathizing with their body and mind, integrating body and mind, positive perspective, and discovering advantages, which will guide children to experience and feel life, in order to help children discover the positive meaning of life, we are just a companion and leader on the road of children's growth.
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