Some netizens commented: "Highly educated intellectuals are never superstitious, but when they reach middle age, they feel more and more that they have to obey fate in life! Where to work, career development, who to marry, and what kind of life they will live after marriage are all destined! I can't change myself, and my fate is very magical, so I can't accept it!"
Why do people become more and more fatalistic as they reach middle age, and it seems that you are choosing, but in fact they are all destined? As people grow older, they experience more ups and downs and changes in life, including success and failure, health and illness, reunion and parting, and so on. These experiences may make people feel that life is impermanent and uncontrollable, and they may be more inclined to believe in fate or fate. Especially when faced with some dilemmas that cannot be explained or changed, fatalism can become a psychological comfort that helps people accept reality and reduce their psychological burden. At the same time, the increase of age, cognitive ability and thinking mode change, people are more inclined to look at life from a holistic, macro perspective, and it is easier to see the connections and laws between things. This way of thinking may make it easier for people to believe in the existence of fate or fate, and that everything has its own internal logic and laws.
Fate is the most unpredictable, many seemingly accidental things, but in essence there is a great inevitability, why did you choose this major in the first place, why did you stay in a certain city, in fact, many things in the dark, have long been decided, but at that time, you were not aware of it. Many times we don't believe in fate, and as a result, we go around and around, and go back to the original place, many things are like this, it's okay to not accept it, but the beating of society will eventually make you obey. But believing in fate does not mean lying flat, believing in fate just makes you understand that many things can never be solved by manpower, and for these that cannot be solved, you can do your best to do it.
The so-called destiny is determined by our own IQ, the social environment we experience, and the various choices we make. Someone said, "It is the big and small choices we make that determine who we become and what kind of life we live in this life." "Life is made up of choices one by one, and the results of choices flow into a small river of a person's destiny through the precipitation of time. In this process, we have to take the initiative to choose, only by making our own choices, we are willing to take the initiative to take responsibility for the results after the choice, and will not complain after failure, self-pity; choose the original intention, that is, before the choice, ask yourself what your heart yearns for, ask yourself what is the meaning of doing something, ask yourself what you really care about; choose kindness, choose those universal and sustainable actions; choose growth, let us continue to grow in this process, constantly improve and improve our skills, cognition and thinking logic, so that we can get out of the trough and confusion period of lifeto get rid of inner restlessness and anxiety.
On the road of life, whether to turn left or right, whether to move forward or backward, it is all up to us, and what we have to do is to achieve a unique life through the choices that are worthy of our hearts. This may be what I think of as fatalism, constantly cultivating one's body, mind and ability, accumulating one's own experience, and grasping it firmly when the opportunity comes.