During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parents exploded

I saw something on the Internet that many parents may have encountered.

A mother, seeing the explosion in the kindergarten parent group, the parents kept arguing.

Intrigued, she found that it was the teacher who had taken a few photos of the children during their lunch break. There was a girl who was sleeping quietly, but the quilt was kicked to the side.

Seeing this, the little boy next to her intimately helped her cover the quilt. This small warm scene caused an uproar in the parent group.

Some parents began to question, saying that this arrangement of boys and girls sleeping together is really good, and will it affect the healthy growth of children?

Some parents are concerned that the children's toilets are shared and not separated. Does this violate privacy, does it have a bad impact on children?

Of course, there are also parents who think that their children are only a few years old, what do they know?

Although it is a small matter, the debate among parents is actually about how to educate children about gender awareness.

What is the matter with children's gender consciousness? Should kindergarten children be so clearly divided in terms of gender?

One: Kindergarten children's gender awareness

When my niece was 3 years old, she began to notice that she and her brother looked a little different in the bath. Curious, she asked her mother, "Why am I different from my brother?"

Noticing that boys and girls are different is actually the beginning of gender consciousness.

Moreover, children will consciously imitate adults of the same gender.

For example, a boy might imitate his dad to fix a car, while a girl wears mom's high heels. These are the behaviors that children do by observing and learning about gender roles.

At this stage, their gender consciousness is mainly formed through "imitation games".

If we are to help children develop a healthy sense of gender, we need to provide diverse role models.

For example, don't instill in your children that "girls can only be full-time mothers when they grow up and do housework at home" or "boys grow up to earn money to support their families" and so on.

This can create stereotypes for children and limit their diverse development.

We can tell them stories about female scientists, male nurses, female firefighters, male teachers, etc. This can help help your child get out of the way and not be able to take a path ahead.

Children can also be encouraged to play inclusive games.

For example, girls can play with toy cars, and they can build electronic devices and build buildings with building blocks. Boys can also take care of dolls and play house.

Children are encouraged to participate in a variety of role-playing games so that they can explore different roles and gain a broader understanding of gender.

Two: gender separation

When my daughter was in kindergarten, all the children in the class took a nap in one room. She was often reluctant to take off her coat to sleep because she was embarrassed to think that there were boys in the room.

Between the ages of 3 and 6, children begin to become more aware of their own and others' private space.

They come to feel that in some cases, boys and girls may need a little distance in order to feel comfortable and safe.

That's why many children don't want to urinate on the side of the road, but instead find a hidden place. There are also many children who don't want children of the opposite sex to see it when they change their clothes and feel embarrassed.

Therefore, for children in kindergarten, appropriate gender separation is still needed.

It's not just about protecting your child's privacy, it's about allowing them to learn and grow in an environment where they feel comfortable.

For example, separate toilets can help children learn personal hygiene habits more comfortably, and it is also a good opportunity to teach them to respect the privacy of others.

However, the key is how to balance.

We also can't overemphasize gender differences, which can lead to stereotypes in children.

In my daughter's parent group, I often see a lot of parents who are particularly concerned about their children's sense of distance.

For example, when a teacher plays a game with a child, some parents will say, "Why is my daughter holding the boy's hand?" or ask the teacher, "Why is my daughter hugging the boy?"

This excessive gender separation can make children confused: "Why can girls only play with girls, and boys can only play with boys?"

This is not conducive to the growth of children.

As long as children can maintain certain boundaries and do not cross the line on gender when playing together, it is okay to hug, hold hands, and play around.

So, gender separation can help children learn to respect and understand differences while feeling comfortable and safe.

But we are not too rigid, let children find differences in the same gender and different genders, and at the same time love themselves.

Kindergarten lunch break "mixed sleeping", do you agree?

[The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted]