Xiao: Three marriages, adventures in the life of the Three Kingdoms
I, Xiao, have entered the stage of my life at the age of 40. My three marriages have allowed me to experience a unique life trajectory across three countries, and each marriage has been a part of my growth and understanding of myself.
First Marriage: The Impulsive Love of a Taiwanese Big Boy
When I was 30 years old, a young Taiwanese boy began to pursue me. Out of impulse, I chose to marry him, however, the marriage became unbearable in a short period of time. Personality incompatibility became the fuse of separation, and after the divorce, I did not lose the courage to get married.
Exotic Love: The joys and sorrows of an American exotic
Later, an American client broke into my life, and we fell in love and got married. However, the epidemic caused us to fall into a long-distance relationship that lasted for several years, and the relationship gradually drifted apart, and finally chose a rational breakup. This experience taught me to cherish the present moment and not be bothered by the unknown future.
Remarriage: A romantic encounter with an Italian husband who is 16 years older
At the end of my marriage in the United States, I met an Italian gentleman who was 16 years older than me online. Our encounters are full of coincidences, and our shared experiences become the bond of our mutual attraction. Even though we don't have a bride price, a property, or even a lavish wedding, we believe that happiness doesn't depend on material things.
Life trajectory: from Shandong to Singapore to Shenzhen
I was born in Shandong Province and grew up with family changes that affected my studies, but I started an international life by studying English in Singapore. My backpacker career and trips to Yunnan have enriched my experience and shaped my unique personality.
Study in Singapore: A career from accounting to Japanese
In 2005, I embarked on a study abroad trip to Singapore to study accounting. However, my lack of interest in mathematics, physics and chemistry made me uneventful academically. In 2009, I decided to switch to studying Japanese, a decision that changed the trajectory of my career. Helping Japanese students improve their spoken English became a new starting point for my career, and I found new business opportunities in it.
Emotional ups and downs: from Singapore to Qingdao to Shanghai
At the end of 2013, I returned to Qingdao to find a suitable partner. However, I couldn't find a job and lost my relationship, so I decided to go to Shanghai to improve my Japanese. At a Japanese language school in Shanghai, I met my first husband, a Taiwanese. Although my marriage ended in divorce, I found a career in the field of intermediary and teaching Chinese as a foreign language.
Exotic Love: An American engineer's love run
In 2018, I met my second husband, an American engineer. We quickly fell in love, only to be forced to live apart for three or four years due to the pandemic. The trials of this time made us finally choose to part ways. In this process, I have learned more about the difficulties of life, and I have also learned to cherish the happiness in front of me more.
Remarried life: a happy life with an Italian husband
After divorcing my ex-husband in the United States, I met my current husband online, an Italian who is 16 years older than me. Our encounters are so ingenious, and our experiences are so similar. Although we didn't have a gorgeous wedding, we got our marriage certificate in Shandong in September 2023 and started a new life.
Happy Marriage: Opening a New Chapter in Shenzhen
Our marriage didn't have a property, a car, and no ostentatious weddings. Although there are some voices of skepticism and concern, we don't care about it. We are in harmony and every trip is a great memory. In Dubai, I met my Italian husband's mother and we got along very well.
Future outlook: a unique attitude to meet the unknown
I'm not overly anxious about the future. We are all open-minded about having children, financial arrangements, etc. In our opinion, life is our own, and happiness is the best choice. I plan to consider fertility in a year or two, and I will also explore new career directions.
Life insight: the pursuit of true and happy diversified life
Through the experience of three marriages, I know that life cannot be bound by a fixed pattern, and everyone has a unique trajectory. Marriage is not the only criterion of success and failure, but an attempt in life. I hope that by sharing my story, I can encourage more people to dare to pursue their own happiness and not be bound by the established values of society. A diverse life is the source of true happiness. **