Text/Farewell to the Old Time (Material/Chen Xiaofeng)
After my brother was transferred to the army, he was an official in the county seat, and after my mother's funeral this time, I broke off with him
I joined the army in 1990 and have been in the army for many years, and in 2008, he transferred to the army as a deputy regiment commander and arranged to work in the judicial department of our county, and now he is a cadre.
A few days ago, my younger brother wrote an article (click on the blue text above to read), and a colleague also recommended it to me, after reading the content, I think he wrote too biasedly, but I didn't take it seriously, because I felt that justice was in the hearts of the people, but when I returned to my hometown during the Spring Festival, the attitude of the villagers towards me changed greatly, saying that I was a person who didn't know how to be grateful.
My brother used to be very good to me, I know, but the human heart is endless, I found that in this world, many people are like this, you are a thousand good to him, ten thousand good, as long as there is a place where the other party is not satisfied, he can erase all your good deeds to him in the past.
Here, too, I would like to tell a story about my family.
My younger brother has told me many times how he helped me during my study days, and I do not deny it at all, but in fact, after I was in the army, the state was responsible for food and clothing, and there was no longer any money for my brother to pay for me, and there was only the problem of taking care of my parents between me and him.
At that time, although my father's body was not as strong as in the past, he was definitely not able to do anything in the countryside, in addition to being able to take care of himself, he could also do some light work, and my mother's health was healthy at that time. At that time, the younger brother was not married, the family did not have any major expenses, and there seemed to be no phenomenon of taking care of his parents in the countryside, the only problem was the cost of treatment, but the cost of medical treatment was also very small.
Later, my father died of a cerebral hemorrhage, as an elder brother, I should bear the corresponding expenses, but at that time, because I talked about my girlfriend, I had no money at all, but later, I was a clear and a dark one, supporting my younger brother, I was in the army, as a child from the countryside, everything was on my own, in those years, I took on a lot of pressure, but in order not to worry my parents, I reported good news and not bad news, and I didn't tell my family.
In 2008, I changed jobs, and my brother thought I was getting rich. At that time, there will be a certain amount of resettlement fee for changing jobs, but first of all, it depends on where you changed jobs, and it also depends on whether you choose to work or not, especially the year of the transfer, that year, my deputy regiment transferred back and enjoyed the treatment of the deputy department, which is equivalent to general cadres, plus buying a house, relocating a new home, buying a car, etc., everything started from scratch, and the family's savings were also spent, so I changed to a bigger house later.
To tell you the truth, my wife is from the city, a little "eldest lady" temper, but she is still okay with her parents on the surface, although she rarely goes to the countryside, but every New Year's holiday, she will give her parents some pocket money, not as unkind as my brother said.
Before I was a leader in the county, the relationship with the family has always been quite good, back then, my younger brother went to the unit to look for me, dressed very dirty, I think he should dress neatly and neatly, and everyone wants face. Later, he brought some neighbors to ask me to help, to be honest, over the years, as long as it was a violation, I would directly refuse, because I had my own bottom line.
After my mother died, I was separated from my brother's gift money, and I felt like I had done nothing wrong.
In rural areas, gifts are generally not too high, and the majority of neighbors give one or two hundred, and a few close relatives are also within 1,000. After my mother's funeral, my brother settled the account, and I gave my brother 16,000 yuan at that time, in fact, at that time, he deserved only eight or nine thousand, and I had a clear account of what I shared.
Later, I got 170,000 yuan, and my brother and sister-in-law felt uncomfortable, and my brother-in-law once said to others that we have paid so much for the family, and we should share it equally.
Seriously, I am a place where I took my family to change jobs after marriage, and over the years, I have given out more than 200,000 gifts, and my mother has passed away, which is also a way for me to find the gift money I sent out, but I am also a person who sticks to the red line, and I will not ask for any money that does not belong to me, and some people say that I used my mother's death to make money, which is all nonsense.
No one knows the hardships of my working alone, when my brother was in the third year of junior high school, he chose to drop out of school to help his family, I have always been grateful, so many years, before and after I helped my brother with money, to say less there are hundreds of thousands, when his son was in college, I gave more than 30,000 in four years, but he was not satisfied, always felt that I owed him.
I didn't get admitted to university that year, but I later gave up repeating my studies and went to join the army, also to reduce the burden on my family, and I didn't want my younger brother to be too tired.
Later, I started from scratch and did not rely on my family to gain a foothold in the city. The suffering can only be understood by those who have experienced it.
In my brother's article, he talked about his brother's weakness (not fulfilling his responsibility to support his parents) and his sister-in-law's indifference (not treating my husband and relatives as family), I don't want to explain too much, just be a man and have a clear conscience.
What I want to say is that my younger brother is a hardworking person, and we have a deep relationship with each other, but because of the mixing of my brother and sister, the relationship ended up in a mess, and finally after my mother's funeral, he and I broke up and parted ways.
But no matter what, I still wish my brother's life to be better and better, and here, I also want to say to my brother: peace in the heart is the life of the flesh, and jealousy is the rot in the bones. At the same time, we should also have a contented heart, no matter how life treats us, whether bitter or sweet, we must be grateful, thank friends, thank family, and thank everyone in life, who constitute our lifelong emotions and beautiful memories.
At the same time, I also told myself that no matter how hot and cold the world is or how sinister the world is, we must have good intentions, especially between relatives.