In the past, the elderly often said that a happy family is like a beehive, full of sweetness and happiness. After the age of fifty, I have seen a lot, and I understand this truth, and I observe that the families around me who are rich and not short of money have three characteristics. Everyone's tasting.
One, speak well.
A family where the husband and wife can talk well and do not quarrel often is a blessing. As the saying goes, pitch can't be more than a wall. You look at the people in high power, which one has the loudest voice. If you always speak peacefully and delicately in a family, then harmony will arise, and wealth will look at you.
My boss is a man with an open heart, no matter what winds and waves he experiences outside, as long as he opens the door, he will be a smiling face. I don't take things from work home with me. He doesn't speak loudly, and when he talks to his wife, he speaks three times lower and speaks in a negotiable tone.
Every morning, the couple would get up early to drink tea together and talk about things together. And then to each his own thing. This is the harmonious family style.
Second, respect each other.
I found that the poorer the family, the more they care about their parents and sisters. Often neglect the most important relationship between husband and wife, and hurt the wife for the sake of parents and sisters. Such a family will not be rich because of mental incompleteness.
I know a boss whose parents have three sons, and he is the most prolific. His parents always asked him to help the two brothers. At first, she would do what her parents wanted. When he found out that his parents were not good to his wife, he decisively refused his parents' request and resolutely sided with his wife.
He said that my wife married me, no matter who could be bullied, and since he protected her, his parents have also begun to respect his wife. He will not let his wife be wronged at home, so he must respect his wife at least.
A man who knows how to respect his wife will have a smooth ride no matter what he does, so families where husband and wife respect each other instead of taking advantage of each other are wealthy.
Third, families who are good at resolving conflicts.
The family is the most prone to conflict, whether it is husband and wife, mother and son, father and son, these intimate relationships, once there is a conflict, it will not be resolved, and the dead knot will be written in the heart. This is not conducive to family unity.
My husband has a classmate, he has three sisters in the family, one sister is married, when he got married, his parents used 30,000 yuan to buy him a house, after three years, his younger brother is also going to get married, and his parents can't afford to buy a house, so they give his house to his younger brother. His brother picked the lock and moved into his house.
At this time, his wife quit and quarreled with him. He felt that his parents were difficult, so he used force to suppress his wife. But the two brothers lived in a house, and life was inconvenient, so his wife moved back to her parents' house and filed for divorce. And so he got divorced.
Now 57 years old, still single, no house, no car and no wife. If he would have resolved the conflict, he would not be miserable now.
After the age of fifty, I saw a lot of people, and I found that the best feng shui for a family is to be able to respect each other, speak well, have a harmonious family atmosphere, and have good fortune.
I am Sister Mi Li, a post-70s generation who loves to share, I like to share, remember to like and support to show encouragement. Thank you!