A friend of mine, who has been single for more than 30 years, has been on countless blind dates, and his past experience can only be summed up as miserable.
Either he doesn't look down on others, or others don't look down on him. And he also summed up the wise sayings of blind dates, don't entangle, don't bother.
The rhythm of the blind date is fast, you may be able to decide whether you can be together after meeting once or twice, plus the help of the matchmaker, if one party does not agree, it will be difficult for the relationship to continue, the main focus of the blind date is fast-paced, either live or die.
My friend saw that he was getting older and older, and he was panicked, and his family was urging, so he had no choice but to bite the bullet, so he went on a blind date almost every day for a month this year, and finally left 7 people of the opposite sex in WeChat.
Not to mention,As the subject said,Began a simple and rough way to maintain the relationship,Friends in line with the principle of becoming one,So carefully maintain the relationship between these 7 friends,Ask one of them out for dinner at every turn,No more than 3 meals per person,The rest depends on the other party's response。
But it's really the reason for the low charm of friends, 7 people of the opposite sex took turns to eat a few times, and a few had a reply, but there was no follow-up. I can't help it, my friends just say hello every day, chat, and maintain relationships.
Later, I simply used group messaging, making the blind date object a separate label, greeting and chatting every day.
Finally, the emperor lived up to his painstaking efforts, and a girl was finally moved and began to agree to the development of dating.
Although I don't know what the other party's specific thoughts are, I finally became one, and my friend said goodbye to his identity as a single person for many years and jumped out of a single dog.
The essence of blind date is for those who want to find a partner, but there is no suitable person around them to appear a way of making friends, the main fast, over the years I have indeed heard a lot of blind date bad experience, so that both sides are very unhappy, and even many people began to reject blind dates.
But as long as you understand the essence of blind date, you really don't have to be too repulsive. If you have strong social skills and have such a circle around you, then you will not meet the opposite sex through blind dates, and people of the opposite sex through blind dates have a purpose, that is, they want to get rid of singleness.
But it is often difficult to meet people who completely meet their own requirements, or or there are fewer people who do not meet their own requirements, such as appearance, personality, etc. But if you have your own standards, then you don't have to blindly go on a blind date, you can meet according to your own requirements, then the object that can be seen will be narrowed, and it will be more in line with your own standards.
After a blind date, many people may worry about settling down too quickly, what if the two people are not suitable, it will lead to embarrassment, so they don't want to settle down so quickly, so they want to see again.
Of course, there are many examples, that is, two people did not look at each other at the time, but they were together again afterwards, and there are many such examples, and the key is how to maintain a good relationship and show their value.
There are good and bad blind dates, the most important thing is to remember that the essence of blind dates is to choose each other, and the other party does not agree, so there is no need to lick it, just move on to the next one.