I feel like my child is isolated, what should I do?
Why doesn't my child come home and say who his favorite friend is in kindergarten, is he not a friend?
Whether the child has friends in the kindergarten, whether he will socialize, and whether he is isolated are all issues that parents are very concerned about.
If your child is isolated in kindergarten, there are things you can do to help your child get through the social difficulties.
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01Give your child an understanding and safe environment
Children are isolated, and it is indeed necessary to find out the problem, but instead of accusing the child of being introverted, timid, ignorant, etc., once such a negative label is applied, it will make the child develop in this direction, and it will be more troublesome to deal with it when the time comes.
What parents should do is to recognize and accept their child's sad feelings, feel his experience from the child's point of view, and at the same time, we must firmly let the child realize that Mom and Dad will definitely help you get out of the predicament.
The child will know that finally someone knows about my pain, and this pain can be spoken.
In addition, parents can also share with their children stories and feelings of being isolated in the past, and tell them that I am not going to be loved by everyone.
When educating children, it is necessary to increase children's sense of self-identity and security. It can better help children to "be themselves" as much as possible in the group.
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02Analyze the cause and self-adjust
After comforting your child, you can analyze the reasons for being isolated with your child and prescribe the right medicine.
For example, some children have the habit of complaining in order to make a good impression in front of their teachers. Often, when discovered, they are isolated by other children. Because in the eyes of the child, the act of suing is betrayal.
Some children are more self-conscious, and they want everyone to listen to them and let everyone let themselves.
Some children are very glassy, they will cry when they lose playing games, they will cry when toys are robbed, and they will cry when they can't find things.
Family parenting style and parental relationship have a great impact on children's personality traits and behaviors.
Overly doting and indifferent parenting may cause children to be easily anxious, have low self-confidence, have difficulty building relationships with peers, and fail to achieve self-worth and pursuits in a group.
Of course, there are various other reasons, which need to be carefully observed and understood by parents, and investigated one by one.
After parents learn the truth of the matter from their children, they also need to "secretly investigate" to confirm the authenticity of the incident, because some children will unintentionally exaggerate in the process of describing the matter.
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03Actively communicate with teachers
In kindergarten, the teacher should be the person who knows the child's situation best, and if there is an isolated incident, it is necessary to communicate with the teacher in time.
In the eyes of children, the teacher is the absolute authority, sometimes the teacher is more effective than the parent's words in one sentence, and the teacher's words are more effective than the parents' words.
We can ask the teacher to let the children recognize their children's strengths and strengths in the group, and help the children to gain recognition from other children.
Many children are happy to listen to their teachers, and purposeful guidance will also have a positive effect.
Of course, parents should also set an example for their children and maintain friendly relationships with relatives, friends, and neighbors.
Such good examples can help children increase their likelihood of friendships. Allowing isolated children to experience a sense of acceptance in such a network helps them rebuild their confidence and allows them to develop their social skills.