Today, I watched the video account and saw a video with a more touching interpretation: why do men habitually use cold violence.
I left a comment after that.
I know that he is very self-conscious, and he knows how to please himself, and he is more focused on his love than I am [today he said that he has been focusing on exploring and researching video numbers in the past few days]. Although I hope he can give me the response I want, because it will make me happy. But this is just what I think, for me, he doesn't have this obligation.
I can express my needs and feelings to him, but I don't plead. Because I don't put myself in a position where I need to be weak and need compassion. Emotionally, psychologically, we are equal. Even when we got married, we were still two separate individuals. At any time, first of all, you need to be responsible for your own life, do not rely on others, and can afford to let go.
(His love personality analysis is very apt)
You don't have the right to make any demands on others. If someone loves you, be grateful, but don't ask for anything because the other person is not obligated to love you. If someone loves you, it's a miracle. You have to be grateful for this miracle. —osho
Three thousand weak water, take only one scoop to drink. I just need my loved one to respond to me. Other people's enthusiasm is an interruption to me. I hope to keep it in a gentleman's friendship, light as water, and cool as water.
(My love personality analysis is very appropriate)
In the comment area, in the interaction with others, more people can feel that entering an intimate relationship is more based on fear than love.
Human behavior is driven by one of two emotions (fear or love) at the deepest level
All human thoughts and all human actions are either out of love or fear. There are only two kinds of human motives, and all other ideas are nothing more than derivatives of both. It's just that the forms are different – they are different reflections of the same theme.
From this, I thought of Lin Yufeng in "The Way of Heaven" because of his arrogance, he was set up by Ding Yuanying to kill the rich and help the poor, because he couldn't pass the face, and wanted to kill Ding Yuanying
Lin: Are you afraid of death?
Ding: It's not just the fear of death, but also the fear of birth, old age, sickness and death.
Lin: I don't think you're afraid of death
Ding: Birth, old age, sickness and death, did anyone hide because they were afraid?
Yes, love is definitely the game of the brave
How can you have love and refuse to hurt at the same time!
"Love is the game of the brave, but bravery is not the same as recklessness, if you want to manage a growth and healing love, after bravely stepping into love, you still need wisdom. We need to exclude Mr. Wrong to guard the bottom line and protect yourself;
We need to reflect on our own love script, jump out of the double standard, we need to jump out of the love model, return to the human being, and learn to let the two real and unique "selves" connect together to form "us".
Love means treating the other person as a human being, as a sentient being, as a free individual, as a being of equal value to you.
The essence of love is a gamble. The stakes are one's own time, energy and sincerity, and the cards are the love and performance of the other party. In the game of love, all the uncertain risks exist in your lover. Brave adventurers take to the table and make this gamble of love. Embracing uncertainty is the only way to truly solve uncertainty, and always hoping to choose something certain will close your heart.
Love is gradually felt and confirmed in the process of constant contact and relationship with each other, and each step requires courage, trust, and wisdom for two people to achieve a deeper connection. This process can be practiced over a lifetime, so there is no need for love to be efficient, it requires two people to experience each other's feelings and take the time to deepen the connection little by little. Time will make love stronger.
Only by challenging those uncontrollable emotions can we gain an important partner in life.
Wang Xiaobo: "I give you my whole soul, along with its quirks, petty tempers, flickering light and dark, 1,800 kinds of bad problems, it is really annoying, only one good, I love you." ”
It's beautiful, it's joyful.
Love is not a science, it is growth
In the ultimate analysis
Willing to take risks in intimate relationships,
It's the inner strength that comes from the individual!
Even if the other party still keeps their hearts closed, even if this trust is betrayed, we will not suffer any permanent harm and pain. ”
We don't necessarily have to be successful in life, but we must have the courage to afford to lose!
Life is so mysterious, when you have the confidence to afford to lose, you often can't lose!
Everything is an experience! Everything is here to help me grow! No matter how you look at it, you win!