It is estimated that many friends know a bad habit, that is, in some places, girls are not allowed to eat at the table, either in the kitchen, or when the man finishes eating, eat some leftovers or something, in short, men and women must be treated differently
As a result, a female Internet celebrity went to her mother-in-law's house for the first time during the Chinese New Year, and she encountered the treatment of not being able to eat at the table
I have always felt that it may be the case in some rural areas, but how can there be a similar situation in 2024, 10 years ago, I had an aunt's sister who found a husband in Rizhao, Shandong, because her first child gave birth to a daughter, so she was not allowed to eat on the table during the New Year, and the second child gave birth to a son before she was allowed to serve it
Of course, this matter should be seen as such, all men go out to socialize, so the guests are men, and men and women are awkward at a table, so it is also the men in the family who go to chat and eat with them, in fact, it is said that the men accompany the men to eat, but the men in their own family don't move chopsticks much, they only eat with the guests first, and now there are so many things
Therefore, before getting married, it is best to see clearly what the other party's family is like, and don't think that you can overcome all problems with love, some problems are simply unsolvable, just like a poor family is still a bunch of poor and exquisite
Some netizens also said that she had also encountered what happened to this girl
This is the kind of bad habit in some places, and so is my husband's grandmother, who obviously has a large table and a lot of vacant seats, but this old lady just refuses to eat at the table.
She had to eat the leftovers from the previous few days in the kitchen, and they were all finished, and her grandchildren were helping to collect them, so she had to tell them to rest, and then asked her daughters to clean up with her.
Eating a good meal is also, we all sit and drink tea and eat snacks and chat, there is air conditioning in the house, she will not pay more for air conditioning alone, she has to sit in the kitchen alone to do things, nothing to find things to do, anyway can not rest.
In the afternoon, everyone went to take a nap, she cleaned up, wiped the floor, obviously very sleepy but also hard, sometimes dozing off while wiping the floor, the waist was fractured, and she had to endure the pain to work. Her children were very filial, and they all told her to rest well and stop working, but they didn't listen, and they didn't go to bed until after eleven o'clock at night, and got up at five o'clock in the morning
I estimate that most people have personally experienced this custom when they returned to their hometown when they were children, and some people should have experienced it when they got married and returned to their parents' home
Of course, some places are more tolerant, and they didn't restrain me with this rule as a guest at the time, but I saw four or five older women from my relatives' family sitting by the stove with bowls and eating, and one of them was even a gray-haired grandmother, which was outrageous, and the most outrageous thing was that my relatives were very proud when they explained it to me, and it was disgusting
Some netizens also said that they also have similar customs, but we are women and children who have a separate table, and it is not leftovers, they are all fried twice at a time, and if there are too many, fill the table with a little bit for the male guests
If it were me, I would throw 2,000 yuan on the table and ask if it was enough to eat at the table?
If there are too many people to sit down, I will take the initiative not to sit at the table, after all, when I am young, I usually let guests and elders sit (regardless of gender), but under normal circumstances, there are places and families that do not allow women to serve the table, everyone should stay away
Although some places feel that women and children are on the table, taking care of the children while eating, the etiquette is not thoughtful, and the children are screaming, and the perception is not good
But now who still thinks that it is a burden for girls to eat on the side, no one is inferior to that meal, but many people's minds have not been corrected.