It has been said that in China, family affection is both the most reliable and the least reliable.
Because of the continuous blood relationship, relatives will naturally be much closer and warmer than others, and they will have to trust a lot.
However, it is precisely because of this bond that snobbery and reality are vividly embodied.
It's another year of Spring Festival, and I'm going to see the seven aunts and eight aunts who I haven't seen for a long time, and I don't want to see them, but also the care that has accumulated for a year, waiting for you, "Where do you work?", "What do you do?", "How much is the salary?"
finally looked forward to the Spring Festival holiday, and had to find a way to deal with the "care bombardment" of relatives.
Whenever this happens, you start to tremble, for fear that you will not say it right.
People who don't have a heart and eyes will often answer honestly, the salary is too much, thinking that you are showing off, and they will borrow money from you in the future, let's talk less, and it is easy to be looked down upon and think that you are unproductive.
This is a headache for everyone. Because once their answers fall short of the expectations of their relatives and friends, they may face doubts and sarcasm from those around them, and even affect their own emotions and moods.
In the past few days, I have faced such troubles, these days in a relative's house to bake the fire, a relative came up and said:
You have a salary of 70,000 or 80,000 a month in Sichuan.
I hurriedly waved my hand, where are there so many.
Then I asked, there are always fifty or sixty thousand.
I'm still shaking my head like a rattle,
Not so much.
Relatives continue to dig deeply,
There must be thirty or forty thousand.
Feeling the 8,000 oceans in my pocket, I can't wait to find a crack in the ground to get into, and I feel like I've been ridiculed.
I'll tell you the truth, it's only about 8,000.
In fact, a monthly salary of 8,000 is already very good for a person who has just come out of society. Who made them look down on me?
Unexpectedly, after hearing these words, my relatives stopped chatting with me, but went to chat with those who had higher salaries and better education than me.
Sure enough, the voice of the rich is loud, and the money is hidden.
Everyone is praising others for being powerful, praising others for their ability, everyone is climbing relationships, and everyone is licking others.
When it comes to the smoke link, it's even more outrageous, it's always my turn to be the last, and when I wait for me, I say why it's gone, and I obviously see that there are still others.
The most chilling thing is my brother-in-law, who is my mother's own cousin. I don't know why, when we were having dinner together last night, I greeted him, and he didn't answer me when he heard it, and my sister said yes, but they ignored me.
I thought I was thinking too much, but after I finished eating, I said to him again, uncle, you eat slowly, and he just glanced at me and didn't say anything. I was really embarrassed, and just a few days ago I found out that he had deleted my WeChat.
Yesterday at noon, I went to visit the richest relative of our family, it is my aunt's family, I have a house in Shanghai, mixed academic circle + business circle, and I have enough ability and resources.
Another relative in the family who is well-off (in Shanxi) also has to make at least one phone call to the rich family every week to care for them, not to mention when everyone gets together because of their grandmother during the Chinese New Year.
She has two children at home, Xiaohong and Xiaomo, Xiaohong is 12 years old and Xiaomo is 8 years old.
For our arrival the two children are ignorant, we get together for a reunion dinner, my cousin is not too enthusiastic, my parents gave their two children a big red envelope of 2000 each, but the two children took it directly and threw it on the table.
At the dinner table, my parents have been trying to find something to say, and several uncles are also looking for topics to talk to my aunt, which makes me feel very embarrassed.
Obviously, the elders are all grandmothers, and everyone is a direct blood relative, and there will be a deformed relationship of licking rich relatives and who doesn't lick is disrespecting that family.
During the meal, Xiaohong was obsessed with watching short videos on her mobile phone, and didn't pay attention to the existence of other people at all.
She just said hello to her grandparents in a hurry, and then turned her head to look at her phone, feeling very disrespectful to us.
I scoffed in my heart, but I also understood that in today's society, it may be better off to have relatives with such power, but I have not received any interest from maintaining these relationships over the years.
The whole family is licking rich relatives during the Chinese New Year, this world is really magical, and I feel too humble.
When I talk about this, I don't mean to kill all family affection with a stick.
In this world, of course, there are many relatives who treat them as their own. What I want to say is that good people and bad people are always there, and the same is true when placed in kinship.
When you have money and power, no matter how far away your relatives will revolve around you, if you don't have money and power, no matter how close your relatives are, they will not want to have more contact with you. In addition to "all for profit", what is even more terrifying is that once interests are involved, no matter how deep the feelings are, they will be distorted and deformed.
If you have money, no matter how far away your relatives are, they will smile and talk sweetly.
If you don't have money, the people around you will ridicule and ignore you.
can spend time complaining about the snobbery of relatives, hating the warmth and coldness of people, and chilling every day. It's better to improve yourself, make good money, make yourself better, and make your pockets rich.
When you succeed, most of your relatives greet you and treat you with respect. Those who avoid and sneer at you will surely be jealous and remorseful.
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