#我来唠家常#"Mom's fridge is full of pork, sausages, and chickens and ducks. At five o'clock this morning, she braved the rain to go to the vegetable market to buy chicken. No matter how much I tried to persuade me, I was about to be. ”
I received a call from my sister early this morning, and I could feel my sister's anxiety and depression through the screen.
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I hurriedly persuaded: "Sister, don't be angry. This is how my parents have spent the New Year for so many years. Old habits that have been formed over decades will be difficult to reverse for a while, so let them be. ”
My sister said in a hurried tone: "They also have to buy a large box of sugar oranges, saying that eating oranges in the New Year means auspicious." Sugar oranges are easy to spoil and can be bought casually in supermarkets. Why is it necessary to stock up on these fruits?"
I smiled and said, "Since Mom has the energy to toss, it means that she is in good health, and we should be happy." Since they bought it, you can help eat more. ”
My sister said helplessly: "There is no way, it can only be like this." ”
I asked my sister, "Look at how many times you've been angry about the same thing in a year." Does it work?"
My sister sighed and said, "Hey, it's really useless." ”
Takayama 罂粟
I suddenly thought of a question, how many times in a year did my sister get angry about her parents' hoarding?
If you take inventory, not every day, at least every week. Every time I am angry, in fact, the status quo will not change at all.
My sister lives upstairs from my parents, and they see each other often. Every time she sees her parents eating leftovers, she always gets angry and can't help but count them.
Shuluo's parents don't know how to arrange their lives, and they still don't know how much they want to eat at each meal after decades of cooking, and they eat leftovers every day.
In the summer, I buy dozens of eggs, and I don't put them in the refrigerator. Because there are so many things in the refrigerator, there is no room to stuff them.
My sister always said that it was fortunate that she didn't live with her parents, otherwise she would be angry every day.
My parents' habits are like this, they are always afraid of being hungry, and they overdo every meal, and they can't finish it.
Lantana
In my memory, my parents always made dozens or hundreds of catties of bacon sausages in the wax moon, and fried a large pot of crispy pork ribs before the Chinese New Year.
Meals cooked in Chinese New Year's Eve can be eaten for several days in a row. In some years, bacon sausages are not eaten until the Mid-Autumn Festival.
We complained that eating too much leftovers from wax products is not good and may cause cancer, and fresh meals are healthier.
But we've complained, and they've been living like that.
In July last year, my mother was hospitalized for a fracture due to a broken bone due to hoarding food, slippery and heavy objects on the rainy road.
It's only been a few months now, and the scar is healed again, and the pain is forgotten.
Takayama 罂粟
In fact, it is easy to convince others, and I myself made the same mistake.
During holidays, my daughter is used to going to bed late and waking up late, and breakfast and lunch are combined into one. I was often so angry with her that I got up from bed in the middle of the night and got angry, and she still went her own way despite my reasoning.
I was so angry with her at night that I couldn't sleep all night. But even so, I couldn't convince her.
Later, I finally understood that if a person's heart does not want to change, it is like a stubborn stone, and it is difficult to overturn it even if the east, west, north and south winds can overturn it.
It is now fashionable to say that changing oneself is a god, and changing others is a neurosis.
Even our parents or children can only be regarded as someone else. If that is the case, where is the need to be angry about something that cannot be changed?
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A year is about to pass, let's sort out and take stock of our emotions together.
Getting rid of the bad emotions and information hidden in our bodies as soon as possible can make room for our happy life.