Aunt Lin took the baby back to her grandfather's house and found a huge difference in perspective
That day, Aunt Lin held her baby who was only 3 months old and happily returned to her familiar grandfather's house as a guest. As soon as he entered the room, the lively and active baby couldn't wait to climb on the bed to play, rolling around on the soft and comfortable bed, very happy.
Aunt Lin looked at the cute baby dotingly and decided to hang a fluffy circle toy on the bedside frame, which she thought would make the baby happy. However, when Aunt Lin lay on the bed and looked at the toy shelf from the baby's perspective, she was surprised to find that the baby's vision was still very blurry, and she couldn't see the toys far away. At this moment, Aunt Lin suddenly realized that as a parent, she needs to always put herself in the baby's shoes and think about the problem.
Xiaolan's innocent behavior amused Aunt Lin
After some time, Aunt Lin's neighbor Xiaolan and her mother also came to visit her grandfather. As soon as the naughty Xiaolan entered the door, he ran to the bed excitedly and jumped around, using the soft big bed as his own small trampoline. Aunt Lin couldn't help but laugh when she looked at Xiaolan's lively and cute appearance.
Later, the two played a game of hide and seek, and Xiaolan hid herself behind a clump of decorative flowers and plants in the corner of the room, naively thinking that this would completely avoid Aunt Lin's sight, and then whispered, "Hide it!" When Aunt Lin heard this, she looked back and saw Xiaolan raising her hands above her head, bending over and squatting in the flowers, like a smart little flower.
This series of cute and innocent actions amused Aunt Lin again, and she finally realized how different the worldview of children and adults is.
Aunt Lin inspired: guide children to grow up with love
Aunt Lin lamented the huge cognitive difference between children and adults, which reminded her of an interesting incident that happened a month ago: at that time, Aunt Lin's children were in a sensitive period of fondness for graffiti, often scribbling on the wall, and his "artwork" was everywhere, which gave Aunt Lin a headache.
Later, a senior parenting expert gave her a clever idea, asked Aunt Lin to prepare a lot of paper and paintbrushes, and slowly taught the child to realize that walls are not the best choice for painting by encouraging him to draw on the paper. Aunt Lin suddenly realized that as a parent, you can't criticize your children because their thoughts and behaviors are unreasonable, but you need to guide your children step by step into the adult world with love and patience.
She is determined to put herself in the child's shoes to understand the child's thoughts and wrap the child's growth with warm love.
Bao Dad realizes that perspective creates age cognitive bias
Aunt Lin's husband, Bao Dad, had a similar experience. One day, Bao Dad enthusiastically pulled his 4-year-old daughter Bu Niu to a relaxed and interesting Q&A time.
Bao's father originally thought that his daughter would report a number close to her actual age, but unexpectedly, Bu Niu replied as a matter of course: "You are 60 years old, you are already very old!"
Hearing this answer, Bao's father instantly froze in place, he never thought that his 4-year-old daughter would think that he was already "ancient". Bao Dad suddenly realized that in the child's perception of time, 60 years old is indeed an unattainable number.
This big deviation actually stems from the difference in the perspective of father and daughter at different stages of life, as a parent, Bao Dad realizes that he cannot use adult standards to demand his children. This episode makes Bao Dad reflect on the need to put himself in the child's shoes and understand things.
Differences in perspectives inspire empathy in adults
This series of seemingly trivial experiences of Aunt Lin and Bao Dad inspired many of them to have the qualities that parents should have as life coaches.
They realize that as adults, they need to learn to understand problems from a child's point of view, and guide children to grow up healthy and happy with love and patience. Everyone we meet in life is actually a unique individual, all of whom are pursuing the sublimation of the soul, and they are all worthy of our understanding with empathy.
Aunt Lin and Bao Dad decided to put themselves in everyone's shoes in life, listen to everyone's unique voice, and embrace the world with a more open mind. They believe that as long as everyone can put themselves in the shoes of others, we can resolve misunderstandings and have a richer life experience.
Aunt Lin and Bao Dad's change of concept also inspired them to get along with their colleagues at work. In the face of everyone, we must learn to empathize and understand everyone's difficulties, rather than simply criticizing. Every employee in the team should be treated as a unique individual, and the team can only create miracles if the effect brings out the potential of everyone.
Adults should take responsibility for guiding and living out the quality of life
A healthy and progressive society requires every member to be tolerant, inclusive, and proactive. As the seniors of society, adults shoulder the heavy responsibility of guiding the younger generations. Children are born innocent and need to thrive under the care of adults.
As parents, we should guide our children with love and understanding, rather than simply imposing discipline.
Every whimsy of the child, every action that is different from common sense, is actually worth pondering. Perhaps, it is these differences that will enable our children to embark on a path of their own life in the future. Instead of giving children standard answers, we should encourage them to think independently and judge right and wrong.
At the same time, adults should also demonstrate empathy and life literacy at work. The team is like a big family, and each employee has their own difficulties and strives for improvement. We must learn to put ourselves in the shoes of our employees and resolve misunderstandings through listening and understanding.
Only when every individual is fully respected and understood, can the team work wonders.
By building empathy in every small way, our lives will become more fulfilling and beautiful. Let's draw positive strength from our children and transform the world with love and kindness.