In recent years, many parents have fallen into a kind of emotional whirlpool of "self-touching" in the process of raising their children. They put in great effort and sacrifice for their children, but they ignore the real feelings and needs of their children. This behavior has aroused strong disgust and dissatisfaction among netizens. Let's dive into this question and see what exactly is the reason behind it.
In today's society, we often see some parents sharing their various sacrifices and sacrifices for their children on social media. They give up their careers, time, and even hobbies for their children, just to give their children the best. However, is this self-motivated parenting really worthy of admiration?
We can't deny the love and dedication of parents to their children, but when this kind of giving becomes a pursuit of self-touching, it often has a negative impact. Children who grow up in this environment may feel a great deal of stress and guilt because they are unable to meet the rewards that their parents expect.
More worryingly, this self-motivated parenting style can lead to a rift in the parent-child relationship. Children may feel that they exist to meet their parents' expectations rather than being respected and loved as an individual. This misalignment of parent-child relationship can lead to various problems in the child's growth, such as lack of self-confidence, anxiety, depression, etc.
Many netizens said that they could not accept that their parents always emphasized their sacrifices and dedication, which would make them feel guilty and uneasy. They want their parents to treat them with equality and respect, rather than showing their greatness in a condescending manner.
So why are more and more parents caught up in the whirlpool of self-motivation? One of the important reasons is the influence of social values. In today's competitive society, many parents believe that only by providing their children with the best conditions and unlimited dedication can they ensure their children's success in the future. This kind of thinking leads parents to focus too much on their own efforts and sacrifices in the process of raising their children, and ignore the real feelings and needs of their children.
To change this, we need to rethink the parent-child relationship and the way we educate them. First of all, parents should be clear about one thing: the purpose of raising children is to make them grow into independent, confident, and responsible people, not to fulfill their own expectations and desires. Therefore, parents should respect their children's individuality and choices and encourage them to pursue their dreams instead of forcing them to follow the path they have planned.
Second, parents should learn to express their love and concern appropriately, rather than overemphasizing their own efforts and sacrifices. When parents can treat their children with equality and respect, and pay attention to their children's inner world and growth process, children will naturally feel the deep love and care of their parents. This parent-child relationship is more harmonious and healthy, and it is also more conducive to the growth and development of children.
In addition, society should also strengthen education and support for parents. By providing relevant education and training courses, we help parents understand how to raise their children scientifically and effectively, and avoid misunderstandings. At the same time, society should encourage parents and children to establish an equal and respectful relationship to grow and progress together.
In short, parents, please stop being moved by ourselves, let us treat our children with equality and respect, and pay attention to their inner world and growth process. Only in this way can we truly create a healthy and harmonious family environment for our children to thrive.
Netizens have expressed their approval and support for this, believing that this is the true way of love and education. Raising children is a process of mutual growth, let's work together to create a better future!