Sukhomlinsky once said: "When you 'marry in a hurry,' you are willing to risk becoming unfortunate." ”
Not every love can blossom and bear fruit, and not every marriage can be mixed with each other and grow old.
In the life after marriage, many couples are negligent in managing their feelings, resulting in weak feelings between each other, and the estrangement is getting deeper and deeper, and married life exists in name only.
In this kind of loveless marriage, we can only see that we can get by and get by. Some couples have no domestic violence or cheating, but their marriage is on the verge of collapse.
As the saying goes, "freezing three feet is not a day's cold", the broken relationship between husband and wife is not in the morning and night, but in the long years, it is consumed by daily trivial things little by little. The appearance of these 4 "signals" between husband and wife is all hard support, and the marriage has long been "dead in name"!
01
There is no intimate move
Many marriages, even after a long period of time, have become old husbands and wives with each other, but it is not surprising to hug each other once in a while. But if there is no intimate contact for a long time, or even eye contact, it means that there is no affection between two people.
Intimate things are the most natural to do with the person you love, on the contrary, with someone you don't love, you will only feel disgusting.
Isn't it a very incredible thing to be a husband and wife, but rarely even hold hands?
02
Nothing to say, reluctance to communicate
The occasional quarrel between husband and wife is very quarrelsome, sometimes making some jokes, and it can also increase the interest between two people, and the most feared thing is that after a few years of marriage, there is nothing to say.
If there is a lack of communication between husband and wife, two people are relatively silent every day, even if they are lying on the same bed, they are playing with their own mobile phones, and sometimes they would rather chat with strangers behind the screen than talk to the other half around them, this state is very scary.
It's like this relationship has already existed in name only in the hearts of two people, if two people have come to this point, it is better to separate as soon as possible, so it is not interesting to torture each other at all, if you still want to continue this relationship, you should take the initiative to change the status quo, otherwise sooner or later you will end up in a divorce.
03
Sleep separately for long periods of time
Perhaps many couples don't realize that their relationship problems actually start from sleeping separately.
As the saying goes, "Husband and wife sleep separately, they will die after a long time", although this sentence is exaggerated, it is by no means alarmist, and sleeping separately for a long time is definitely the most effective way to destroy the relationship between husband and wife.
Imagine, the couple are busy with work during the day, have little time to communicate, and have to sleep separately after returning home at night, there is no physical contact, there is no emotional communication, life is like neighbors under the same roof, how can the relationship between husband and wife be good?
Those couples who have slept apart for a long time will find it difficult to go back to the old days of sleeping together. For from the moment you part, the hearts are separated.
04
Every time there is a quarrel, it is said that divorce
Marriage has always been a serious matter, since you have decided to live a lifetime, you should not often put "divorce" on your lips, this is a taboo in marriage, not only will you distance yourself from each other, but the relationship will break down step by step.
When the word "divorce" is on the lips every day, it means that the fate between the husband and wife is exhausted, after all, couples who love each other, no matter how they quarrel, will not easily say divorce.
Therefore, if the husband and wife mention divorce every time they quarrel, although they are angry, but they say it too many times, there will always be the party who can't bear it first, and they will decide to let go if they are too tired.
05
Emotional message
Zhang Ailing once said: "If a man really understands you, he will not love you."
Husband and wife have experienced so much, and they know each other best, if they can protect that love, it is a responsibility and a responsibility.
The reason for the love in the world is inexplicable, including the love between husband and wife. Husbands and wives are united because of love, but on the road to marriage, many people walk and break up. If two people have no feelings, but they have not separated, consuming each other, such a marriage is also unfortunate.
May everyone have a good marriage, and may you all find the right person and stay with you for life.
(The picture has nothing to do with the content, the picture and text materials are taken from the Internet, all copyrights belong to the original author, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete) #冬日生活打卡季#